Child, take your time, don\’t rush

Time is easy. It\’s March and April again, and many schools are holding mobilization rallies for the high school and college entrance examinations to encourage students in their sprint phase. Because I have written a lot about education before, many students have become my readers and often leave me messages. Most of these messages convey a sense of powerlessness and anxiety about poor grades and not knowing how to work hard. The most frequent word is – anxious. A senior high school student said: Teacher Su, I will take the college entrance examination in more than two months. My scores in every simulation are very poor. I really want to improve my scores. Do you have any good ways to help me improve my scores during this period? Increase 200 points within 20 seconds? I\’m so anxious! When I saw the message, I smiled bitterly and said \”urgent\” again. The child\’s WeChat avatar is a back figure buried in a pile of books doing homework. He exudes an aura of nervousness, especially like my daughter who is doing homework at the desk every night. My daughter is also often anxious about her studies. Before the midterm exam last semester, her class teacher said that this exam would require a city-wide ranking, so everyone should work harder. In those days, my daughter stayed up late every day. Once very late, I woke up and saw that the light was still on in her bedroom. I went over and asked: Baby, why are you still up so late? I have to go to school tomorrow. The daughter lay dejectedly on the desk and asked timidly: Mom, I\’m afraid I won\’t do well in this exam and will be ranked at the bottom. Will you be angry? I put my arm around her shoulders and said: No. Mom doesn\’t care about your test scores, she only cares about your accumulation bit by bit. As long as you work hard, your results won\’t be too bad, I believe in you. The daughter smiled, and the uneasiness in her eyes turned into the confidence of the past. In the next few days, she stopped being anxious, calmed down, and reviewed her homework calmly. In that exam, her scores were better than before. In fact, every child will encounter this situation when they are students. I still often find myself in the examination room in my dreams, facing test questions that I don’t know how to write, and I am extremely anxious. Of course, there is no shortage of academics around us who can achieve good results easily. When I was in junior high school, I particularly admired a female classmate. She was in the same grade as me and in a different class. She was very beautiful, and her grades were often among the top in the school. I heard that her family conditions were also very good. Maybe she still doesn\’t know me, but she once existed in my heart like a goddess. When we were in high school, we no longer went to the same school, and we gradually lost news about her. I only knew that she worked in a certain unit after graduating from college, but I had never met her. Last year, I had not taken public transportation for a long time and was blind, so I sat in the wrong direction. Looking at the scenery outside the window, I felt something was wrong, so I asked a woman in the seat in front of me. She turned around, and I immediately recognized her as the top student I admired back then. He has vague eyebrows, is well-dressed, and has a sophisticated and shrewd look on his face. She impatiently told me that I was sitting in the wrong direction and to get off at the stop sign in front. I agreed nonchalantly, thanked her, and listened to her chatting with her companions next to me. She seems to work in a particularly quiet workplace, and she often excuses herself from work. This time she went to play mahjong with a sister. When I got off the bus, I looked back and glanced at the top student of the year. She was talking animatedly with her companions and had an unbridled smile on her face.. The goddess in my heart fell apart in an instant. Life is a process of superposition and accumulation. It does not consist in gaining one city or one pool at a time. Even if you are extremely talented, as long as you stop learning, you will inevitably become obsolete in the end. The student days are for you to spend a whole period of time focusing on and working hard, and doing your best for a goal. And if you try hard but still don\’t get the desired results, don\’t worry. I once worked as a social supervisor for a group company and interviewed the CEO there. He is an old man who is over seventy years old. When he was studying, he was caught up in the era when he could not take the college entrance examination. However, he never gave up studying. With a set of advanced concepts and business models he created by himself, he made a small shop with more than a dozen people, It took thirty years, step by step, to develop into an enterprise group with tens of thousands of people. Their company\’s cases have been included in many business school textbooks, and he himself has been hired as a visiting professor at many universities. The boss said that the most important thing for a person is to maintain the ability to learn throughout his life. He lost the opportunity to take the college entrance examination, the opportunity to join the army, and the opportunity to become a regular employee. But he has been working hard and accumulating every moment. Fate finally did not let him down and gave him twice as much as he had wanted but never got. Mr. Peng Minghui, a Taiwanese historian, once said: Life is a long-term and continuous accumulation process. You will get what you deserve sooner or later, and what you don’t deserve cannot last long. The only thing we should be concerned about is our true accumulation process, the accumulation bit by bit 24 hours a day, rather than the temporary good and bad fortunes. If we can see this fact clearly, the process of life will truly be \”nothing goes in vain\”. There is nothing to be greedy for and nothing to be anxious about. Yes. Take your time, kid, don\’t rush. Anxiety is the most useless emotion. It can easily upset a person\’s mood and make things worse. Give yourself a direction, don\’t panic all the way, go forward step by step, book by book, class by class. The mind is calm and the mind is calm, growing from weak to strong. Don’t worry about tomorrow that is too far away. In every period of time, arrange yourself well, live up to the years, maintain the best present, and then accumulate these present, bit by bit, into a beautiful future.