The lazier a mother is in these four aspects, the better her children will be. The earlier parents know, the better.

In this fast-paced, high-stress era, every parent has deep expectations for their children\’s future and spares no effort to pave the way for their growth. However, on the journey of parenting, there is a kind of wisdom called \”appropriate letting go\”. This article will explore four areas. If mothers can learn to be \”lazy\” in these areas, they will not only make their lives more calm, but also inadvertently cultivate more independent, confident, and creative children. This is not only the embodiment of modern educational concepts, but also coincides with the wisdom in ancient Chinese classics, and jointly points to a more profound educational philosophy. 1. Being \”lazy\” in decision-making – let children be the helmsmen of their own lives. Classic Chinese quote: \”It is better to teach a man to fish than to teach him to fish.\” – \”Laozi\” Xiaojie is a fifth-grade student. When faced with choosing interest classes or holiday activities, his mother, Ms. Li, always habitually makes the decision for him. Until one day, Xiaojie was deeply attracted by the robot project at the school\’s science and technology festival by chance, but found that he had never had the opportunity to contact it. Ms. Li began to reflect and decided to be \”lazy\” in future decisions and listen more to Xiaojie\’s voice. She had an in-depth conversation with Xiaojie: \”Xiaojie, what do you really like? Have you ever thought about what you want to do?\” Xiaojie\’s eyes lit up and he said excitedly: \”Mom, I like robots. I want to learn programming!\” From then on, Ms. Li no longer took responsibility for choosing interest classes, but encouraged Xiaojie to make his own decisions and bear the consequences. Not only is Xiaojie more proactive in his studies, he has also won many awards in municipal science and technology competitions, and his self-confidence and sense of responsibility have been significantly improved. Psychological perspective: According to self-determination theory, when individuals are able to independently determine their own actions, they will experience higher intrinsic motivation and satisfaction. Mothers who are \”lazy\” appropriately and allow their children to participate in the decision-making process can cultivate their autonomy and sense of responsibility, allowing them to follow their own path more firmly in the future. 2. Being \”lazy\” in solving problems – stimulating children\’s creativity and resilience. A classic Chinese classic quote: \”When heaven is about to assign a great responsibility to a man, he must first work hard for his mind and body.\” – \”Mencius\” life case: Xiaoyu is a second-grade child. When she encounters problems, she always seeks help from her mother as soon as possible. The mother, Ms. Zhang, decided to change her strategy. She began to \”pretend not to understand\” and guide Xiaoyu to find the answer on her own. During a math homework, Xiaoyu encountered a difficult problem. She habitually shouted: \”Mom, I don\’t know this question!\” Ms. Zhang responded with a smile: \”Mom is not sure, but we can find the answer together. Where do you think we can start?\” Xiaoyu was stunned for a moment, then picked up the pen and started trying to draw pictures and list formulas. After some hard work, he finally solved the problem by himself. At that moment, her face was filled with an unprecedented sense of accomplishment. Psychological perspective: Frustration education theory believes that moderate setbacks can stimulate children\’s potential and cultivate their resilience and creativity. When mothers are \”lazy\” in solving problems, they actually provide their children with opportunities to think and solve problems independently, allowing them to learn to face difficulties in practice, thereby cultivating perseverance. 3. In terms of self-care in life\”Lazy\” – to promote children\’s independence and sense of responsibility, a classic Chinese classic quote: \”If you don\’t sweep one house, how can you sweep the world?\” – \”Book of the Later Han Dynasty\” Xiao Ming\’s mother, Ms. Wang, has always been a hard-working housewife. Even after Xiao Ming entered junior high school, he still didn’t know how to tidy up his room. Ms. Wang realized the seriousness of the problem and decided to let Xiao Ming take care of his own life. At first, Xiao Ming felt at a loss, but as time went by, he gradually learned to wash clothes, make the bed, and even help prepare simple breakfast. One day, Ms. Wang came home from get off work and saw the clean room and the hot breakfast on the table. She was moved and said: \”Xiao Ming, you have really grown up.\” Psychological perspective: According to developmental psychology, childhood is about cultivating independence. A critical period for sex and responsibility. A mother who is appropriately \”lazy\” in taking care of herself can encourage her children to learn to take care of themselves and develop a sense of responsibility for life and the ability to manage themselves. This ability is not only relevant to daily life, but also the cornerstone of future independent life. 4. Being \”lazy\” in emotional expression – cultivating children\’s empathy and emotional independence. Classic Chinese quote: \”Don\’t do to others what you don\’t want others to do to you.\” – \”The Analects\” Xiaoli\’s mother, Ms. Zhao, is an emotional person A delicate person is always worried that Xiaoli will be wronged and often fights for her. However, as Xiaoli entered adolescence, Ms. Zhao found that this approach made Xiaoli highly dependent and lacked the ability to solve problems on her own. As a result, Ms. Zhao began to adjust her own approach, \”lazy\” more emotionally, and encouraged Xiaoli to face and handle her emotions on her own. Once, Xiaoli was wronged at school and went home feeling depressed. Ms. Zhao did not immediately come forward to comfort her, but patted her back gently and said, \”Mom, I know you feel bad now, but this is part of your growth. Try to think of how to solve it yourself. If necessary, mom I\’ll be here.\” Xiaoli was silent for a while, then began to express her thoughts and decided to communicate with the teacher the next day. Afterwards, she told Ms. Zhao that she felt more relaxed and powerful than ever before. Psychological perspective: Emotional independence is one of the important signs of personality maturity. A mother who is appropriately \”lazy\” in emotional expression does not mean to be indifferent, but to give her children space to experience and process their own emotions, thereby cultivating their empathy and emotional independence. Such children will be better able to understand and respect others in future interpersonal interactions, and will be better able to handle their own emotions appropriately. Conclusion On the road of parenting, a mother\’s \”laziness\” is not really laziness, but a kind of superb wisdom and a deep understanding and respect for the laws of children\’s growth. By letting go appropriately in decision-making, problem-solving, self-care and emotional expression, mothers can not only reduce their own burdens, but also invisibly cultivate children who are more independent, confident, creative and empathetic. As the Chinese classic says, \”It is better to teach a man to fish than to teach him to fish.\” Let us grow with our children with a more open and tolerant attitude and witness them becoming the masters of their own lives. In the days to come, I hope every parent can be a guide on the road to growth for their children, rather than a nanny who takes care of everything. let meWe join hands and use love and wisdom to draw beautiful pictures of parenting together.