Children who are admitted to good universities have these five characteristics

Last weekend, Rui Rui\’s mother took Rui Rui to visit her friend\’s house. She actually had a selfish motive – she wanted to learn from her friend\’s son Kangkang, a top student. Speaking of Kangkang, he is really the \”darling\” among our mothers. Not only does he have excellent academic performance, he often wins various awards, he is also very polite. Every time he sees us \”weird aunties\”, he greets us warmly. . On the other hand, our children are like seeing \”ghosts\” when they see people, and they quickly hide behind adults. (Of course, our child also has many advantages. From this point of view, he is indeed not as good as other children.) When we first arrived at a friend’s house, Kangkang was reading a book, Dad Kang was reading the newspaper, and my friend was doing embroidery. Cross stitch, what a peaceful picture of time. Seeing us coming, Kangkang immediately put down the book in his hand and greeted us warmly. After chatting for a while, I couldn\’t help but get down to the topic, \”Kangkang, can you share your learning experience with your brother Ruirui?\” However, Kangkang\’s next remarks were not only for Rui Rui. Rui has learned a lesson, which makes us parents unable to help but reflect on it. Scores seem to have always been an issue that parents are more concerned about, but my parents have told me since I was a child that it doesn\’t matter how many scores you get on the exam, as long as you try your best. I know what my parents mean by trying their best: first, I will use my talents as much as I can; second, I will gain as much as I work hard. In my family, my parents have never blushed at me because of my scores. Maybe my parents know me better. Every time I take a test, my parents know what score I should get. If I get close to the standard score in my mind, my parents will say that I passed the test. My actual level is pretty good; and if I did much worse in the test, my parents would not criticize me, but would feel sorry for me because my efforts were not rewarded accordingly. Because of this, I usually don’t have any pressure on exams, and I can face them as easily as I usually do my homework. My parents once told me: Life is like an examination room, and school is just a stage. Just face it calmly. Regarding reading, in fact, I developed the habit of reading because my parents often read, so I followed suit. And what I read are usually classic world masterpieces, such as \”The Little Prince\” and \”The Old Man and the Sea\”. At the beginning, you might not understand it, but after reading a few books, you\’ll get a feel for it. When I started writing the composition, I obviously felt more literary, and my reading comprehension score also improved a lot. As expected, reading is like eating. The grains we eat become the blood and flesh of our body, and the books we read become our temperament, ideas and soul. Regarding independence, my mother has told me since I was a child that she and my father cannot protect me forever. One day I will grow up, so I have to try to be independent. I remember one time, after playing crazy for a long time in an amusement park, I was thirsty and wanted to drink an ice-cold soda. My mother gave me money and asked me to buy it myself. But at that time, I was still young and very shy, so I didn’t dare to go by myself. So I begged my mother to buy it, but my mother told me, \”You can either buy it yourself and drink it, or you will be thirsty and drink it when you get home.\”It\’s your choice. \”In the end, I chose not to buy it when I was thirsty. My mother didn\’t say anything or get angry at all. She respected my choice. When I got home and drank water, I was thinking in my heart, what if I do it next time? When encountering this situation, I must muster the courage to buy water by myself. I am very grateful to my mother for not forcing me to do anything, nor criticizing me while buying it for me. There are still many moments in life, Dad My mother tried to let me make my own choices, and most of the time, they respected my choices and did not make any negative comments. It is precisely because of this that I have the space to think independently. When I am older, I have developed the habit of thinking independently when encountering problems and not relying on others. Regarding letting go, children can be truly independent only if their parents are willing to let go. In life, maybe it is because parents dote on their children, or maybe because parents think their children are not doing well enough, so, Parents would rather do it for their children than let their children do it themselves. Sometimes if they let their children do it, if they are not satisfied, they will yell at them, which in turn will make them afraid to do things by themselves next time. . If the child does it by himself, even if he does not do well, he will learn something from it; but if you help the child do it, no matter how well he does it, the success does not belong to the child, but to you. . Therefore, parents might as well use encouragement and give appropriate guidance to their children, give the opportunity to their children, and let them explore on their own, even if they fail (Isn’t failure the normal state of life? Without failure, how can there be progress? ). Only through repeated practice can children continue to make progress and grow. Regarding carelessness in exams, I often hear students say: \”Oh, I know all these questions, but I was too careless at the time.\” \”I once thought so and practiced it once, but was criticized by my mother. My mother told me: \”Never use carelessness as an excuse to cover up the fact that you are not capable. \”Actually, if you think about it carefully, the word \”careless\” is not just a simple carelessness, but also a kind of helplessness of \”I could have…\” isn\’t it? So, when I lose points in the exam, I will first reflect on myself, where is it? Have you not studied well enough? Which part of your ability needs to be improved? Try to master the knowledge you have learned. This is why my grades have been steadily improving. When it comes to educating children, I hope parents can remember one sentence: The ultimate goal of education The purpose is to cultivate happy ordinary people. If you can live a happy and healthy life, even if it is a successful life, don\’t put too much pressure on your children.