I use this method to stop children from being obsessed with games

Games, aren’t they pretty good? Pleasant and educational. Why do today’s parents change their minds when talking about games? It seems that the game is as fierce as a tiger. When we were young, we played house, shuttlecock, skipping rope, hopscotch, playing glass balls, rolling hoops, and eagles catching chickens… They were all interesting and healthy games. If sometimes we are bored at home with nothing to do, our parents will drive us out to play games with the children. The game I’m going to talk about today is obviously not that game. It’s a computer game or a mobile phone game that those kids who can’t even speak fluently like to play nowadays. Games can make you happy when played appropriately, and some are beneficial to intellectual development. However, if you indulge in them, you will have endless troubles. Speaking of children’s love for games, I believe countless parents have been troubled and angry about it, including myself. First, let’s talk about the dangers of being addicted to games: Some children, because they stare at the computer or mobile phone screen for a long time, their eyesight declines, which affects their health and makes them depressed. Some children, because they are deeply addicted to the Internet and cannot extricate themselves, abandon their studies, waste their time, and lose their direction in life. There are news reports that a child jumped from a tall building and ended his precious life because he was too addicted to games and could not distinguish between fantasy and reality. There are also news reports that a child was playing games in an Internet cafe for several days and nights, and suddenly became motionless. The people next to him didn\’t notice. It took a long time before anyone discovered that the child had become cold and stopped breathing… Various cases, It is shocking. It is no exaggeration to say that if a child is poisoned by Internet addiction, it can destroy a happy family. When talking to some mothers about their children’s love for playing games, everyone unanimously lamented: When it comes to playing games, all children are geniuses and can learn without a teacher. If you use this energy in studying, it will be great! It is natural for children to love playing games, and nothing can be stopped. Since you can\’t stop him, you might as well let him play, but you can\’t let him go. How to balance it is a problem. How to treat the game correctly? When to play? How long to play? These are key. I don’t even remember when my son learned to play games. \”Suddenly, a spring breeze came overnight, and thousands of pear trees bloomed.\” Before I knew it, he was already playing various little games. He was just in kindergarten at that time, and I didn’t have a smartphone yet, so he could only play on the computer. Because he was too short, he couldn\’t reach it when he sat down, so he stood with his small body lying in front of the computer, holding the mouse in one hand and tapping on the keyboard with the other. It was very funny. At first, I thought it was quite interesting. Such a little person couldn’t even recognize a few words, but he could play computer games. He was quite smart! He was young at that time and didn\’t have any addiction, so I didn\’t care. After entering elementary school, especially in the past two years, more of their classmates play games. Eight out of ten daily conversations between them are inseparable from games, and their son\’s enthusiasm for games has also increased. As soon as he finished his homework, he asked me for his mobile phone to play games. If he didn\’t let me play games, he would feel unhappy, restless, and feel as if his heart was being scratched by a hundred claws. We had a lot of trouble over this matter. I\’m angry, and so is he. One day, I thought about the problem of games very seriously. I can\’t block it, I can only ease it. The best result is that he has fun and is not obsessed with it, and I am less annoyed and worried. After thinking about this, II went to my son to reason and discuss plans. He was a little surprised to see me being so solemn. He listened to me attentively and expressed his opinions actively. We discussed the following aspects: How to correctly understand the game? How important are games in life? When is the right time to play? How long do you play each time? How to grasp the time? After heart-to-heart communication, we reached the following consensus: games are a part of life, but in terms of importance, there are several things that undoubtedly come before it: a healthy body, work and study, spending time with family and friends, and exploring the world. The mystery of nature… Human energy is limited. We should know how to allocate it reasonably and spend more energy on more meaningful things. If we still have some spare energy, we can have appropriate entertainment, no problem. My son usually goes to school, so that he can concentrate on his homework and not have his sleep affected by games. From Monday to Thursday, he does not play games, but he can play on Friday nights and weekends. However, you should not play games half an hour before eating and going to bed. Do not let playing games affect your eating and sleeping. Play for about half an hour at a time, no more than an hour at most. Decide how many games to play based on how long each game lasts. When you see that time is almost up, don’t start the next round. If the time is almost up, I will also remind him. We wrote down these consensuses on paper one by one, then signed it and posted it on his door. We all laughed at the seriousness and high-fived the deal. After the rules were formed, my son implemented them well and could basically abide by them. But sometimes, I feel itchy and beg me to play a game for him. As for me, seeing that he really had nothing to do, I almost relented and let him play, but then I thought about it, rules are rules, and you can\’t break them, otherwise it will be difficult to abide by them in the future. So he made up his mind and found other things to distract his attention, such as going to the supermarket for shopping, going to the park to exercise, or going to the bookstore to read. As time went by, he learned about my \”hard-heartedness\” and no longer took chances or begged me. Instead, he took the initiative to find fun, such as painting, doing crafts, and playing with friends. Sometimes, to foster bonding, I play a game with my son. He fought and killed, and I watched from the side. At that time, he was very happy and kept introducing the characters in the game to me, talking about the role he played, what equipment and skills he had, etc. Once, he said he was \”Diao Chan\”. I laughed and asked him why he played a woman. Instead, he laughed at me: \”Mom, you are really out. This is just a game. Don\’t worry about it.\” \”Yes, it\’s just a game, so don\’t care too much. You have to be able to play it and let it go. Don\’t be obsessed with it.\” Oh.\” \”I\’m not obsessed with it at all now. After playing for a long time, I think it\’s just like that. In fact, what I like most is playing ball with my friends. My basketball level has improved a lot recently. By the way, Mom, We are about to have a basketball game with other schools. I was selected as the starter. I was the only one selected in the fifth grade. The others were all sixth graders. I was under a lot of pressure! No, I have to hurry up. It’s time to practice ball, and I’m leaving…\” Looking at my son’s back, I felt very relieved. In a child\’s growth, every step is important, no one step is important.Things can go wrong. Games are an inevitable hurdle in children\’s growth, and how to guide them is particularly important. As the same saying goes, you should take care of your children as early as possible, and guide your children to treat games correctly as early as possible.