A mother’s quality affects her child’s life

I very much agree with this sentence: the quality of a mother affects the destiny of her child\’s life. Many people will say, doesn’t this excuse fathers? Is it possible for a father to be uneducated? Of course that\’s not what it means, it\’s just that in actual upbringing, the protagonist is basically the mother. Of course, there are also children raised by fathers or grandmothers. Therefore, the mother we are talking about, in a broader sense, is the relative who accompanies the child\’s growth and is the child\’s original family. I read an article by teacher Liang Xiaosheng these days, in which I wrote about my mother, which made me feel emotional. \”Although my family was very poor, my mother still supported my study very much. The study time in the poor days was the happiest for me. At that time, I did all the shopping and other things at home. As long as I had two or three cents left, my mother would Let me keep it for myself. At that time, two cents could buy a pound of vegetables. I used the money to read the little book \”Red Flag Pu\” after borrowing it from a classmate and reading it, and then I learned that there was a second volume, two parts. The total cost was a little over one dollar and eight cents, and I really wanted to read the next episode of this book. I was in middle school at the time, and I made a lot of determination before I mustered up the courage to go to my mother and ask for money. At about two o\’clock that afternoon, I came to The small factory where my mother worked. When I went in, I found that my mother worked in a factory that was converted from a warehouse. The factory was very hot, and everyone wore thick masks. All the masks worn by my mother were stained with red. Cotton wadding was all over my hair, face, and eyelashes, making it difficult to identify who was my mother. Later, my mother’s colleagues helped me find her. When I saw my mother, who had come to ask her for money, I was speechless for a moment. Come. My mother said, \”Just tell me what you want. I still have to work.\” \”\”I want money. \”What do you want money for?\” \”I want to buy a book.\” \”Sister-in-law Liang, you can\’t spoil your child like this. It would be great if you could read to him. Why else should you buy him a book?\” \”My mother\’s co-workers advised me one after another. \”He only has one hobby. Reading is not a bad thing anyway. \”My mother said and gave me the money. We will find that through the ages, behind those outstanding people, there is often a great mother. Meng\’s mother moved three times, Tao\’s mother returned the fish, Ou\’s mother painted Di, and mother-in-law tattooed characters. These Mothers are not intellectuals, rich businessmen, or powerful people. They are just ordinary women, but they value their children\’s education more than anyone else. From here we can see the influence of literacy and vision on children\’s lives. . When everyone is born, the first thing they receive is family education, and the most influential thing is family education. When a child lives in a family, the elders and relatives around him, how they treat life and treat others, will all have an impact on the child. It has a very direct and subtle influence. I grew up with my grandma when I was a child, so she is equivalent to my mother. Now that I think about it carefully, I can see that her influence on me is everywhere. She is now 77 years old Even though she was young, she often did farm work. She had never read a book and only attended school for a few days. She could not write her own name and could add and subtract within 100. When she was young, my grandma was a model worker in the village and was very diligent. Therefore, since I was a child, I have to do a lot more things than my friends around me. I have to do all kinds of farm work, including cutting firewood in the mountains and harvesting in the fields.Can do it. After leaving my hometown and coming to the city, I was still used to being busy all the time. Sometimes I tell my friends that although my family is very poor and did not buy me a house or a car, it gave me the most important thing – diligence. Relying on these two words, I study diligently, read non-stop, work diligently, and move towards my dreams. When it comes to children’s education, is the higher the educational level, the better? A few days ago, a mother left a message saying: My cultural level is not high and I really don’t know how to teach my children. In fact, you really shouldn’t feel inferior because you think that education level has a lot to do with raising children. If you don\’t pay attention, even a Ph.D. will not be able to raise good children. And if you are careful, mothers with primary school education also have their own tricks. The \”Focus Interview\” program once introduced the deeds of An Jinpeng, the world middle school student Mathematical Olympiad gold medalist. His family was extremely poor, and he was admitted to a key middle school but had no money to attend. The father said that the children should go to work, but they still don’t have a job after going to college, let alone whether you can go to college or not. But my mother firmly disagreed and sold the only donkey in the family. The child is the only one in middle school who can\’t even afford vegetarian food, and the only one who can\’t even use soap. According to this, the child is entirely dependent on himself, right? After asking in person, I found out that although this mother had not even graduated from elementary school, she had made her children master the four arithmetic operations before elementary school. How many parents who have graduated from college can do this alone? An Jinpeng wrote in the article: \”My mother often said to me: \’Mom is not very educated, but I still remember Gorky\’s words that the teacher read when I was a child – poverty is the best university! You must be able to study in If you pass the test in this school, then you will be admitted to universities in Tianjin and Beijing! If poverty is the best university, then I have to say that my peasant mother is the best in my life. Mentor…\” A child\’s outlook on life is formed under the influence of his mother. Children are born with a blank slate. Through learning and observation, they imitate everything about the people who grow up with them. Even the way you speak is imitated. A mother who likes to read books, her children will often like to read. A diligent mother, her children will also like to do things with their hands; a mother who likes to play mahjong, her children will also know mahjong well; a mother who likes to curse, their children will also learn to curse. The weirdest thing I have ever seen was a mother who often asked her son to prepare meals and then tell her to go home, otherwise he would keep playing cards. Later, her son went to work on his own after graduating from junior high school. He said that what he wanted to do most was to escape from that home. So he would rather spend the New Year in the factory than go home. A mother\’s strength can sometimes hurt a family, because a mother with a strong personality has an almost devastating impact on the family, especially on the children. Psychological research has found that in a family, when the father\’s role becomes more and more marginalized, the mother will become increasingly dominant and even outspoken. Children will always gravitate toward the same-sex parent. The daughter will identify with the strong mother, and over time, the daughter will become a strong woman. In many families, the relationship between mothers and daughters is tenseOften mothers and daughters have the same personality, that is, a strong mother often has a daughter with a stronger personality. The impact on my son is even greater. The stronger a woman is, the sons she raises will not only not be as strong as her, but will be more cowardly. Because in a home with a strong mother, the father is usually indifferent or even absent. Cao Xueqin\’s saying \”either the west wind overwhelms the east wind, or the east wind overwhelms the west wind\” makes sense. In many families, the mother is always the strong wind, and the father\’s figure and voice are basically invisible. Such an example will only make the son weak. For example, my son will often observe the relationship between me and his mother. If my mother is unhappy because I made a mistake one day and scolds me, he will watch nervously. Fortunately, such moments are rare in our family, and my wife is gentle and understanding. Not every mother is born to be a mother, but everyone can work hard to be a good mother. Ensuring that there is a living atmosphere at home that is conducive to children\’s quiet study can make the home more bookish. Be able to spend more time with your children, and encourage and comfort them when they need it… A good mother is definitely a mother who has requirements for herself. The habits, character, and abilities that accompany a child throughout his or her life are formed step by step under the influence and teachings of the mother. And these often affect the fate of a child\’s life.