Is rebellion in children unacceptable? How many parents have made this mistake?

Who is a good parent if he educates the most obedient children? Smart parents are never afraid of their children being rebellious. Sometimes rebellion is a child’s cry for help. It is not wrong for children to be rebellious, it is a necessary stage of growth. Ye Zi\’s daughter Duoduo has just entered junior high school this year. She usually lives in school and goes home once a week. Ye Zi waited happily for her daughter to come home and asked her questions. However, her daughter was obviously a little impatient and just cooperated by humming or simply pretending not to hear. Ye Zi\’s enthusiasm slowly disappeared. She wanted to confront Duoduo no matter what she said. She felt that Duoduo was becoming more and more disobedient. Ye Zi felt a little uncomfortable and complained bitterly to her husband. Unexpectedly, her husband laughed: \”There is no need to feel sad about this. Isn\’t this normal? What child doesn\’t have a rebellious period!\” Indeed, as children grow older, their bodies and minds undergo changes. Huge changes. Rebellion is a seed planted in a child\’s heart. It is ready to stir deep in the child\’s heart. Just like a butterfly emerging from a cocoon, the child will inevitably go through this stage of rebellion before he can gather strength and move toward the future through struggle. . Of course, although children\’s rebellion is a necessary stage for physical and psychological development, we as parents cannot allow our children to continue to be rebellious like this. However, parents who regard their children\’s rebellion as a big mistake will only make their children more and more insecure and arouse more negative emotions in their children. There is no need to talk about \”rebellious\” color. The warm touch of parents can heal the barbs in children\’s hearts. Children who are rebellious and disobedient are a reaction against family education. I know a friend who was rebellious and difficult to control when he was young. He frequently had problems such as skipping classes and falling in love early. He dropped out of school early and entered the society, experiencing all kinds of hardships. Occasionally, he joked about being young and frivolous, but I knew that he was always immersed in regret. He once cried bitterly after drinking: \”My whole life has been ruined by my father…\” It turned out that his friend\’s father believed that \”blows make people improve\” and would never praise him, even if he worked hard and got first place in the exam. His father would only say a few words to him, and there were many people better than him. \”I just want to get his approval, but he will only think that I am worthless.\” Even my parents think that I am bad, so I might as well be a bad boy. In the end, my friends will exile me on the road of rebellion, and my parents will no longer be able to take him Pull back. I\’ve heard many parents complain that their children are rebellious, disobedient, and \”just infuriating.\” However, if your child is rebellious, do you really not have to take responsibility? Some people say that there is nothing wrong with the children, only the parents. Although it is a bit extreme, it is also somewhat true. A child is originally like a piece of rough jade. When the carving knife is held in the hands of the parents, most parents forget the original intention and just want to polish the child into the look they like. However, you forgot that you were holding a knife. If your family education makes your children feel painful, they are likely to respond to the pain you give them with rebellion. In \”Silent Confession\”, Lydia\’s parents never knew that their daughter didn\’t like living things, and she had no friends. In the end, Lydia chose to self-destruct under her parents\’ \”sweet\” education. The real purpose of education is to make children happy, and once there is a deviation in family education, the most painful thing is often the child. In the final analysis, rebellious behavior is nothing more than the child\’s self-protection and a helpless counterattack against the parents\’ educational methods. Real education is not about letting children listenChildren are little angels who have landed in the world of their parents. We love them selflessly with a pious heart, but sometimes we are driven crazy by the child\’s rebelliousness and disobedience and are at a loss. , the parent-child relationship becomes tense if you are not careful. If you want your children to understand your hard work and be obedient and not rebellious, what you need most is the patience and normalcy of your parents. Many times when we find that our children are rebellious, we become highly nervous and even think about resorting to violence to solve the problem, but forget to reflect on ourselves. You might as well calm down and think about whether there is a problem with your own education methods, or whether your child is in a rebellious period that needs guidance. To love a child, you must first understand what the child needs. Being rebellious and disobedient does not mean that the child is bad. It does not mean that the child has \”betrayed\” his parents. It can only mean that the stubborn child is \”leaving\” us in his own way. We accompany the child, more like a friend. When the child needs help, we hold his hand and tell him that you understand and that you are here, so that the child has the courage to face the difficulties in growing up. I often wonder, when we educate our children, do we hope that they will listen to us, follow the rules and move forward with the hope of our parents, or do we really want to be good for our children and let them take control of their own lives? Good parents dare to let their children go, respect and understand their children\’s emotions, and accept both the good and the bad! Never do harm in the name of love.