It’s Chinese New Year, a teacher’s true thoughts on parents giving gifts

A friend called me and said, \”I told you before, the parents of my relative\’s child in your class want to go over and stay for a while.\” Being a New Year\’s student, I knew what \”stay for a while\” meant, so I refused. : \”If you have anything to say, just talk on the phone. There is no need to run away.\” The friend refused: \”If parents want to know about their children, it is more convenient to meet in person. I have already agreed to it. Between us, such a little face is always worth it.\” You won\’t refuse to give it, right?\” In China, people are afraid of taking advantage of face. Of course I have to give it to my friend. But I made my own request: \”It\’s okay to come and stay for a while, but you must not bring anything with you.\” My friend agreed. It didn\’t take long for the parents to arrive. I guess my parents were already on the way when my friend called me just now. When the parents opened the door and came in, they only had some fruit in their hands. I feel a little at ease. Asking guests to sit down and pouring tea is nothing more than a cliché. Parents say they are causing trouble to the teacher, while I say the child is quite sensible and behaves well. Time passed quickly. The parent stood up to say goodbye and took out a shopping card from his pocket. \”I didn\’t buy anything, that\’s what we wanted…\” I was determined not to, but my parents were determined to let it go. I said, I will accept the fruit. I will definitely not ask for a shopping card. Even if you leave it here, I will take it back to my child when school starts. The parents had no choice but to put away the card. I don\’t know if this is the right thing to do. Anyway, personally speaking, I don’t want parents to give me gifts. Although I am not rich, as the saying goes, \”A gentleman loves money and gets it in a wise way.\” If you are short of money, you can work hard to earn it yourself, but you cannot accept other people\’s money out of thin air. It\’s not that I\’m very noble, but it\’s not in line with my philosophy of life. I read an article by a teacher about receiving gifts: One Teacher\’s Day, a student\’s parent forced her to give her a shopping card worth 500 yuan. This made her feel uneasy. Later, she bought a dress of similar price for her child. Seeing the joy on the faces of his students when they were trying on clothes in the office, the teacher felt that his conscience had been settled. This teacher\’s attitude and approach won my heart. Accepting gifts from others is actually a debt of conscience, and I always feel guilty. As we all know, gift-giving is all the rage these days. Just like that joke said, the leader will not remember whoever gives the leader a gift, but the leader will definitely remember whoever does not give the leader a gift. Therefore, most people have to follow the trend and join the gift-giving army. This social atmosphere has also affected the interactions between students\’ parents and teachers. It has become increasingly common for parents to give gifts to teachers, fearing that their children will be treated unfairly if others give them but they don\’t. In fact, such worries are unnecessary. Those teachers who are greedy for profit are in the minority. Regardless of whether parents give gifts or not, teachers will try their best to treat every child equally. Parents don’t have to worry about the teacher “remembering” their children because they didn’t give a gift, causing their children to suffer a loss. What\’s more, teachers, unlike officials, do not have the right to allocate resources. Teachers have no ability or power to affect a student\’s performance. As a teacher, the author has personally \”taken care of\” the children of countless relatives and friends. But the results of those children are also very good.Some are extremely poor, because children\’s performance depends more on their own talents and efforts. The author is also a parent of a student. Since the child was a child, we have not given him a gift to his teacher, but the child\’s grades have always been good, and the teacher has always been very good to the child. Teachers may have certain emotional preferences for different students, but this tendency will never be judged by the number of gifts given. A teacher will definitely like a student who gives gifts but makes trouble every day, and a student who does not give gifts but is excellent in both character and study. Letting your children become outstanding will win the teacher\’s favor more than giving gifts to the teacher. To be honest, if any student really wants to be grateful to his teacher, he might as well wait until he graduates from college, earns his own money, and can sit at the teacher’s house for a while when he has time. I believe that this kind of teacher-student relationship that has accumulated over time is the purest teacher-student relationship.