Discovered a strange phenomenon: good students do not necessarily have to be in good classes

01 You still need to be strong enough to be a blacksmith. Don’t rush to join the so-called “good” classes, especially when you don’t have strong connections or strength. After all the efforts of cultivating connections, spending a lot of money, and owing a lot of favors, I finally managed to get my child into a \”good\” class. The result? You will find that your connections alone are not enough to see you there. To put it bluntly, \”good\” classes are often places where relevant people gather. Your child was forced into it, and what was the result? There is no chance of being a cadre on duty, no chance to participate in competitions, and no benefits. There are so many children of \”good\” class leaders, colleagues\’ children, and friends\’ children that teachers can\’t even take care of them. On the contrary, in ordinary classes, as long as your child has two brushes, it will be easier for him to stand out. In ordinary classes, as long as you have strength, the teacher will still favor you. In a good class, there are too many connections. In a human society, connections are always king. In fact, as long as the children are good enough, which class is not a good class? 02 Consider your own knowledge reserves first and forcefully put your children into a \”good\” class. It is likely to give your children a wrong signal: Even if my grades are not good and my ability is not enough, my parents will take care of it anyway. Doesn\’t this run counter to your original intention? There was a parent who tried his best and spent a lot of money to send his child into a so-called good class when he was in primary school. The result? The child\’s ability cannot keep up, he is under great pressure, has emotional and interpersonal problems, and slowly collapses. We always follow what others say, and we think it is good when others say it is good. Our judgment of \”good\” always depends on the eyes of others. If you lack the ability to think independently and self-evaluate, you will regard other people\’s words as edicts. In China, at least 80% of people lack the ability to think independently. Why do many girls save money to buy luxury goods, do beauty treatments, and spend money on themselves to satisfy their vanity? Why are there so many parents who are selling money to buy houses in school districts, putting more pressure on themselves, being too busy making money and having no time to spend with their children, and following the trend of enrolling their children in various classes, but the final results are unsatisfactory? The key is not how much we do, but whether we can fully consider the actual situation and make correct judgments before doing it. Making decisions requires the ability to think independently, and the prerequisite for thinking is to have sufficient knowledge reserves. Without sufficient knowledge reserves, there is a lack of basis for judgment. 03 Don’t let your children take the blame for your laziness. Every parent hopes that their children will get better and better and become independent as soon as possible. However, many parents have wrong ideas and methods, turning a lively and independent child into a lazy waste. To make children competitive, it is not just about putting them into good classes, but starting from every aspect of daily life. Always thinking about placing your hopes on others, what is the difference between going to the temple to pray to God and worship Buddha? They all expect their children to take exams, do whatever the school says, do whatever the teacher tells them to do, and sign up for whatever major a certain celebrity says, but what about their own brains? Many parents still have the mindset of a few decades ago. Even though they themselves are unemployed, they are still there to guide their children on what path to take in the future. If parents canIf you look at the problem from a long-term perspective, you won\’t be so eager to squeeze into the \”good\” class. In the final analysis, parents are still lazy, too lazy to think, too lazy to study their children. Instead of spending hundreds of thousands in favors and training fees, you might as well spend some time studying yourself and your children. Historically, families with promising children had smart parents. They will not follow what others say, nor will they follow what is written, nor will they blindly follow the advice of so-called experts. Parents themselves must continuously improve their knowledge and abilities before they are qualified to guide their children. Look at those parents who are top academics, which one is not studying all the time? If you find it troublesome, just wait for the children to chew on you.