The most ignored by parents, the most effective learning method, four words

Those who have been reading my articles for a long time should know that there is a bad student in my family, a student who has been at the back of the class for four years, and is average in average. I wrote in my last article that in fifth grade, I have to pay attention and take care of the children. The day before yesterday, I checked my second daughter\’s English recitation, 10 sentences, and it took two hours. Her sister was surprised that it was so simple, but there were so many repeated words, yet she couldn\’t learn it, remember it, or understand it at all. In the process of tutoring children. Am I broken? No. Did I have a heart attack? No. Am I anxious? No. Am I anxious? No. Did I reprimand my child? No. How I do it is not how patient I am or how emotionally stable I am. Because I know that a person’s learning cannot be felt. Even if you force the child to learn by slapping the table and staring, the child will learn it for the time being. In the long run, if there is no connection with learning experience, bad feelings, no enthusiasm, and internal drive will be difficult to develop. When I raise my children, I don’t focus on the high school and college entrance examinations. I am a long-termist and hope that my children will have the ability to learn throughout their lives. This is to not be afraid of slowness in the learning process, but to have a good experience in learning bit by bit. The most neglected and most effective learning method by parents is four words: learning experience. The child must experience that it is okay for her. When my second daughter learns a word, I encourage her. When she learns a sentence, I encourage her. I encourage her over and over again and affirm her over and over again. Although it took me two hours to learn 10 sentences. But this learning experience will support future learning. 02 It has been three days since school started. In the first two days, I was embarrassed about homework. I didn’t want to write. I thought the teacher left too much homework and there was very little actual homework. But the children themselves have many feelings, and the teacher is strict. Yesterday, the child stopped complaining after school, but wrote seriously. Yesterday, he took the initiative to ask me a math question. A math question. The temperature in a certain place is 19 degrees, and the temperature in a certain place is minus 15 degrees. What is the temperature difference between the two places? I couldn’t understand the question no matter how I explained it. Then I said, look at the floor. The two underground floors are the negative two floors, and there are 10 floors above ground. How many floors are there in total? She said 12 floors. Suddenly, she understood the temperature difference, and she was so happy that she had an epiphany. She said, Mom, I didn’t even ask you questions before, and I didn’t do the questions I didn’t know how to do. If the teacher checks and just copies the classmates\’ answers, or if the teacher doesn\’t tell you and just copies the answers, a lot of the homework is just a fool\’s errand, and at most he\’ll be criticized by the teacher, and that\’s fine. I said, thank you for talking to my mother so much. For Puwa, we must not be anxious and find ways to make the child understand and experience that she is understandable and that she can learn well. This is really crucial. Confidence is built up little by little. Later, there was a math question that was a regular question. I originally planned to ask it to me, but then I said to myself that I would observe it first and finally figured it out on my own. 03 Accompanying Puwa is a difficult process, but in the long run, from the experience of learning and feeling, the direction will not be wrong. Although it is slow, this slow method allows children to experience that I can do it, and it is a process of cultivating self-confidence. If children are anxious to see their results, they will experience a feeling of frustration. The more anxious they are, the less they will be able to do it, and thus they will deny themselves and really think that they are not good enough. When parents see their childrenIf a child\’s performance is poor, it is thought that the child does not work hard and is not motivated. In fact, the child has not established a good connection with learning. The child has also worked hard, but what he experienced was a feeling of frustration. The parents criticized the child, and the child was double-negative. In the end, the child really couldn\’t learn at all and was on the road to lying down. The impact of primary school grades on the future is actually not as great as imagined. There are also many children who make counterattacks in junior high schools. However, the learning experience in primary school has a great impact on children in junior high school and even later. Poor grades bring too many negative feelings to children. As a parent of a senior student with bad grades, I have deep experience. Therefore, I want to bring my children to experience the learning experience little by little, so that they don’t get upset when they see learning. If you want to experience the learning experience, you should not look at your grades, but cultivate your feelings bit by bit, build them up, and one day the talent will wait and blossom. If you don\’t establish a learning experience, frankly speaking, this kind of waiting for flowering will lack nutrition and moisture. Exactly when it will bloom is unknown. That\’s like growing crops in our village in the past and relying entirely on the sky for food. But now that the village has built a canal, every piece of land can be watered, and then there will be a bumper harvest. The same principle applies to childcare. Watering, fertilizing, and adequate nutrition will ensure that the nourished children will be good. Therefore, it is more important to pay attention to children\’s learning experience than academic performance. Of course, this really tests the determination and perseverance of parents.