How important is it for children to withstand harm?

A few days ago, I was chatting with my mother-in-law before going to bed. This is a compulsory course for us every day. It is nothing more than a conversation between the two of us before going to sleep. What happened today and what new changes have occurred in our daughter. When I talk about one thing, I still feel a little strange in my heart. \”Today, I took Shishi out. A neighbor saw it and said, your child has become beautiful. She looked like that before. I was really worried that she would not be able to get married when she grew up. Fortunately, she has grown into a human being now. But, Why is the bridge of our noses still so flat?\” My mother-in-law said, \”I know she is praising us for becoming more beautiful, but were our children really that bad before? I was also very embarrassed when I heard that.\” At that time, I remembered that I often said One sentence: Please mind your mouth and don’t tease my children. But what happened happened. My mother-in-law is the kind of person who \”doesn\’t fight back when hit or scolded\”, so she turned around and took her daughter away. She came back and told me, she asked me, what do you mean? \”I said she didn\’t mean anything, she was just too talkative. What I\’m more concerned about is how my daughter reacted.\” \”Shishi said thank you and didn\’t have any mood swings.\” I breathed a sigh of relief. A person\’s growth often comes from the unconscious harm of others. However, many people do not know that from the moment a child can speak, it means that she has her own feelings about communication in the world. It\’s not that she doesn\’t understand, she just can\’t argue with you. In fact, I have had an extreme sense of inferiority since I was a child, and it took me a long time to recover from this inferiority complex. Many times, elders always think that joking is a good thing, and they joke with you because they like you. But then my parents told me that you have to be able to joke around. Your ability to tolerate jokes reflects your big heart. However, jokes should not be hurtful, nor should they be malicious slander. A joke must first be made funny by the other person. If you make fun of someone else\’s physical flaws, it\’s not a joke at all, but hurt. So, I roughly know that to withstand the hurt of others, you can greet it with a smile or fight back, but you must remember not to hurt yourself for anyone. When I was young, I may have been slightly inferior to others in two ways: 1. When I was young, I had unclear enunciation. According to linguistics, my phonemes were a bit backward, and my tongue was severely rolled. I also spent a lot of effort on my own to finish it. 2. The bridge of my nose is not high. A lot of people feel like this is a flaw. I still can\’t understand it. Is there anything wrong with taking care of your body, hair, and skin from your parents? Every time someone makes fun of me for chattering, I feel really irritated. I really don’t know what I have offended others. If you don’t understand what I said, I can say it again; if you think my flat nose affects your aesthetics and you can’t live without me, I can stay away from you. But later, I gradually discovered that there is no way to do many things: you can\’t change other people\’s emotional intelligence, you can only change your own mind. This world will never be sad because of your sadness. Being sad is always painful for relatives and happy for enemies. Why? Because people who make you sad are never good people to you; things that make you sad are certainly not good things. EveryFrom childhood to adulthood, people more or less begin to live under the eyes of others, but some people are lucky and do not receive too much malice, while there are also some people who have no one to protect them and are constantly slandered. I have seen many things with my own eyes: a friend was laughed at by his classmates because he came to his aunt too early, and later suffered from depression. That girl was very introverted and stopped studying after junior high school. My neighbor\’s peers were ridiculed by their teachers because they were fatter than ordinary people and had poor grades. They later dropped out of school and stayed home. After many years, they slowly came out. And have you ever discovered that the person who hurt you never feels that he has done anything wrong, but the person who was hurt has paid a high price for it. My daughter is now 4 years old, and she is slowly getting to know the world. To be fair, in this world, even if you are incredibly beautiful, some people will hate you; even if you are impeccably good, people can still find faults with you. Because your fault is a fault in her eyes and does not require judgment from others; as long as she thinks you are not good, you are not good in her eyes. Nowadays, my daughter is always told that she is fat, that her legs are thick, and that she is not good-looking enough. Some people even say, why can\’t your child recite ancient poems? Why is he not as good as someone else\’s? My daughter\’s reactions in the past were always extremely violent, and she would even hit people rudely in the eyes of others. But it\’s much better now. I know that my daughter is not yet able to fully understand and tolerate others, but I slowly let her know that if she has done nothing wrong, she should not care too much about other people\’s opinions. We can argue, we can refute, we can angrily criticize others for being rude, and we can be indifferent, but we must never get angry or cry for them. What I have always hoped for is that she can have a strong heart and live in this world. In this way, I watch her grow up, and in the future she watches me go away, and I can leave with peace of mind. Dear child, please be able to withstand the hurt of others. Even if you feel sad, don’t let yourself fall into too deep. I said this to my daughter, and many mothers asked me, what should I do if someone bullies her or slanders her? No matter what, just live proudly. Because the road ahead is long and you never know who you will meet or who fate will bring you. We must be grateful and have flesh and blood. Only by allowing children to have a strong heart can they have a broader world. Those people and things that make you sad will go away, and all space will be left for happy people and things. This is good!