When children reach high school, if they want to do well academically and counterattack, they must have one of the most core abilities.

In the past few days, I heard that the implementation of the \”double reduction policy\” has begun to be relaxed. The education and training industry seems to be able to work openly and openly during holidays. Some education and training institutions have begun to stop sharpening their knives in secret. The reason why the education and training industry will continue to exist is because the demand for make-up lessons still exists, and the demand is still huge. Faced with fierce competition, faced with the severe employment trend of \”more monks and fewer people\”, faced with unemployment immediately after graduation, the only good way, the only shortcut is to allow children to enter a good high school and good university first. The most ideal is of course Key high schools and 985 universities. If you want your children to get into a good high school or university, you must have good grades. Therefore, many parents want to let their children improve their academic performance through extra tutoring classes. However, there is a problem that has been bothering many parents: they have spent a lot of money to enroll their children in many extracurricular classes, but their children\’s academic performance has not improved much. What is the reason for this? Why can’t some children’s academic performance improve despite spending money and time? Another question is why some children, especially girls, will lag behind in their academic performance after reaching high school; but there are also some children whose academic performance will improve, or even improve significantly, after they reach high school. This kind of improvement is commonly known as \”counterattack\” \”. Almost every parent does not hope that their children will fall behind in academic performance when they reach high school. Almost all parents hope that their children will be able to counterattack with divine help when they reach high school. What factors affect the academic performance of some children, especially some girls? Is it really a factor of IQ? Is it true that girls are not good at learning mathematics? If it is due to IQ factors, some very smart children may not have very good academic performance! So, what factors fundamentally affect the academic performance of high school students? Yesterday, my wife took the children to play outside for a day and didn\’t come back until evening. After coming back, he told me all kinds of interesting things about the day: Compared with a few years ago, children are now interested in more things, so much so that when visiting the science and technology museum, they like to watch rocket launches and oil refining. Children had no interest in these things before. One of the interesting things they said caught my attention. When going to the mall, the child saw a shirt and thought it looked good, so he thought about buying it. After selecting it, it was time to pack it and pay. The child suddenly felt that the shirt was not very necessary, so he changed his mind and gave up. Just don\’t buy it. After hearing this, I praised and affirmed the child: When buying things, you need to buy them no matter how expensive they are; if you don’t need them, no matter how good-looking or cheap they are, don’t be greedy or impulsive. The child didn\’t buy any clothes this time, but he was even happier when he got home than if he had bought them. Because she felt that she could no longer buy things casually like before, and she had to exercise restraint from now on. She could no longer buy impulsively and buy what she really needed. This summer vacation, my child no longer needs me to urge her to do her homework. Instead, she has been doing her homework according to her own plan. She no longer procrastinates until school is about to start and then stays up late to catch up on her homework. The practice of staying up late and working overtime to catch up on holiday homework is harmful but useless: not only does it notIt is good for learning, and it also makes you hate learning. At this time, I suddenly understood: the core reason why some children fall behind in their grades after reaching high school is \”insufficient self-control\”; the core reason for those children who can \”counterattack\” after high school is that they have strong self-control; if If a child has insufficient or weak self-control, no matter how many extra classes he or she takes, it will not help, and may even have a negative effect. Children with insufficient self-control tend to have few good habits: they procrastinate in study and in life; they cannot get up on time and go to bed on time, and they cannot eat and exercise well; they cannot control their emotions, and they study more when they are in a good mood, and they study more when they are in a bad mood. Just learn less; if your mind is not mature enough, your actions will appear childish and immature. So, why do some children still don’t have enough “self-control” for high school studies after they reach high school? Especially some girls whose \”self-control\” is not strong enough? Almost every child today is the \”baby\” of the family. Such a \”baby\” is naturally loved by the elderly and loved by the parents. In this way, most children are free at home without much restriction: they can eat whatever they want, buy whatever they want, and do whatever they want. Especially for some girls, after they make mistakes, their parents usually \”turn a blind eye\” and \”tolerate\” them in most cases. Therefore, girls often grow up being \”spoiled\”. Children who grow up in a \”pampered atmosphere\” usually lack the most \”self-control\”: if their academic performance is poor or they fall behind, they will not look for the reasons from themselves, but from the objective environment. If you don\’t look for the reasons within yourself, then over time, your learning ability will not improve, your learning efficiency will not improve, and naturally, your academic performance will not improve. Therefore, if you want to improve your child\’s academic performance, the best way is to first cultivate your child\’s \”self-control\” and let your child\’s \”mind\” mature first. If \”self-control\” is not strong, then even if you get into a key university and get a good job by taking extra classes and answering questions, you may not be able to withstand some temptations in society. Isn\’t it just because some corrupt officials who graduated from key universities have insufficient \”self-control\”?