Don\’t raise your child to be a disgusting person

Last Saturday, I took my son to the cinema to watch the new version of \”Beauty and the Beast.\” Originally he was going for the beast. So over time, when I encounter dull character dialogue. He became impatient when he didn\’t see the beast. At first I said I didn’t want to wear 3D glasses because they were uncomfortable. I squirmed in my seat and didn\’t say anything. But after a while. He stood up, and his small stature had no impact on the back row. But he still wanted to hold on to the back of the chair in front of him. At this time, people in the front row will of course be disturbed. I quickly pulled him back. The boy pouted unhappily. I gently pushed him into his seat. He just said he was hungry and wanted to make some noise. Children always think of various ways to deal with their boredom. Sometimes it\’s to get your parents\’ attention. So I took this opportunity to take him out to buy something to eat. Out of the cinema. I solemnly told him that what he just did was wrong. \”Because this is a place for everyone to watch movies, not our home. If you do this, you will disturb other people and become an annoying person.\” The boy seemed to realize that he was wrong at this time. Later, after entering with popcorn in hand, he sat there politely until the end of the play. Parents should all have this experience. My children are in restaurants, or in public places such as high-speed trains, cars, and airplanes. He always accidentally disturbs others. Or get disturbed by other naughty kids. If parents do not help their children correct such behavior in time. Over time, it becomes a habit, which is harm, not love! Many times, parents use the banner of their children’s natural freedom. Let your children do whatever they want. Often raises a child that is annoying. Last time, a mother said in the group: I watched my daughter go to the children\’s playground in a shopping mall to play with sand. A little boy kept throwing sand at him from a high place. I stopped the little boy several times, but he still ignored me. Stop this behavior. His mother also shouted several times: Don’t throw sand at the children. It was no use, so he continued. A friend who went with him said with emotion: \”No one can stop them from doing whatever they want. There are a lot of kids like this nowadays.\” In fact, we should all have seen this situation. And probably not many people would welcome such a child except his mother. Some parents really just shout, fearing that they will stop their children and make them timid. And I take it for granted that children will be sensible when they grow up, and it is better to be more naughty when they are young. And some parents don\’t even shout, pretending not to see. I sometimes take my son out with me. I\’ve heard it said countless times that boys just have to be a little bit naughty. Indeed, naughty is a boy\’s nature. But the child needs this natural freedom before it can stretch. There must be one rule: don\’t hinder other people. Because only respect others and take care of other people\’s feelings. People with empathy will be welcomed and respected by others. So, when my son was running alone in the square to vent his energy. You can completely let him enjoy himself. And in theaters or other public places. Or when playing games with others, there must be rules. Many times, when he is angry or accidentally hits a child. They will ask him to think about what if you were beaten.How will you feel? Or maybe it was your turn to play, but someone beat you to it. How are you feeling? Help children slowly develop empathy and learn to identify and care for other people\’s feelings, so that children will not become an annoying person who only cares about themselves and not others. Parents should let their children understand as early as possible that the world belongs to everyone, and some things do not belong to you. I once saw an article on the Internet that is worth thinking about for parents. The author tells us the importance of education from his own personal experience. \”It was on a bus. I got on the bus at the departure station and sat in the last row. Behind me, a mother and daughter came up. The mother was in her thirties and wore rimless glasses. . Her daughter was five or six years old, holding a stuffed toy tightly in her arms. There were still some empty seats in the carriage at that time, but the little girl looked at those empty seats, then pointed at me firmly and said to her mother: “I’m going to sit there. \”I was stunned. The woman smiled at me apologetically. She lowered her head and said to the little girl: \”Let\’s go sit over there by the window. \”No, I want to sit there!\” \”The little girl pointed at me again. I don\’t know why the little girl insisted on sitting in my seat. But I know that now she is in a relationship with her mother. She lets the woman coax her no matter how she wants. She just stands there and refuses to follow the woman. Go sit. I think what the little girl wants now is not a seat, but a kind of satisfaction. Perhaps most of the time, she can get this kind of satisfaction at home, from her mother. The problem is, now, she Not at home.” The author didn’t give in and taught the kid a lesson. I had to say no to her that day, not just with words but with actions. Tell this little girl: There are some things in this world that don\’t belong to her. Things that don\’t belong to her can\’t be obtained by acting like a spoiled child or threatening the only mother who has no position or bottom line towards her. I think this is something that parents need to let their children understand. So when your child is lying on the floor in the supermarket having a tantrum, let you satisfy him. When your child acts like a spoiled child at home, ask you to listen to him. what should you do? Don’t let your child “get it” the first time he does it. Smart children will understand that doing so is useless, and they will often not do it next time. If the rules are not established as early as possible, let the children understand this truth. That child will eventually be severely educated by this world. In the process of raising children, in the final analysis, the values ​​of the parents will affect the children. In the process of forming a child\’s outlook on life, family education plays the most important role. Because schools often don\’t know their children as well as parents do. Jin Xing once mentioned his own parenting standards: as long as the children are not annoying when they go out into society. \”My standard for children\’s growth and education is: one day when they go out into society, these three children just don\’t make people annoying. When children go out into society and make people annoying, they have truly failed at the starting line. Your words make people comfortable, which is a sign of entrepreneurship. And the first step in doing anything, who teaches the first step, do you expect the school? I am disgusted. I compete with society and schools for children, and what I compete for is a value, a moral standard, and finally an attitude. In the final analysis , what values ​​are instilled in children will bear fruit.\”Because parents\’ knowledge and upbringing have the greatest impact on their children. Raise an educated child and be a person who will not be disliked by others. There is a long way to go, but it must be done!