When dealing with adolescent children, if parents stay calm and do not magnify their children\’s problems, their children will get better and better.

Yesterday, my eldest daughter’s math teacher came to see me and sent her her homework. Three of the five basic questions were wrong. Let me pay more attention to my children and relax when school starts. After I got home from school and had dinner, I calmed down and said calmly: \”This is what the teacher sent to my mother, please read it.\” She explained herself that it was a wrong question in the preview. I said nothing more. In the long journey of children\’s growth, the role of parents is crucial. Parents\’ mentality and behavior often have a profound impact on their children. There is one quality that is particularly critical to the growth of children, and that is the ability of parents to remain calm. Teacher Li Mingqi, who plays \”Mama Rong\”, was participating in a program hosted by Sa Beining. An audience member asked a question – \”If your children make you angry in daily life, how harshly would you treat them?\” Sa Beining cautiously asked. Question: \”Is beating and scolding the limit?\” How deep is this childhood shadow? Teacher Li Mingqi said she never beat or scold her children. She gave an example: When her son was 12 or 13 years old, he was in the rebellious period of adolescence. During that time, his learning status was very bad and his mood was also very bad. She observed, but did not ask the child directly. Instead, she went to communicate with the teacher. When I asked, I found out that I was a good student at first, but now I only scored 15 points in the math test, which is not ideal in all subjects. The teacher also gave up and said he should go to a technical school. After Teacher Li Mingqi returned home, he did not blame or nag the children. She silently bought a piece of glass for the desk, and pressed a piece of paper with eight characters: \”It\’s not too late to fix the situation before it\’s too late.\” The child was stunned for a long time when she saw it, and she pretended not to see it. Then cook well and treat your kids better than usual. It goes without saying that the child understands it himself. 02 Parents can keep their composure and will not lose their temper or lose patience easily when faced with various problems and challenges from their children. Parents know how to control their emotions and handle problems with a peaceful and calm attitude. For example, when a child\’s test scores are unsatisfactory, calm parents will not scold the child immediately. Instead, they will analyze the test paper with the child to find out the problem and encourage the child to work hard next time. This calm way of handling not only allows children to feel their parents\’ understanding and support, but also helps children better face setbacks and develop their ability to withstand stress. Now I practice staying calm every day, and my two kids do one thing or another every day. Our children are not the kind of obedient children, they are more independent. Last night, the eldest daughter and her father were arguing and confronting each other because of something. When she was a child, she was a little afraid of her father, but now she is not afraid, and she keeps talking back to him, which makes her father lose his temper. My second daughter and I said that if we don’t participate, we can watch the plot for free. Calm down, it\’s because the relationship between father and daughter always quarrels. Parents can also create a stable and harmonious family environment for their children by staying calm. My husband and I have managed not to undermine each other or say bad things about each other behind our backs. Sometimes my daughter complains about her father, and I would say, don’t talk about my husband in front of me. The second daughter said, you two are really of the same mind. In the psychological ranking of families, the relationship between husband and wife comes first, and the children come second. A stable and harmonious relationship between husband and wife is the anchor of the family. The family is the cradle for children to grow up. A family full of quarrels and tension will make children feelto uneasiness and fear. Parents who are calm can handle various relationships in the family and avoid conflicts caused by trivial matters. They will resolve conflicts between husband and wife in a rational way, set a good example for their children, and let their children thrive in a warm and harmonious family. In the process of educating children, it is particularly important for parents to remain calm. Every child has his own growth rhythm and characteristics. Some children may make slower progress in learning, and some may be more introverted. Calm parents will not become anxious because of their children\’s temporary performance. They will respect their children\’s personality differences, patiently guide their children, and help them develop their strengths. I have a Pu baby at home, so I am calm now. In the fifth grade, we use textbooks as the core to help children build a learning experience and lay a foundation for them. I know there is no rush in raising children. If parents stay calm and don\’t magnify or get entangled in their children\’s problems, their children will get better and better. Let us strive to be calm parents, use our patience, wisdom and love to accompany our children through every stage of life and witness their growth and progress.