After watching the son of a professor from Peking University who dropped out of junior high school, I think God is fair to every child.

Recently, I accidentally came across an interview with Peking University professor Zhao Dongmei. What is unexpected is that Teacher Zhao Dongmei, a professor at the highest university in the country, actually has a son who dropped out of junior high school. What is even more surprising is that Teacher Zhao supports his son dropping out of school. What\’s going on? It turns out that more than ten years ago, Teacher Zhao knew nothing about the \”volume\” in Haidian District, Beijing. And her son also spent a happy and carefree childhood. He never attended preschool or took private tutoring classes. Teacher Zhao and his son were confused until they entered elementary school. Here, performance is the standard by which everything is measured. At first, my son could not keep up with the progress of the class and kept working hard secretly. Finally, one time, his son scored 90 points in the exam. Teacher Zhao was truly proud of his son. Unexpectedly, the teacher said to her with a sarcastic face: \”Do you know what scores the other students in our class got?\” Only then did Teacher Zhao know that most of the students in this exam had scores of 95 or above, and only one had a low score. I got a score of 80 or so. After staying in such an environment for a long time, Teacher Zhao\’s son became tired of studying and refused to go to school. Teacher Zhao had no way to convince his son and could only learn to accept the reality. But in the process, Teacher Zhao unexpectedly discovered that although the child was not \”ready to study,\” he was not without merit: his son liked four-wheel drive vehicles, had participated in competitions, and could repair cars by himself; his son was good at English, and could repair cars in order to Read the instruction manual in English. At another time, my son suddenly had a whim and planned to make his own trousers, so he bought teaching materials from the Fashion Institute and taught himself how to make patterns and patterns. At the end, Teacher Zhao couldn\’t help but sigh: \”It turned out that I only knew the way of studying, but when I started to accept my son, my world also opened up.\” Yes, many times we have to admit that every child There is a gap. Some children can be at the top, while some children are unable to do anything. But only using a single standard to measure and shape children is not a kind of educational shortsightedness. In fact, God is fair to every child. Among those children with poor grades, there may be an artist who doesn\’t know much about math, a musician who always fails in chemistry, and an athlete whose physical fitness is much better than his English score. What truly far-sighted parents have to do is to see the bright spots in their children and carve out their own path for them. There was once an explosive article that touched countless people, called \”My son is a genius not understood by the world.\” His mother is a university professor and his father is a civil servant, but his son has not inherited the couple\’s good genes. Not only is he not talented in studies, he is always getting into trouble. On the first day of kindergarten, he injured a child and damaged the most expensive piano in the kindergarten. In this way, my son went back and forth to many kindergartens, and the longest he stayed there did not exceed 10 days. Every time after being sent away from the kindergarten, the father would feel that his son was embarrassed and would punch and kick him. Once, when his son arrived at a new kindergarten, he peed in the children\’s rice bowls. When his father found out, he became furious and tied his son up in the living room. The son took the opportunity to break free, smashed the TV at home, and burned down his father\’s study. Finally, the son was sent into the hospital by his fatherEntered a mental hospital. When my mother came home from a business trip, she learned all this, divorced her father without saying a word, and took her son back. Looking at her son who had rarely calmed down, his mother said with tears in her eyes: \”Jiang Jiang, it turns out you can calm down. I have said before that my son is a genius who is not understood by the world!\” Later, her mother was even more surprised. I discovered that although my son likes to destroy things, he can also repair and make things. After seeing his mother lying in bed reading at night, feeling sleepy and wanting to sleep, but having to get up and turn off the lights, my son spent a week helping her modify a remote control for a lamp. Mom dubiously pressed the switch, and the lights in the room turned on instantly. As he nears the end of junior high school, his son\’s grades are not good enough for high school. He is depressed every day and even starts to harm himself. But the mother still did not give up on her son and tried hard to help him find a way out. In the end, the son agreed to go to a vocational high school to study car repair. Unexpectedly, this decision made his son\’s life gradually improve. My son went from being a \”car prodigy\” in school to becoming a \”car prodigy\” in a vocational high school. After graduation, he opened an auto repair shop and has been supporting himself ever since. Just like the Turkish proverb says: \”God prepares a twig for every stupid bird.\” In fact, there is no difference between good children and bad children in this world, only the difference between the right place and the wrong place. To judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree is absurd. I have seen a piece of news before: in Quzhou City, Zhejiang Province, there was a boy named Gong Zheng who had been seriously into science since he was a child. In the end, I only scored 450 points in the high school entrance examination, and I couldn\’t even get into the local high school. Gong Zheng\’s mother is a teacher at a key high school. At first, she was particularly worried about her son\’s condition, but later, she realized that although her son often failed in English and Chinese, he always got full marks in science. After seeing her son\’s talent, her mother decided to respect his wishes and let her go to a technical secondary school first. What people did not expect was that three years later, Gong Zheng was admitted to Zhejiang Science and Technology University with a perfect score of 562 points in mathematics and the second best score in the province. Cartoonist Cai Zhizhong said: \”Every child is a genius, but 90% are taught badly by adults.\” Many times, it is not the children who are wrong, but the parents who regard grades and scores as the only yardstick to measure their children. Only by seeing the child\’s talents and accepting his not-so-good side can our children become the best that they want to be and can be. In the documentary \”Amazing Mom\”, there is a mother named Li Qi. She and her child\’s father are elites who have returned from overseas, but her son Xiaoshuai is a scumbag. Surprisingly, she is not only not anxious, but also very relaxed: when she sees her son\’s handwriting is not good, she will not criticize her son, but encourages her son: \”Not bad, he can write everything in the grid.\” \”La.\”; Her son likes to play games, and she will not interfere as long as it does not exceed the prescribed time; in her spare time, she will not stop her son when he is busy programming and editing videos. She learned that her son dreams of becoming a UP owner or programmer. Later, he tried his best to provide support for his son. Because Li Qi has always believed: \”A child has his mission when he is born, and he has his own path. What parents have to do is to help their children develop their strengths, avoid their shortcomings, and maximize their potential.\”children’s potential. \”With her support and help, her son not only became a business expert in the school, but also founded his own publishing house. Now, he has also gained a group of fans on the video website and realized the first step of his dream. Educator Tao Xingzhi once made an analogy: Cultivating and educating people is just like planting flowers and trees. You must first understand the characteristics of flowers and trees, fertilize, water and cultivate and educate them according to different situations. This is called \”teaching children in accordance with their aptitude\”. Sometimes, it is not that the children are too bad. , but adults are always cultivating big trees in the same way as roses. And good parents, like good gardeners, can discover and respect the characteristics of their children, and let flowers become flowers and trees become trees. Pan Zhanle, who won two gold medals and one silver medal, also had a good gardener, and that was his grandfather. After discovering that his grandson was talented in swimming, his grandfather would do his best to support him, no matter it was raining heavily or there was a strong wind, as long as Pan Zhanle went there. He would send him to swim regardless of the weather. Later, when Pan Zhanle went to another place for training, his grandfather would also make a phone call and video chat with him at a fixed time every week. Pan Zhanle only has three requirements: first, establish a correct outlook on life and values; second, eat well and sleep well; third, pay attention to safety and manage yourself well. In this way, silently provide the soil needed for children to grow. He sprouted, grew, and bloomed in his own way, and finally cultivated a new generation of flying fish kings. This reminds me of what Tsinghua University professor Liu Yu said: \”What is the correct concept of education? It is not necessary to cultivate a small grass into a towering tree. It is about cultivating a small grass into a beautiful grass, a healthy grass. \”When God closes the door for children, he will leave a window. This window will allow children to see a new world and live like different fireworks. And what we have to do is to follow the children\’s nature and see their The unique feature is that it allows children to stand on the center of the stage through planning and support. I really like what the anchor Dong Yuhui said in the live broadcast room: \”Apples ripen late because they are storing sugar for themselves, and flowers bloom late because. The flowering period has not yet arrived. So, don’t worry that your apples will ripen later than others. That means your apples are sweeter than others. If the child does not blossom in academic performance, it means that in order for the child to become a talented person, you must have that mentality and be patient. There is a kind of lateness, which is experiencing, growing, and providing nutrients for maturity. \”Perhaps some children have been working hard on one road for a long time without making any progress, but if they change to another road, they can turn into dragons when encountering a storm. Therefore, sometimes you don\’t have to worry about your child falling behind others, he just hasn\’t found his own place yet. Direction. German scientist Otto Wallach won the Nobel Prize in Chemistry, but what few people know is that his parents actually chose a literary path for him when he was in middle school. However, after one semester, his teacher. But he told his parents: \”Wallach is very studious, but too rigid. Even if such a person has perfect moral character, it will never be possible to display it in literature.\” \”So, his parents asked him to study oil painting instead. But Wallach was neither good at composition nor coloring.His grades are always at the bottom of the class. Until one day, the chemistry teacher saw his meticulous nature and felt that he was very suitable for chemical experiments and suggested that he study chemistry. The parents also decided to let their son give it a try. Unexpectedly, Wallach\’s passion and talent were suddenly ignited. In this way, he suddenly changed from a \”mediocre person\” in the field of literature to a recognized \”top student\” in chemistry, and eventually won the Nobel Prize in Chemistry. A ruler is shorter and an inch is longer. Rather than chasing children away like rabbits, it is better to raise them like snails. When we no longer blame or reprimand our children for being slow or falling behind, we can instead help them find their own track with a more peaceful attitude. Finally, I would like to share with you a passage that healed me: \”Some flowers bloom brilliantly from the beginning; some flowers require a long wait. Don\’t watch others bloom, and rush to go to your own one when it hasn\’t moved. Stomp your feet. Believe in the child and wait for the flowers to bloom. If your seed never blooms, then maybe it is a towering tree that can shelter you from the wind and rain. \”To what extent can children settle their lives? Depends on the parents’ cognition and pattern. Less anxiety, less control, after all, everyone only lives once, let our children see the scenery they like and do the things they like. And told him: \”You don\’t have to live like a rose. If you want, you can be a grass or a big tree.\” In this way, even if the child fails to become a leader among people or a social elite, I believe he will. You can still spend this life healthy, confident, and smoothly.