Can such a large-scale children’s sex education book really not be given to children?

As a mother, have you ever struggled with the issue of sex education for your baby? Sex is an issue that is difficult to talk about but has to be faced. Avoid talking about it, the baby will ask one day, if he says: Mom, where did your penis go? This is how to do? How could we open up the conversation and say such a shameful question? But sex education is always a problem that needs to be faced. Teachers will provide children with sexual enlightenment in kindergarten, and after entering school, there will also be special sex education courses. But are sex education books in schools really good? Recently, a mother discovered that the content of the children’s sex education textbook distributed by the school was “very dirty”! The content page that made this mother collapse is as follows: one is about the birth of a human being, with a total of three pictures. One is of mom and dad \”loving each other\” in bed, and the second picture is \”Dad\’s penis is inserted into mom\’s vagina.\” The third picture is of father\’s sperm entering mother\’s uterus and the other is of teaching children to protect their private parts. Aunt Li, is it appropriate for you to tease a child like this, Aunt Li? ! This set of books is called \”Cherish Life – Sexual Health Education Reader for Primary School Students\” and was written by experts from the Children\’s Sex Education Research Group of Beijing Normal University. Out of curiosity about the content, Yuehua had a detailed understanding of this set of books. Take the next semester, which is now being used by children of all grades. The key contents of each volume are different. The textbook for the second semester of the first grade of primary school uses comics to let children understand the different external and internal structures of male and female reproductive organs. The names of genitals appear directly in the textbook. For boys, they are penis, scrotum, and for girls, they are vulva, clitoris, vagina, etc., instead of The nickname is given, and the content is also introduced together with the limbs, brain, and internal organs. The content of the second volume of the second grade is what everyone has seen. It tells children about the gestation of life. The second volume of the third grade textbook mainly talks about nocturnal emissions, menstruation and other phenomena that occur in adolescent boys and girls. In fourth- and fifth-grade textbooks, the concept of sexual orientation is introduced, children are introduced to the dangers of sexual orientation discrimination, and children are taught that homosexuality is normal. So let’s go back to the evaluation of this set of sex education books. Should we use such a set of sex education books for our children? What needs to be affirmed is that children’s sex education is indeed very needed. Sex education for our children is so lacking. There are many things in the book that parents can learn from. For example, naming the genitals. Don’t underestimate how we teach children to know their own reproductive organs. Using scientific names and nicknames does bring different feelings to children. If we formally name the child\’s genitals with scientific names and tell the child that this is the baby\’s penis and this is the baby\’s vagina, the child\’s feelings will be very natural, just as natural as when we teach children to recognize their nose and eyes. But if we teach children that this is a penis and this is a butt, the name itself already carries the parents’ sexual shame. This sexual shame will be absorbed by the children, and the children will think that genitals are bad. It\’s humbling. This is detrimental to the child’s sexual and psychological growth. Most of the content in the book is really good, allowing children to correctly understand their gender and learn how to protect themselves. For example, the sexual assault prevention guide in the book is not limited to adult men.Violation of girls also includes adult men against boys, adult women against boys, adult women against girls, etc. The book also has very good content on gender equality, freedom of marriage, equality of sexual orientation, etc. But just because most content is good doesn’t mean that all content is worthy of recognition. The content setting of this book is also really unreasonable. In particular, many key parts of the content do not conform to the cognitive development rules of children. It is too early to force some content on children that they do not care about. Take for example the knowledge of the birth of the most controversial man. According to my country\’s school entrance age regulations, children in second grade are 7-8 years old. Judging from the cognitive abilities of children at this stage, they do not have such detailed needs for human birth. They know where they came from, they know that their parents look different from them, and they also know that they are the combination of their father’s sperm and their mother’s eggs, and they used to live in their mother’s belly. But they don\’t have the desire to explore yet to understand how the father\’s sperm combines with the mother\’s egg. They only need to know that they were born by their mother and have lived in their mother\’s belly for a long time, and they will feel at ease. There is no desire to continue exploring. At this time, if you use pictures of two naked adults having sex to demonstrate sexual intercourse in class and explain the details of sexual intercourse to children in detail, you are actually forcing yourself to disrupt the natural development of the child\’s psychology. The key is that the book is so misleading that it names the process of making love \”making love with each other.\” Children mistakenly think that when two people take off their clothes and lie together, they are in love with each other. Children aged 7 or 8 are still in the stage of perceptual understanding. They will have a special liking for a certain person of the opposite sex, and they also like to imitate some behaviors and actions. If the children understand , unconsciously imitating \”love each other\” for the opposite sex they like, and unconsciously exploring and joking with each other, which is bound to cause trauma to the child\’s sexual psychology. Children\’s sexual psychology is constantly growing. Even if the question \”where do I come from\” is asked over time, the needs behind the baby\’s problems are also different. The first time a child asks the question where he comes from, he will feel at ease knowing that it was his mother who gave birth to him. When he is four or five years old, he will ask where he lived before he was born, and he can gain satisfaction when he knows that in his mother\’s belly is the house where he lived before. When the children grow up to 6 or 7 years old, they will have new explorations of the question \”Where do I come from?\” and will ask again where do I come from. At this time, the mother tells them that after the sperm and egg combine, they end up in the mother\’s belly. After living there for 10 months, he was satisfied. When children are about 10 years old, they will explore this issue again. Only then will they wonder how the father\’s sperm combines with the mother\’s egg. Only then will a detailed and scientific explanation be needed. When children have no sexual exploration, forcing them to understand some knowledge about sex is just like the previous masturbation content. In fact, it is artificially destroying children\’s sexual psychology. Moreover, these three simple pictures, without any background or development process, are just forcefully given to the children, thinking that the children will understand naturally. This is not easy for children in the second grade of primary school.Understand, they are likely to ask: \”How did daddy\’s penis get into mommy\’s vagina?\” \”How did the penis become curved? How did it become curved?\” \”Why does it have to be butt to butt? It\’s so dirty!\” and so on. The problem is both not easy to explain to children and undermines the integrity of their psychological growth. What also left a deep impression on me was the content of \”masturbation\” that appeared in the fifth-grade textbook: a very detailed introduction to male and female masturbation, and a detailed description of the feelings after masturbation: \”The feeling of masturbating just now was so comfortable. !\” Immediately afterwards, he also explained the impact of masturbation on the body. This part of the story is really unacceptable! Explaining the specific process of masturbation to fifth-grade children in such detail allows them to know how to perform masturbation, understand that masturbation will give them a comfortable feeling and will not harm the body. Even if they masturbate multiple times in a row, it is only an individual difference, not a over. How will the children feel after watching this? Today\’s children do mature early. Children in fifth grade are about 11-12 years old. Some children gradually enter puberty and have a second sexual development. However, there are also a large number of children who have not entered puberty. Even those who have entered puberty have just entered early adolescence, and not many children masturbate. But things are different after getting the book. Children who were originally ignorant have detailed operating instructions and know that masturbation is a very comfortable feeling. Will the children have the idea of ​​​​trying it? Isn\’t this intentional to induce children? Masturbation is a process that follows the natural development of the body. After children enter puberty, they will gradually accumulate sexual energy as their physiology continues to mature. When sexual energy accumulates to a certain stage and needs to be released, boys will have wet dreams. This is a physiological and natural release process. And children will also learn to masturbate. This is a normal artificial release process, and this is normal. But if a child has no sexual pressure yet and is induced to have sexual impulses that stimulate the body just out of curiosity, this is unhealthy masturbation that goes against the natural rhythm of life. What is the difference between such content and \”pornographic books\”? Therefore, the descriptions in some places in this book are really explicit, and these large-scale places are exactly where children\’s sexual and psychological growth needs the most attention and is the most important. After all, the Educational Psychology Department of Beijing Normal University is one of the most powerful child psychology research centers in the country, and their sexual psychology textbooks are naturally regarded as authoritative. But the mistakes of such an authority in these key places are still very heartbreaking. The key is also the children who use this set of books. Can they really get the right guidance? Schools distribute books to children, but will they offer relevant courses? Can the teacher who talks about this course really be calm and calm about sexual intercourse, masturbation, etc., and discuss it with children calmly and without shame? If a child is curious and asks some strange questions, can they really answer it calmly? If the school distributes books to children so that they can learn on their own, then the responsibility for educating this set of books becomes the responsibility of the parents. Many parents themselves lack sex education and have a strong sense of sexual shame. They don’t know how to face it, so how can they do it?How about teaching your children with ease? From this perspective, this set of children\’s sex education books is really challenging. In any case, this set of sex education books really makes us realize the urgency of children\’s sex education. Perhaps the experts who published this set of books can improve the content more based on everyone\’s opinions and truly edit the content into This set of teaching materials is truly the most authoritative teaching material for children of all ages. Finally, I sincerely hope that mothers can learn from the time their children are born, understand their children’s sexual and psychological development process, and feel comfortable talking to their children about sex. Here are a few books recommended for mothers to understand their children’s sexual psychology: Hu Ping’s “Understanding Virginity” and “Talking to Your Child About Sex” are both excellent parent guidance books. \”Talking About Sex with Children\” by China Population Publishing House is also very good. Because children aged 0-6 years old are more emotional, it is recommended to use picture books to guide young children\’s sexual enlightenment, such as \”Serena Goes Forward\”, \”The Story of Breasts\”, \”The Story of Small Penis\”, \”Yeah, Butt\” \”, \”My brother is born\”, \”I am a girl, my brother is a boy\”, \”Our bodies\”, \”Oriental children\’s sex education picture book\”, \”Girls, things you should know\”, \”Secrets of boys\” \”, \”Our Bodies\”, \”Don\’t Be Casual Series\”, etc. are all very good sexual enlightenment picture books. In short, sex education is not that difficult to talk about, but it must also meet the cognitive development needs of children!