I regret that I only know now, 20 moments when my child felt strongly loved

Yesterday, my eldest daughter had an appointment with her classmates to play on the beach. My classmate\’s mother and I also had a chat. During the chat, she complained that she was very kind to the second child, but yesterday my daughter cried and said that she was partial. She asked her daughter why she said that. The daughter said that when her brother came back, her mother took care of him and did not take her out to play. She also bought shoes for him and took him out to eat. Isn\’t this common? \”Usually, don\’t I treat her like this? Now I treat my boss like this, and she complains about being partial. I don\’t know how to love her anymore.\” What she said reminded me of what my youngest daughter asked me the day before yesterday. \”Mom, do you love me or your sister?\” I said I love both. You and your sister are both your mother\’s babies. Your mother will love you and your sister no matter when. The younger daughter also said, \”My sister is disobedient sometimes and is always angry with you. Don\’t love her anymore.\” I said, \”My sister is angry with me, and my mother also loves her. She is my child, so I will not stop loving her just because she makes me angry. The same goes for you, but when you make me angry, I will not love her because of your I feel sad for my behavior, but I won’t stop loving you just because you make me angry. You are the most precious and priceless in my heart.” After hearing this, my daughter hugged my neck tightly and said, Mom, I love you. You, my sister also came over and hugged me and said, Mom, I love you too. To be honest, I felt extremely happy at that moment. I felt that the meaning of having a child was to let you and your child experience the beauty of the world together. Xi Rui, a debater in \”Qi Pa Shuo\” once said: \”The important function of the family is to help children create more memorable moments.\” When raising children, what can make children feel strongly loved is actually just these 20 moments. Many parents If you use your heart, your child will be happier inside. 1. When you wake your child up in the morning, kiss his little face and whisper, \”Baby, wake up.\” Children will feel full of happiness when they hear their mother\’s gentle voice. 2. When you go out to play, set rules so that you no longer restrict your children, let them play wildly and give them a moment of release. This feeling of fun while playing will become a wonderful memory for your child. 3. Every time you cook, ask your children in advance what they will eat and cook delicious meals for them. Some parents may say that this is too pampering for their children. The fact is no, it will also make the children feel respected and cared about by their parents. I once saw a sentence on TV: There are no picky parents in this world, only picky children. In fact, the fundamental reason is that parents never ask their children what they eat, they only cook what they like. Therefore, to make your children feel loved, start with their diet! 4. When your child does homework, if he does it slowly or makes a mistake, you will not criticize him for it, but always patiently accompany and guide him. The child will strongly feel the acceptance and tolerance of his parents. Just like my eldest daughter, she recited a text for a long time yesterday. If it was my previous temper, I might have exploded, but not yesterday. I just patiently asked her to continue reading it three times, and then praised her for her good attitude. My daughter felt my acceptance and correct guidance, her attitude was better and more focused, and she memorized it soon. 5. On weekends, I always accompany my children to play in nearby parks. Let the children feel their parents’ attentiveness and make the moments of playing become beautiful memories of childhood.. 6. Every time a child celebrates his birthday, he will carefully prepare gifts for him. Just like this birthday, the father prepared a large box of love chocolates, greeting cards and flashing lights for his eldest daughter in advance. The child was full of happiness after receiving it and kept hugging his father and saying, \”Dad, I love you.\” 7. Tell your child from time to time, baby mama loves you! Loving children requires not only actions but also expressions. Frequently expressing love for children will help children always know their place and will not question their parents\’ love just because of a critical word from outsiders. 8. Every time you go out, you will hug your children and tell them to be safe on the road. Through body movements, you will let your children feel deep love. 9. Every time your child gets good grades in school, you can be extremely happy and happy and tell your child that you are really proud of your mother. 10. No matter how late the child comes back, you will leave a light for the child to let the child feel that no matter how late it is, there is someone waiting for him at home. 11. When your children do not do well, you never compare them with the children of other classmates or friends, but pay attention to see that they are a little better today than yesterday. Psychologist Leon Festinger pointed out in \”Social Comparison Theory\”: \”People have an innate drive for self-evaluation, which is to compare with others. In the eyes of parents, children naturally also evaluate themselves. \” 12. When your child is shy and timid and dares not say hello to someone, you won\’t feel embarrassed and start scolding him. Instead, you will say, \”It\’s okay to say hello next time. If you don\’t know him well, just nod and smile. \” 13. When your child behaves willfully, instead of coming over and giving him a lesson, you accept his bad mood, hug him, and ask what happened. Your acceptance can make your child feel that he has always been your most important treasure. Teacher Fan Deng once said: \”When a child loses his temper, he only rolls around and yells because he can\’t do anything else. No one has taught him how to express his emotions correctly.\” 14 . When the child was afraid of lying, you did not say that he would lie at such a young age and he would not be a bad person when he grew up. Instead, you said: \”My mother also lied because she was afraid when she was a child, but later I felt that being honest made me feel better than lying.\” When you feel comfortable, you will never lie again. I believe that after this experience, you will be brave enough to face it next time.” 15. When your child learns something for a long time, you don’t directly say that he is very good. Stupid is stupid, but he said: \”When mom first learns something, it is difficult, but once she masters the methods and skills, she starts to get better and better.\” Your acceptance and tolerance can make your children feel that love is flowing. 16. When a child gets angry and hits a younger sibling, you don’t criticize him directly. Instead, you ask him what happened. Your acceptance and listening can make your children feel respected and cherished. 17. When your child doesn’t want to share, you don’t force him, but say, “This is your thing. You have the right to share it, and you have the right not to share it.” 18. When your child makes a mistake, you don’t criticize him, but say, \”Making mistakes is the beginning of progress. If you don\’t make mistakes, how will you know where you are lacking.\” French writer Romain Rolland said: \”You should do something wrong in life. Doing wrong things is the best way to grow.\”experience. 19. When the study did not meet your expectations, you did not get angry, but said, \”Every flower has its own rhythm and flowering period. You don\’t need to compare with others, just keep your own rhythm.\” \”Your tolerance and acceptance can give him enough space to grow. 20. When your child fails, you never belittle him, but say, \”I was like this at the beginning. If you try bravely, you will be much better than me. Okay, let\’s see what to do. \”A psychologist once said: \”Parents have only one task, and that is to help their children increase their inner strength and make them more capable and courageous to face the future world. \”Written at the end: After raising children for 7 years, what I feel most is that parents give their children the most profound love, no matter whether their children do well or not. We can accept and recognize them at the first time. In this way, Only then can the children\’s memories be filled with love and security, and their hearts will become stronger and more confident because of love. Share a very touching words: Love is in the heart, and the power is eternal. Let\’s go with the children on the road together. , respect the freedom of life, accept and allow unique individuals, separate subjects, live your own life, and live a happy life. I hope we can separate subjects and give our children a broad world.