As long as you don\’t bully your children at home, your children won\’t be bullied outside.

Another batch of children enter school during the annual school season. For parents of new students, a big concern may be whether their children will be bullied at school. As a mother, I feel the same way. I can have a bad life, but I can\’t stand my children being bullied. But how can we prevent children from being bullied? 01. You can’t teach your children to hit her back. My friend’s much-loved daughter is in primary school this year. We discussed this topic while having dinner together. Her father said, I have taught her to slap her in the face directly and hit her back. She should not suffer the consequences of being bullied anyway. I couldn\’t help but say, you can\’t teach children this way. Whether a child will be bullied outside depends on whether he is bullied at home. If you want your children not to be bullied outside, you must have a face that has not been bullied. Teaching children a simple and crude theorem such as \”fight back\” cannot adapt to complex situations and sometimes puts children into more difficult situations. The simplest thing is, what should the child do if he encounters a stronger \”opponent\” and cannot defeat him? It is sometimes necessary to use violence to fight violence and protect oneself, but it depends on the time and situation. What is needed more than simple and crude force is wisdom. Cai Kangyong once said in the program: We believe that fighting back is necessary. Rather than the power to fight back, we must cultivate the wisdom of children to fight back. The development of wisdom needs to be based on real experience, not education and indoctrination. Children need to explore through their own feelings. Children who are not bullied at home and who grow up with love, respect and freedom will have the ability to observe and feel the surrounding environment, and at the same time know how to respect and protect their own feelings. He will feel himself, feel the environment, and adjust himself during the collision. Maybe he can beat it, maybe he can\’t, maybe he can solve it without using force. He explores his own power through the experience, deciding whether to fight, flee, or seek help. He will grow his mind through experience instead of becoming a rigid and blind follower under his parents\’ education. \”Teaching\” will interfere with the child\’s inner order, interfere with his own observation, learning and self-adjustment, and make him lose the ability to respond flexibly. Therefore, instead of teaching your children to fight back, it is better to reflect on your own education. Not teaching is the best teaching. All parents have to do is be their children\’s supporters and backers. 02. Stand firmly with your children. I raised two children, ten years apart, and my own psychology has changed a lot. When I was raising my eldest son, I was still young and busy starting a business, and I had no common sense or effort as a parent. One time when his grandfather went to pick him up from kindergarten, he saw that a button on his clothes had fallen off. The neighbor kid secretly told his grandfather that the teacher had pulled it off. Neither the child nor the teacher told me about this matter. I also felt that my child must have been naughty. If the teacher didn\’t come to me, why would I have the nerve to go to the teacher? The matter would be settled. Later, when I studied family education and grew up in psychology, this matter often surfaced. Whenever I think back to my lack of companionship and protection for my children as a mother at that time, I feel heartbroken. For a child, if even his parents can\’t stand with him and protect him, then who else can give him a sense of security? Although such a thing has not happened to my younger son,It happens, but you can feel the changes in your own psychology. There is a kind of \”protecting the calf\” mentality. I will not interfere with fights between classmates. But I won\’t allow anyone to bully him. Once something happens, I will stand by his side to defend him as soon as possible. If he has any difficulties in learning, such as not wanting to do homework or asking for leave, I will stand with him, help him block some pressure from the school and teachers, and allow him to study at his own pace to the greatest extent possible. Face the problem with him instead of pointing the finger at him and asking him to solve the problem. (Attachment: [The Son Trapped in the Mood] Movie viewing: With children) I have heard a very useful saying: Since you are someone else’s parent in this life, you have to do something for them. Parents are the people that children should trust most in this world. So when a child can know for sure that no matter what happens to me, my parents are the ones who stand with me, respect me, allow me, and support me, then the child will have confidence, and children who have confidence will not Will be bullied.