Unexpected pregnancy of underage girls, parents are to blame

Recently, a piece of news on the Internet about \”an underage girl gave birth to a baby and left it on the side of the road\” made me feel a little pain in my heart. To be honest, I get scared every time I see such news, fearing that this kind of thing will happen to my daughter. on the body. The news incident was like this. A 15-year-old girl gave birth to a baby. After wrapping the baby in a cotton-padded jacket, she quietly threw the poor little life on the roadside. Through investigation, the police quickly found the child\’s biological mother. To everyone\’s surprise, the mother turned out to be an underage girl. Under pressure from her parents, the girl told the truth. It turned out that she had chatted with a boyfriend on WeChat. After she and the boyfriend rented a house in the city several times, she found out that she was pregnant. She did not dare to tell her family because she had no money. So I had to secretly give birth to it and then throw it away! Faced with the girl\’s cries, her parents felt that she had embarrassed them, but they never realized their responsibilities and even regretted letting their child come into the world. As parents, we are always like this and don\’t like to calm down and think about the root cause of things. In our world, children are always taught to study hard. It seems that only children who study well can be worthy of our efforts. As time goes by, the children develop a fear of us, and they cannot get the slightest warmth from us. When children enter adolescence, we are ashamed to talk to them about sex, always thinking that this issue is too early for them, but in fact, the hazy understanding of sex has been rooted in their hearts, and because they are full of curiosity about sex, they will Choose to try. As parents, if you don\’t teach them about sex, someone will teach them, but this will cause great harm to them physically and mentally. When it happens, we will really regret it. If you can\’t ensure that your child has sex, then at least you have to teach her how to protect herself! Youth is a beautiful word, and adolescence is a necessary stage for every child to grow up. During this period, children have many sexual issues that they do not understand, but as parents we must teach them, because it means that we provide her with adequate protection. Three years ago, because of work, I met a girl named Guoguo. Because she had no common sense about physiology and was curious in her youth, she ignorantly had a relationship with a male classmate. She only found out that she was pregnant a few months later. . Guoguo is a left-behind child. Her parents went south to work in order to create better living conditions for her. She lives with her grandmother in her hometown. When Guoguo went to reunite with her parents during the summer vacation, her attentive mother discovered that Guoguo’s belly was slightly bulging. So I took her to the hospital for a check-up. When the results came out, Guoguo\’s mother collapsed on the ground. Under her questioning, Guoguo told the truth. It turned out that after her parents left, she fell in love with a boy in her class and secretly tasted the forbidden fruit. The mother asked her angrily why she didn\’t take protective measures? Guoguo said in confusion: \”I don\’t know how to protect. I have never learned and no one taught me.\” Seeing her daughter\’s appearance, the mother knew that no matter how much she said, it would be in vain, so she had no choice but to take Guoguo to the hospital for surgery. Later, Guoguo’s mother said to me: “If I had known that something like this would happen, I should have taught her\”Protective measures, but it is too late.\” We always thought that we were smart and could control the growth trajectory of our children, but many things happened that we did not expect. When things happened, we would fall into deep self-consciousness. They are responsible, but even this cannot change the fact that has happened. Every parent wants to create the best material conditions for their children, and the idea they instill in them has always been to study hard, as if as long as they study well, everything will not be a problem, but I think the most important thing is to teach children how to grow. We cannot always be with our children. We put too much pressure on our children, and over time they are unwilling to communicate with us at all. We always think that children who study well are the ancestors of the family, because , we never told them about things other than study, everything seemed to be taken for granted, but when it happened, we realized how stupid we were. Teaching children how to protect themselves is much more important than letting them study well! In fact, in children In this world, learning is not important, but the understanding of this world. What we have to do is to make him feel the dangers of this world and learn to protect himself. Only in this way, we will not let tragedy happen again It happened several times. I used to know a mother named Su Su. She was a psychological counselor. Because of her profession, she could keenly feel the changes in her daughter. Every time her child fell into confusion during adolescence, she would be patient and patient. Answer. Once, when they were watching TV together, their daughter asked her if two people could get pregnant if they kissed? Su Su smiled and said: \”You can\’t get pregnant by kissing. If you have a boy you like at school, it won\’t happen if you kiss occasionally.\” It\’s related, but you must not delay your studies.\” Su Su\’s words made her daughter very comfortable. Later, her daughter told her that she had indeed fallen in love with a boy, but she understood that it did not affect her studies. What Su Su did most during that time was Tell your daughter how to protect herself instead of telling her what not to do. Su Su feels that since children are in the rebellious period of youth, they will definitely have their own ideas. If we did not give children the correct guidance before, then the only thing we can do now is Avoid tragedies instead of reprimanding the children loudly. If you really do this, the result will be counterproductive. Under Su Su\’s education, her daughter spent her adolescence smoothly, and she even felt that it was her best memory. , now the mother and daughter get along very harmoniously. In the eyes of her daughter, Susu is a very good mother. In the adult world, we know how to avoid risks, and we know how to protect ourselves in the interactions between men and women, but in the In the world of children, they really don’t understand these things. Sometimes children want to tell us these problems, but many times we choose to interrupt violently. We naively think there is nothing wrong with this approach, but it deeply It deeply hurt the child, causing her to not tell us anything in the future, but to choose to try it herself. Such a result not only harmed herself, but also harmed the child. Sometimes telling the child the truth that they should know is not the most powerful way. Protection. Every child has his own growth trajectory. What we have to do is not to block but to guide and tell himThings you should know at your age, don’t be shy about talking to your child about sex, because this may be your best protection for her. In Western countries, parents regard their children\’s sex education as very important. They always actively discuss this issue with their children so that they can rationally understand the importance of this matter and form correct sexual values. If something is destined to be inevitable, then they will tell their children how to protect themselves immediately to avoid unnecessary life tragedies. If you have not learned how to educate your children from the beginning, then I think you must at least learn how to protect your children. When something unexpected happens, as a parent, don’t always feel that it is your child who has embarrassed you. On the contrary, I feel that all this has nothing to do with the child. You have never taught her how to do it. Why do you still ask your child to handle things the same as you? Perfect? If your underage daughter becomes pregnant unexpectedly, this is your responsibility. You may want to defend yourself, but the tragedy in life caused by your negligence is destined to be borne by you personally. If possible, stop emphasizing the importance of learning to your child. Teaching him how to grow is the most important thing. When you teach her the ability to protect herself, I think this is the most important thing a parent should do, and she will definitely be grateful to you!