There are three types of children in junior high schools who are not suitable for tutoring at all. Parents are spending money in vain. Not only is it ineffective, but it may also harm the children.

Regarding make-up lessons, parents generally have three kinds of perceptions. 1. The worse your study is, the more you need to make up lessons. 2. Everyone is taking supplements. If you don’t take supplements, you will suffer. 3. Good grades are made up. Because of this understanding, it is now common practice for primary and secondary schools to provide supplementary classes. It is said that 95% of the children in my niece’s junior high school class are taking extra classes. In this environment, my niece, who had never taken any extra classes in primary school, joined the extra class after her first year of junior high school. She took up extra classes in physics and mathematics during the summer vacation, for about 10 days each, and spent a total of nearly 10,000 yuan on extra classes. . My cousin felt really stressed out. If she paid a tuition fee, her whole month of classes would be basically in vain. If it weren’t for my husband’s income, I really don’t know how I could survive. My cousin originally thought that as long as the children were willing to learn, tutoring would be effective, so she would grit her teeth and persevere. But she never expected that before the extra class was over, her daughter actually told her that she was tired of studying and no longer wanted to study. She also said she wanted to see a psychiatrist. To be honest, there are many children around me who are tutoring outside. There are three categories that are really not suitable for tutoring. Category 1: Children with extremely poor foundation. Specifically, I didn’t understand the knowledge in class. The pronunciation of Chinese characters, ancient poems, mathematical concepts, formulas, and theorems, as well as English words and grammar cannot be accurately grasped, and there are loopholes everywhere. The top priority for such children is not to go out and make up lessons to learn skills and big moves, but to return to the textbooks first and learn the knowledge in the textbooks in a down-to-earth manner. Take mathematics for example. Children should at least memorize all concepts, formulas, and theorems by heart. All formulas and theorems should be derived once. Keep in mind the application scenarios of each concept, formula, and theorem. In addition, the examples in the book, also known as motifs, need to be studied carefully and you must do it yourself. As long as the child has a solid foundation and does not lose points, his or her scores will be greatly improved even if he does not make up lessons, and at least he will not fail. Category 2: Children who tend to be tired of learning. Just like my niece, she already had a relatively obvious tendency to be tired of studying before taking extra classes. She is very passive in her studies. As long as the teacher does not make demands and the parents do not keep an eye on her, she will not learn. Instead, she spends a lot of time sleeping in, watching TV and scrolling through her mobile phone. If you ask her to study, she will either say that she is not feeling well, or she will make demands on you and delay in various ways. My cousin was very worried about this. She believed that the reason why the child did not want to learn was because of poor academic performance. She thought that as long as she made up lessons and raised her score, the child would naturally want to learn. The final result surprised her. Not only did the extra lessons have no effect, but the child even said she no longer wanted to study. Children who tend to be tired of learning are really not suitable for tutoring. Because the problem with children is not that they learn too little, but that they have a serious lack of confidence in learning. If children are full of powerlessness and frustration in learning, then the longer they study, the more this feeling will be aggravated and they will become more tired of learning. Not only will tutoring fail to improve performance, it will also be counterproductive. Solution: Be sure to help your children build their learning confidence first. It can be done in 3 steps. The first step: first find the child’s weak points in knowledge. You can send your child’s test papers and exercises from the past semesterTake out the textbooks and workbooks, analyze the wrong questions, and see what kind of knowledge the children have not learned solidly and which parts of the knowledge have loopholes. Step 2: Learn the knowledge points thoroughly. You can use some teaching aids, such as \”Textbook Complete Solution\” or \”Textbook Help\”, to overcome the knowledge points one by one. Step 3: Work together to answer questions and gain confidence. For children with poor foundation, you can prepare a book \”Wanwei Basic Questions\” for them to solidify their foundation. Remember, don’t be too impatient and don’t think about becoming a big fat man in one sitting! Just let your child compare with yourself. As long as you are better than the previous day, give your child more likes. Category 3: Children who have no initiative to learn. Listening to lectures, whether taking classes at school or making up lessons outside, is essentially a passive way of learning. If a child cannot exert his/her subjective initiative during the lecture and just sits there listening and memorizing, then no matter how many lessons the child takes, it will be difficult to improve his or her learning ability. Even if a junior high school student is admitted to a key high school by taking extra classes, the child will soon be brought back to his original form after entering high school. Because after children enter high school, if they want to get good results, they can only rely on self-motivation and self-drive. If you want to rely on the teacher to urge you to learn, persuade you to learn, and push you to learn, it won\’t work, because high school teachers don\’t care too much. It\’s completely \”the master leads you in, and the practice depends on the individual.\” Solution: Be sure to improve children’s learning initiative! Here are 3 suggestions for you. 1. A consciousness must be implanted in the child: learning is his own business. He does not learn for his parents or teachers. He needs to be responsible for himself. 2. Parents must slowly let go and reduce control. Accompanying students should be done as early as possible, and first and second grade are the best periods. Parents should focus on cultivating good study habits for their children. In the third grade of primary school, you can let go appropriately and let your children learn to make plans and arrange their own learning tasks. In the upper grades of elementary school, it is best to let children manage themselves, so that after entering junior high school, children can enter autopilot mode in terms of learning. 3. Don’t pay too much attention to your children’s grades, and don’t set material rewards for your children. In order to encourage their children to study hard, many parents will promise their children cash rewards for as many exams as they get. Doing so is counterproductive. Children will feel that they are learning for their parents, and will probably bargain with their parents on their studies. Please don’t step into this trap!