Your present reflects your child’s future

Recently, the company has organized product knowledge-related training and invited more authoritative experts to come to the factory for training every weekend afternoon. It is considered a benefit of the company and can only be started by twenty people. I thought what a great opportunity this was, so I signed up decisively. However, after waiting for a week, I was told that there were less than 20 applicants, so the class could not be held and the training was cancelled. The company supervisor asked us to find a way to ask other colleagues if they are willing to learn, and try to recruit 20 people, because the training will be very helpful to our work. So I tried to convince my colleagues, but they were rejected one by one. There are all kinds of reasons, some just want to stay home on weekends, some have no interest, and some don\’t have time. Colleague A said excitedly when he heard this, \”Oh my God, I usually work and take care of my baby on weekends, so how can I have time to learn other things?\” Besides, at my age, what else do I need to learn? When I took my son to learn painting on the weekend, I happened to meet my colleague A, who was also taking his child to learn painting. Her eldest child has just entered elementary school, and her younger child is still in kindergarten. After class, my colleagues chatted with the teacher for more than ten minutes. They just said that Dabao was studying very seriously, while Xiaobao was not paying attention. He had not made obvious progress after studying for so long, and he hoped that the teacher would discipline him more. Then he immediately took Dabao and Xiaobao to the next ballet class. A colleague said that it would cost almost 30,000 yuan a year to educate them. Now my child\’s English is not good, and I am planning to enroll my child in an English training class. The family\’s income is basically invested in these two children. Listening to her chattering, I suddenly remembered what the teacher at the parent-teacher conference said. Many parents are eager to invest in and demand their children because they are too lacking. You have gone through all the hardships of not having a degree, and you hope that your children will succeed in their studies; you have limited abilities, unsatisfactory work, and unsatisfactory income. You hope that your children can achieve the job and income of your dreams in the future, or even exceed your dreams. So these parents are busy sending their children to this training class and that training class and choosing the best school for them. But I was too busy to have time to study, and I didn\’t even think that I needed to study. It is difficult for such children to develop good study habits. Once out of parental control, progress will cease. Once on a business trip, I spent two days at a good friend\’s house. I found that their ten-year-old child is very naughty, but before going to bed every night, he habitually reads for about an hour before falling asleep peacefully. Later, I asked a friend why children can be so self-disciplined. Colleagues say that habits become natural. This friend stopped working for several years after giving birth. After work, in order not to be doing things like a subordinate at an age when I should be a supervisor, I study after get off work every day, take various certificates that are useful to me, and work hard to make up for what I have lost in the past few years since I left the workplace. At that time, when she started studying every night, the child knew that she could not make any more noise at this time, as it would disturb her mother. I was bored, and then I tried to read his story books next to my mother. This habit lasted for three years. Every night after dinner, they go out for a walk, shopping or other activities, and then take a shower. The whole family will each find a book they like to read before going to bed, just like a fixed routine. Because the house is relatively small, there is no dedicated study room. Two simple bookcases are placed in the living room., filled with books according to various categories. Many of the books were read by friends and then read by children. Many times, the child can already share with her different opinions on the content of the book. Even if there are guests at home, when the parents need to accompany the guests in the evening, the children will silently pick up a book and read it by themselves. It is not ruled out that some children are born with a love of learning and progress, but for most children, their habits come from their parents. Too many parents nowadays are playing with their mobile phones while their children are doing homework, and watching TV while asking their children to read books. I think that children who are full of curiosity about the world must be itching at this moment and want to see what their parents are looking at right away. We often envy those celebrities. They have been in the limelight since the day they were born and had a different starting point from us. But many years have passed, and some of those celebrities have become celebrities, and some have been imprisoned. The story of Li Ka-shing’s education of his sons has been widely disseminated and has become a model because when his children were only eight or nine years old, he took them to the board of directors to let them see how he discussed problems with others and how to solve problems. Teach him to fish, but don’t teach him to fish. After the children graduate, they refuse to arrange jobs for them and require them to work hard on their own just like they did when they were young. Later, the children became him. They copied their father\’s legend and even surpassed him. But we often see the descendants of certain celebrities taking drugs and being gang-raped. Instead of becoming celebrities, they became a generation of \”cheating people\”. At this time, it is often the deceived parents who come out to apologize, saying that they have unshirkable responsibilities. They are so busy working that they neglect their children, who do not learn anything from them. After many young people enter the society, because of their lack of quality in certain aspects, people are used to saying that they have \”no family education\”, and the blame is directly attributed to family education. Although biased, it does make sense. A friend who is a teacher said that every time a student performs poorly and gets poor grades, and calls the parents over, what he does is not tell the parents how bad the child\’s performance is, but tell the parents what they should do. . He said that some parents are knowledgeable but uneducated. Kong has a high degree of education, but he has stopped studying after graduation, and he can only work as he pleases. I even think that messing around is a skill. When I get home, I either play games or watch TV. Even the housework is handled by the children’s grandparents. Most of these children do not like to read and study, and their independence is also poor. And some parents, although not highly educated, do everything well, even eating three meals a day. Even if they don\’t know much about literacy, they are willing to listen to their children read and watch their children do homework. Tell your children how to ask the teacher for questions they don’t know how to do. Such children generally study more seriously. Therefore, don’t think that if all the family income is used for the children, it means that the children should give a satisfactory answer. As everyone knows, parents who really give everything they have not only invest materially in their children, but also need to invest in themselves to achieve better selves. Each of your seriousness and efforts, and your progress at each stage, will become a role model for your children and help them achieve their future. Both parents are originals, but the childIt\’s just a copy. Your present may already reflect your child\’s future.