Whether the child has ever seen the world, this is enough

Not long after the Spring Festival, a relative in her hometown said she wanted to find a job for her son. I hope I can inquire about it. I remember that the child was just a few points short of getting admitted to a key high school in the county. Finally, after careful consideration, his parents asked him to drop out of school. Because they think that going to an ordinary high school means going to an ordinary university. They are afraid that they will not be able to find anything to do after graduation, and instead use their family\’s money, which is not cost-effective. So despite the persuasion of many people at that time, I still did not continue studying. When we met this time, he was already a man in his twenties, with an air of maturity that was inconsistent with his age. When speaking, his face is always lowered, and his eyes are evasive, not daring to make eye contact. I said, \”If you\’re like this, how are you going to communicate with the HR manager when you\’re looking for a job?\” \”I don\’t know, that\’s just me.\” His mother was anxious, \”You can\’t change it. When I saw your brother looking like this, he was so angry. It kills me.\” \”I don\’t want to do anything, and there is nothing I can do.\” He said, \”He is not lazy, and he is a good person, but he has no self-confidence. He always feels like people outside are laughing at him.\” His mother added on the side. If something happened to happen, I would tell him to keep an eye on it. Later, a friend\’s studio wanted to recruit apprentices. At the beginning, he worked as a handyman, carrying machines for some masters of photography and videography. You must know that many of their photography masters started out as apprentices, and those with talent can really do great things. I think this job is really suitable for him and he can try it. So I excitedly called him. He hesitated for a long time and said that he wanted to ask his mother\’s opinion. His mother called the next day and talked for a long time. She declined politely, because she said her son couldn\’t do such a job well, and he wouldn\’t make any money. She still asked her son to do some hard work on the construction site. He could earn a lot if he was tired every day. If you do a good job, you can become a contractor. I gave her a detailed description of the future of this apprentice\’s advancement. But she no longer had the patience to listen. I can only give up. But I still can\’t calm down inside. After hearing this, my friend said to me, \”She has never seen what you are talking about. You are originally from two different worlds. So she cannot accept your point of view. This is normal. But that boy has always been obedient to his parents, but has not treated society well.\” He is out of place. It can be seen from these descriptions that he is a child who has never seen the world. So this is the choice and result.\” What my friend said makes sense. It\’s just that this young boy is so cowardly, who is to blame? Whether a child has seen the world before or not, this is often enough. That’s what parents know. I once saw a sentence that said, \”Why are poor people always poor? The main reason is because they feel that they are destined to be poor.\” Just like what this mother said, my son is destined to work hard, and other jobs are not suitable for him. . But if you don\’t give it a try, why can you be sure it won\’t work? However, many things have already taken root. At that time, if she had allowed her children to go to high school and work hard, there would be no chance of entering university for further studies. And when the child\’s knowledge and experience increase. Will he still be what he is today? It’s just that many parents can only see what’s in front of them and cannot see beyond. I remember there was a family in our village. Several children have never studied and graduated from elementary school.Take a break from school. When someone asked, they said that their family conditions were too poor and they had no money to go to school. This is really a very real problem. At that time, in the countryside in the 1960s, people often starved to death. Therefore, as a father, he is busy working in the fields every day and is lucky to be able to support his family. When someone in the family says they want to study, the father will hit them. What\’s the point of studying? It\’s not about farming. What do you eat if you don’t cultivate the land? There is another family not far away, and the conditions at home are not much better. And they all gave birth to daughters, in that era when sons were favored over daughters. As a father, I still sent all four daughters to junior high school. You can imagine the difficulty. Later, there was really no condition to send it away. So the two eldest daughters had no choice but to drop out of school and go work. Earn money to send my sister to school. I put my two younger sisters through high school. Finally, the two sisters finished college. They worked part-time while attending night school, and both went to college. Today, many years later, the children of the two families are living a life of ice and fire. Those who have worked hard have achieved successful careers, settled down in the city, and their children have received a good education. Those who gave up studying early would either farm in their hometown and take care of the family, or come to the city to find work, doing heavy work such as cleaning, and renting dilapidated houses with their children. From this point of view, parents’ knowledge often affects several generations. It is really important for children that parents have seen the world. Because you don’t work hard, you are not the only one who loses. The next generation also lost more than a little bit! It can’t even be said that we lost at the starting line. Because many children are not on the same starting line at all. The child\’s words and deeds all reflect the world the child has seen. We often find that many children avoid rural areas. There is always a hint of timidity about him. Many children are timid even asking for directions or buying a ticket. When someone said something to him, he buried his head and his face turned red. I remember this was the case when I first came to the city to study in college. Children who are coy in front of strangers are often too attached to their families and rarely go outside. Or just lack of confidence. And those children who have seen the world are always generous and dare to express themselves. That\’s because these kids have something. For example, the sense of security and respect given by parents. I\’ve seen a lot more things. The books I read were also much thicker. Such children will have \”insight.\” Children who have seen more will naturally “broaden their horizons”. Don\’t be afraid when things happen, be able to be calm and generous, and make decisions independently. As for what it means to have seen the world, a Zhihu netizen gave an answer that is widely recognized by everyone: they can be particular, can make do with things, can enjoy the best, and can withstand the worst. Those who have seen the world will naturally It will exude a different temperament among the crowd, gentle but powerful, humble but connotative. It should be like \”Don\’t be happy with things, don\’t be sad with yourself\”, that way of not being surprised by honor or disgrace. I also hope that I can become a knowledgeable father. So first of all, we must work hard to be ourselves. Not only do you need to study often, but you also need to have the energy to travel thousands of miles. I often talk to my son about everything around us, and also about the places we can’t see. So he longed for the Arctic and was also interested in North America. I would also like to visit the castles and cathedrals in Europe. My son wants to be a dinosaur expert, so I support his dreamthink. Expose him to anything related to dinosaurs. I know that one day he will be like Xiaodoudou, constantly adjusting his dreams. But no matter what, I am always willing to accompany him to realize his dream. What we can do is let our children see that their parents are always on the way to learning. Ready to go and explore together at any time. Even if you encounter difficulties, face them firmly and calmly.