The head teacher angrily scolded the parents: You can\’t do these things, why should you leave your children to me? A must read if you have kids at home

A few days ago, Rui\’s mother attended an education lecture. The lecturer was a veteran teacher with 45 years of teaching experience. He had been a class teacher for more than 30 years and had considerable experience. Some of the points mentioned by this old teacher in the lecture were really useful to Rui’s mother. They are now summarized as follows and I hope to share them with all parents. About scores Test scores can only reflect, in a certain sense, the degree to which students master knowledge and their ability to use knowledge to solve problems. However, students with high test scores do not mean that they will become successful in society in the future, while students with poor scores will achieve nothing in the future. According to my many years of experience, average students in a class are more likely to achieve good results in society. Because whether a person can succeed in society depends more on a person\’s ability to do things, will quality and other factors. My suggestion is that if you want your child to get good grades, don\’t hold on to your child\’s scores. When your child finishes taking the test, don’t ask the first thing: “How did the test go?” The child is physically and mentally exhausted after a day of taking the test, and parents asking this question will undoubtedly make things worse. What parents should do is to ask with concern the moment their children enter the house: \”Thank you for your hard work, what do you want to eat tonight?\” When the results come out after a while, if the children do well in the exam, remember to praise them. : \”You are great! Your hard work has paid off, but mom believes you can do better.\” If you don\’t do well in the exam, don\’t rush to criticize. Sit down with your child and analyze the reasons for your mistake together. Try not to make the same mistake next time, and encourage your child: \”It doesn\’t matter, you have worked very hard. Mom believes you will make progress next time.\” Regarding parent-teacher conferences, schools generally hold 1 to 2 parent-teacher conferences every semester, but Many parents will use busyness as an excuse not to participate. You may think that at the parent-teacher meeting, the teacher just talks about the child\’s grades and performance, but I know these through the child\’s test paper, so I don\’t actively participate in the meeting. But that’s not the case. Parent-teacher conferences are really important. Teachers will not only communicate with parents about their children’s grades and performance, but they will also announce some new school regulations, as well as some things that children may not tell you at ordinary times, but parents must know. Things like, you can’t bring cell phones in school, etc. Many parents feel that since their children are in school, the teachers should be solely responsible. If the children have any problems, they can just go to the teachers. This is not the case. Some problems that children have in school are often the result of parents and teachers failing to communicate and cooperate well. Moreover, if parents do not attend their children\’s parent-teacher conferences, it is easy for teachers to leave the impression that they do not care about their children. Let me ask, if parents don\’t care about their children, how can teachers care about them? From my experience, you must attend the parent-teacher conference. Regarding raising hands to speak, every parent is worried that their children will have less opportunities to perform in class, so they ask their children to \”raise more hands\” and call the teacher to ask \”more questions.\” But in fact, teachers don’t like students who raise their hands and speak too actively, and they don’t want to praise such children! Because the levels of students in a class are different, and teachers have to take care of most of themMathematics students\’ thinking and receptive abilities. If individual children are encouraged to \”rush to answer\”, it will interfere with the thinking of middle-level and lower-level children, which will be detrimental to the entire class and unfair to other children. The teacher actually hopes that his students can think a little longer, instead of rushing to raise their hands to speak just to express themselves. This is just an inefficient fuss. What parents should tell their children is that they must think actively before raising their hands, and do not raise their hands without thinking about anything. Not only will they not get exercise, but they will also arouse the teacher\’s resentment. Communicating with teachers about children\’s performance is the focus of teacher training; and children\’s moral character is the focus of parent education. Therefore, if you want your children to have both good character and academic performance, the close cooperation between teachers and parents is indispensable. Some parents, in order for teachers to pay more attention to their children, give teachers overt or covert benefits, and even tell their children when they get home: \”Your parents have taken care of everything for you at school, and the teacher will ask you more questions.\” What will be the result? When a teacher who gets benefits is disciplining a child, he will not bear to point out the child\’s mistakes. Even if the child makes a mistake, the teacher will turn a blind eye and pass by. As soon as the children hear that their parents have already greeted the teacher, they will become even more unscrupulous and ignore the teacher. If teachers lose their prestige, how can they educate children? Doing so is not only disrespectful to the teacher, but also irresponsible to the child. If you really want to do the best for your children, then just maintain good communication with the teacher and pay more attention to your children. Regarding class cadres, many parents have such an ambivalent mentality: they want their children to be class cadres and exercise their abilities; but they do not want their children to be class cadres for fear of affecting their learning. After children become class cadres, they will indeed have less time to study because they have to organize class activities, etc., but if you ask me, I will still support my children being elected as class cadres. why? First of all, speaking from my experience, when I choose class cadres, I will start with the children\’s grades. In other words, students who can be elected as class cadres are generally excellent in both character and academic performance. Secondly, when children serve as class cadres, their organizational skills, leadership skills, coordination and cooperation skills, etc. will be improved, and these skills are very important in future work and life, and are more important than grades. Whether children with mobile phones should bring mobile phones to school is also a headache for parents. If you bring one, you are afraid of affecting your child\’s learning; if you don\’t bring it, you are worried that you won\’t be able to contact your child if something urgent happens, and you will be anxious. After weighing it up, most people choose to bring mobile phones to their children. But in fact, from our teacher’s point of view, it is best not to bring mobile phones to children. If you think about it, when you are working, whenever you have free time, you can\’t help but take out your mobile phone and take a look. What about children with low self-control? If a child has a mobile phone with him, he or she may be tempted to take out the mobile phone and play with it when he or she is distracted. Once he starts playing, he will not be able to put it away, and as a result, a lesson will be wasted. If parents are really in an emergency to find their children, they can call the class teacher or go directly to the school to find their children. There is really no need to give their children a mobile phone. Children play with mobile phones better than adults, moreWhat\’s more, there is everything in the online world, and children don\’t know how to block some harmful content. It will be bad for the children to learn bad things. Therefore, please do not let your child bring a mobile phone to school until he is in high school.