There is a kind of parent who will never appreciate it no matter how much he or she gives.

On my way home from get off work, I pass by the entrance of a school. After get off work, it is also the time when the children are out of school. Every day, the school gate is full of parents picking up their children. On this day, it was drizzling in the sky. It was said that it was rain but it was too light, and it was said that it was fog with a little more water vapor. Most of the people waiting did not hold up their rain gear, so they stood there in groups, waiting leisurely and anxiously. A big umbrella was set up in front of the canteen next to the school. The shopkeeper was busy selling fried chicken tenders. A group of students gathered around waiting for their delicious food. At this time, a parent said to a short child: \”It\’s still raining, don\’t get wet.\” The child said \”hmm\” and did not move. The parent continued: \”Go and hide under the umbrella. It\’s still raining if you didn\’t notice.\” The child looked up and said, \”It\’s not raining anymore.\” Still didn\’t move. The parent\’s voice rose a few degrees, \”You didn\’t see it\’s still raining. Who can say it\’s not raining anymore? I asked you to take shelter from the rain, why couldn\’t you hear me?\” The child replied in a low voice: \”But it\’s not raining anymore, and everyone else is. I don\’t have an umbrella.\” The parent replied impatiently: \”Who can say it anymore? Can\’t you see? What should I do if I catch a cold? You are so nervous to study, and you have to ask for leave if you catch a cold. We still have to take care of you. Why are you such a child? I\’m disobedient…\” There was a lot of words behind him. The children around were looking at the child, who was a little embarrassed. Seeing that the child hadn\’t moved yet, the parent took two steps forward, picked up the child\’s collar and dragged him under the big umbrella. The child wanted to say something more, but before he could say anything, the parent continued: \”You child is just disobedient. You just forgot to bring an umbrella and caught a cold last time. Why can\’t you even listen to two sentences out of ten thousand words?\” If you had listened to me earlier, nothing would have happened…\” I passed through a group of children and happened to see the complete scene, and then walked past him silently, secretly calculating the area of ​​​​the child\’s psychological shadow. As the situation continued, I began to sympathize with this child. Presumably, he was not having an easy time at home. Yes, there is such a kind of parent who considers everything for his children and is ready to sacrifice everything for his children. And once the child does something that is not what he wants, he will start to bombard the child with endless words. We usually call this kind of bombardment: nagging. The neighbor is obviously a taciturn child. Although he is young, he is tall and tall. Most of the time when we see him, he will smile kindly to others and have no other words. In order to fully take care of him, his mother quit her well-paying job and found a job where she left early and returned early. She went to work at five o\’clock every morning. Although it was very hard, she could spend a lot of time with him in the afternoon and evening. he. But it was not early to go home every day. At his strong request, his mother enrolled him in a cram school. I go directly to the cram school to do my homework after school every day, and then go home at 6 p.m. It only takes five or six minutes to get to Mingming\’s home from the cram school, and it usually takes ten minutes to walk home every day. It was obvious why he didn\’t go home early. As time went by, the cram school teacher also got a rough idea. Obviously my mother is a strong woman, she has a hard life, she places all her hopes on her son, and she has higher demands on her children.Gao, as a parent, it is a good thing to have requirements for your children. But obviously my mother has one characteristic, that is, she loves to nag. From the moment Mingming entered the door, her mouth was not idle. You\’re back. Why are you back so late? Have you finished your homework? How was it? Who did you do it with? Quickly change your slippers. After changing your slippers, wash your hands first. There is soap there. Wash them several times before eating. Sit on that high stool to eat. The stool is high and comfortable. Didn’t I tell you to sit on the taller one? I’ve told you so many times but you still don’t listen. Eat this fish, I bought it especially for you. Why don\’t you stop eating after two bites? This fish is not cheap, and it is specially made to nourish your brain. If you are tired from studying, eat more fish to replenish your body and study well. What, you think my cooking is not delicious? You heartless person, wasn\’t it just for you that I went through so much trouble? Stop watching TV and go review your homework quickly. What, we have to watch for five more minutes, why are you so disobedient, what’s so good about TV, studying is the real thing. Why did you get this question wrong again? Didn\’t you talk about it last time? I remember it all, why are you so stupid… At first, Ming Ming retorted a few words, but then he said nothing at all. He would rather stay in the cram school than go home early, and he became more and more silent. Ming Ming\’s mother always sighed and said to people: \”This child really doesn\’t follow me. He doesn\’t say a word for a long time and just takes his time. What can I do in the future?\” When he was a child, Ming Ming was a lively and cute little boy who would take the initiative to say hello to everyone he saw. The Mingming now seems not to be the same person as the Mingming before. Educating children through language is an educational method. If used well, it can promote children\’s development. If used incorrectly, it will be counterproductive. Some parents don’t know how to educate their children, nor do they know what their children are thinking or what they really need. They just tell their children everything they think is right and let them do what they want. Once their children violate it, they will not tire of it. If you say it too much, your children will take it to heart and remember it. As everyone knows, talking too much will arouse the child\’s rebellious psychology. If the persuasion is ineffective, the child\’s rebellious psychology will develop into laissez-faire and indifference. Children will not appreciate this kind of ineffective persuasion from their parents. I watched a short video in which a professor analyzed the differences in behaviors and emotions between men and women based on research on the brains of men and women. One of them shows that men and women have different words to say every day. A man may need to say seven or eight thousand words a day. These words are usually finished during the day and very few words are spoken when he gets home. A woman speaks approximately 20,000 words every day, many of which she says to her husband and children when she goes home, and many of which are simply repeated. If you are such a mother who needs to finish speaking to your family before you feel comfortable, then when educating your children, you might as well say a few words less. It does not mean that the more you say, the better for your children. Less nagging, more tenderness. A few less sentences you should, a few more sentences you think may have a completely different educational effect.