Whether children do housework or not, the gap is so big when they grow up! It\’s not too late to see it now

Rui’s mother read an article today, which included a study by a Harvard University scholar: children who like to do housework and children who don’t like to do housework have an employment rate of 15:1 and a crime rate of 1:10 as adults. Children who love doing housework have lower divorce rates and lower rates of mental illness. However, in life, many parents, including Rui’s mother, rarely let their children participate in housework. Because we have all fallen into a love misunderstanding: we love our children so much that we are not willing to let them do some dirty work, and we always do everything for them in every detail. Even if the children take the initiative to help us share the burden, they will be rejected because we are always worried that they will not do well and cause us trouble, or for safety reasons, we are worried that they will accidentally hurt themselves, or we think that the child\’s The task is to study, and they should focus their main energy on learning, not on these \”trivial\” things. As a result, we limit children\’s hands-on ability, deprive them of opportunities to try or exercise, and create many obstacles on their path to independence. In fact, we have all overlooked that in the process of children\’s growth, housework plays a vital role in the development of children\’s motor skills, cognitive abilities and the cultivation of their sense of responsibility. There are so many benefits to children doing housework! Influence on children\’s learning Rui\’s mother once saw an example of a child who wrote slowly and ugly. Because of poor writing, his grades were poor and his interest in learning became very poor. The child\’s mother complained to the teacher, and the teacher pointed out the key point with a question: \”Does the child never do housework at home?\” The teacher said that doing housework can exercise many abilities, including the flexibility of both hands. Children who love to do housework will have their limbs fully exercised and their hand-eye coordination will be very good. You will get things done faster and get better results. If you don’t do any work and your arm and grip strength are not good, it will of course affect your writing and thus your grades. In addition, as mentioned above, many parents believe that their children\’s main task is to study hard and ignore other things including housework. Parents who focus exclusively on homework will put a lot of pressure on their children and easily make them tired of studying. Doing housework makes children more confident. Self-confidence is the first factor for success in life. The role that self-confidence plays in a child\’s life-long development, whether in learning or in dealing with others, plays a decisive role. As children grow up, they need something to build their confidence. Doing housework is a good way to cultivate children\’s self-confidence. Parents should not worry about their children not doing well or not doing well at the moment. We should give them enough patience and let them do it. No matter how much the children complete, we must praise and encourage them. When children are recognized and appreciated, they will have a very strong sense of accomplishment and self-confidence. If parents do everything, ostensibly for the benefit of their children, they actually deprive their children of the right to enjoy a successful experience. Moreover, in the process of doing housework, children will find that they can accomplish many things with their own hands and feel that they are valuable, needed and used. For a person, the feeling of \”being used\” and \”being needed\” is very important. This isThe source of our confidence and self-esteem. Doing housework makes children more responsible. Nowadays, many people of the older generation complain that young people have no sense of responsibility, no sense of responsibility for work and no sense of responsibility for their families. In fact, if you think about it carefully, this is mostly something the old people are used to. Most of those who have no sense of responsibility have been pampered since childhood and have never thought about anything. Let children participate in housework, let them know that this is the responsibility and required course of every family member, and let them learn to understand the difficulty of their parents and learn to pay. Only by giving, can they learn to cherish their family\’s labor and gradually develop a sense of responsibility. Only when a person has a sense of responsibility can he be responsible for himself, others, and his family, and then he will do his best to do what should be done. How can a person who doesn\’t care about his own family\’s affairs be expected to be responsible for work, family, and others when he grows up? It is conducive to cultivating children\’s ability to live independently. If a child has a strong ability to do housework, his living ability will naturally be high, and his ability to live independently will be strong. Children will eventually leave their parents and live alone. The ability to take care of themselves is the child\’s most basic survival need. Therefore, the ultimate goal of parents\’ love for their children should be \”separation\”. The purpose of our love for children is to let them grow up independently, be strong enough to face the storms of the future, and have the ability to solve problems they encounter, instead of staying with us and being a \”giant baby\”. How to encourage children to actively do housework? Therefore, parents should consciously give up over-protection of their children and give their children the opportunity to live independently. Don’t do everything for your children, but focus on cultivating their ability to do things themselves, encourage them to do housework within their ability, and actively guide children to learn to be independent. Infect children with a positive attitude Ruima believes that what needs to be adjusted most is the mentality of parents. You know, every word and deed of parents will have a profound impact on their children in a subtle way. If parents think that doing housework is an interesting thing and enjoy doing it, their children will be attracted to join them. On the contrary, if parents themselves believe that housework is tiring and dirty, and complain constantly when doing the work, which is full of negative emotions, children will naturally avoid housework. Dads, in particular, must set a good example. Don’t act like an uncle as soon as you get home. You can’t see life in your eyes. This can easily make your children imitate. Learn to show weakness appropriately in front of your children. Mother Rui has heard this saying: \”Lazy mothers are the easiest to cultivate hard-working children.\” Lazy children and lazy husbands are the result of hard-working mothers. Don\’t say that children can\’t do housework. There is no inherent ability or inability to do it. No, it’s because I don’t want to do it, I can’t do it, or I can’t do it enough. Parents should give their children the opportunity to participate and show weakness in front of their children appropriately, such as \”Mom is very tired today and needs your help with cooking. Can you help mom?\” Then make a list of household chores for the child, such as washing vegetables, choosing vegetables, and sweeping the floor. Ah, etc., let the children choose one or two things that they are capable of completing. In this way, he will not feel forced. He will feel that he has full autonomy and is respected. Praise your children sincerely for completing their chores, and do so in a timely mannerExpress gratitude and praise to your children. Don\’t just say \”you\’re great\” when giving compliments, be specific and clear. For example, thank you for helping my mother wash the vegetables and dishes today. My mother really feels a lot more relaxed. The floor you wiped is so clean and as bright as a mirror. My mother likes it very much. Praise the child for specific behaviors so that the child can realize his excellence and continue to maintain it. Even if your child doesn\’t do well, don\’t hit him. You can tell him this way: \”Mom, I know you have worked very hard and attentively. It doesn\’t matter if you didn\’t do it well this time. We will keep up the good work next time. The more we do it, the more we will get familiar with it.\” It will get better and better.\” It is best not to use money to encourage doing housework. Many parents will use pocket money as a condition to lure their children to do housework. If handled properly, it will help children understand the value of money, establish a correct view of money, and teach them how to manage money. However, there are also disadvantages to using money to motivate children to do housework. This will make children think that doing housework is just for money, thereby ignoring the sense of family responsibility and dedication behind it. Moreover, once parents use money to develop the habit of doing housework in their children, if the parents fail to fulfill their promise one day, the children may be unhappy, and it will also make them think that the parents do not keep their word, reducing the parents\’ prestige in the children\’s hearts.