Help! It’s been almost a month since the first grade started and many parents have been driven crazy. What’s going on?

The primary school stage is the beginning of children\’s formal exposure to cultural education, so when their children enter the first grade of primary school, many parents are very excited and excited. After all, this represents the growth of their children. In addition, many parents also feel that they can relax and no longer have to work as hard to raise children as before. But is this really the case? The reality is shocking. It’s been nearly a month since the first grade started, but parents are already “driving crazy” to ask when raising children is the most tiring. Many young parents said “before their children go to school.” Because children are completely unable to take care of themselves during the newborn stage, so it is the most \”difficult\” time to raise children. Parents need to take full care of their children. When the baby reaches the infant stage, the child cannot walk yet, and parents need to be responsible for the child\’s eating, drinking, defecation, urination, sleeping, housing, transportation, etc., but they can still be slightly more relaxed than taking care of a newborn. When the child reaches early childhood, the child can eat, walk, and talk. It is easier for parents to take care of the child, but they still have to worry about the child\’s safety and other issues. When children go to kindergarten, it can be said that the liberation of parents begins, because children spend most of the day in kindergarten, and parents truly have their own freedom at this time. Therefore, many parents feel that after their children enter elementary school, they will feel more relaxed, because the children will begin to learn cultural knowledge. Not only will their self-care ability be strengthened, but their independent thinking will also become stronger, and the children will be able to take care of themselves. Parents I can also slowly return to my \”normal life\”. However, when their children actually went to elementary school, countless parents were \”dumbfounded\”, and some even collapsed. \”Oh my god, I thought it was the beginning of happiness, but now it turns out that the door of hell is slowly opening to me. It\’s enough to help my children with homework every day. I really can\’t stand it.\” \”Every time I check my children\’s homework, it\’s enough.\” , I need to prepare myself mentally in advance, otherwise I will really not be able to bear it.” “Seeing the speed at which my child is doing homework makes me really anxious and angry, but it is useless to yell at the child. Two sentences, the child writes even slower. So I can only endure it. I am almost a ninja. \”It\’s really difficult for first-grade children. I can\’t even understand the questions when doing homework. It\’s really difficult.\” I have a bad headache. \”Many parents did not expect that their children did not become \”better\” as expected after entering the first grade. Instead, they added a lot of \”blockages\”, causing parents to be anxious and angry every day. , headaches and stomachaches, and even some parents feel that the world is no longer a beautiful place. So, what is the reason for this phenomenon? Some parents think it\’s because their children are \”stupid\” because the first-grade questions are so \”simple\” and it\’s like giving answers for free, but their children just don\’t know how. Some parents think that it is because their children are not familiar with cultural knowledge. After all, they have never learned anything before, so they will naturally not adapt to it. Some parents feel that it is caused by their children not being focused enough when doing homework. Some parents think that their children are lazy because they see that their children write slowly… But in fact, thisNone of these are real reasons. Why are many parents “driven crazy” when their children enter first grade? Mainly because of these two reasons, we will find that not all parents of first-grade students will have a mental breakdown. Some children can quickly adapt to primary school life after entering first grade. For those children who make their parents collapse, there are often two situations: Reason 1: The mastery of words is close to zero. The reason why many parents collapse is because their children write slowly when doing homework, cannot understand the questions, What is written does not look like words at all, which actually reflects an obvious problem, that is, the child has almost no grasp of words. If a child cannot read or write at all, it will affect many places. For example, when a child is doing homework, he may not be able to continue because he does not recognize the topic. For example, when a child is in class, if he doesn\’t know the words, he won\’t even be able to read the textbook. For example, when children write, they may have problems such as holding a pen or controlling their hands poorly because they have never written before, resulting in extremely slow writing speed, etc. In addition, when children are in class, they may be slow to master new knowledge because they have no basic understanding of words. For example, when learning strokes, radicals, and words, because there is no foundation at all, the acceptance will be very slow, and sometimes it is even impossible to keep up with the teacher\’s progress, which will have a great impact on the child\’s learning. After all, what children are learning now are the basics of the basics. If they fail to learn them well, it will be difficult for them to master advanced knowledge in the future. Therefore, if a child has no foundation in mastering words at all, he will face many problems when he enters first grade. These problems are enough to keep parents in a state of collapse for a long time. Reason 2: They are slow to adapt to the primary school environment. The reason why some parents collapse is not that their children are slow to write or procrastinate in homework, but that their children do not have \”awareness of going to school\” and have not accepted primary school life ideologically. Unable to integrate into the primary school environment, resulting in children crying as soon as they go to school. In this case, parents cannot blame their children, nor can they scold them mindlessly, because it is not that children do not like to learn, nor are they unwilling to learn, but they do not know what primary school means and do not realize that primary school is about learning by oneself. The only way to cultural knowledge. Many parents are not aware of this. They think that their children do not want to go to school, do not listen to classes well, and violate school disciplines, etc., are all caused by their children\’s \”disobedience\”, so they either criticize or scold their children. This method will not only prevent children from quickly accepting primary school life, but will also cause children to become tired of studying. Because the children themselves do not understand elementary school, if parents beat and scold their children, they will associate the beating and scolding with elementary school, making the children feel that as long as they do not go to school, they will not be beaten or scolded. Therefore, if the child does not have a basic understanding of primary school and cannot adapt to the primary school environment normally, it will also give parents a headache. First-grade parents can avoid the fate of being \”driven crazy\” by doing these things ① Paying attention to parent-child reading, the benefits to the children are:There are many, and one of the most important ones is to allow children to be exposed to words in advance, recognize the pronunciation of some words, and have some basic understanding of the structure and writing of words. If the child develops the habit of reading, the effect will be better. It is likely that the child will have a deeper understanding of words and even master some Chinese characters. Therefore, parents need to pay special attention to parent-child reading, and the earlier the better, starting from telling stories to children, progressing to reading picture books with children, slowly cultivating children\’s reading habits, and finally realizing children\’s independent reading. , which is of great help to children’s primary school studies. ② Stimulate children\’s interest in words. Reading can stimulate children\’s interest in words to a certain extent. However, it is not only reading that can increase children\’s interest in words. Some games, media, etc., may make children interested in words. So subjectively I am willing to write and learn calligraphy. For example, play some Chinese character connecting games, Chinese character card games, word and idiom card games, etc. with your children, so that your children can build up their interest in words while being happy, so that they can actively learn and master Chinese characters. ③Don’t force children to learn writing in advance. In the preschool stage, we do need to let children master certain Chinese characters, but this does not mean that children should learn to write in advance. Parents must pay attention to the fact that children in the preschool stage learn Chinese characters. It is based on \”initiative\” and \”interest\”, rather than using \”teaching\” methods to let children master Chinese characters. In other words, we cannot force children to learn, nor allow children to be exposed to cultural teaching materials in advance, that is, we cannot \”advanced education.\” Instead, we must use games and other methods to stimulate children\’s interest and allow children to take the initiative to learn. ④Let children understand primary school life in advance. Many children cannot accept primary school life smoothly. In fact, this is because primary school life is more \”cold\” than their previous family life and kindergarten life, which prevents children from adapting quickly. After all, an elementary school is not like a kindergarten. When a child cries, a teacher will comfort him. The teachers in an elementary school are a pair of students dozens of years older. If they comfort the children one by one, there will be no way to attend class. Therefore, we need to take our children to learn more about primary school life in advance, so that they can have a preliminary understanding of primary school. When children become familiar with primary school, they will be able to accept primary school life more smoothly. For example, we can take our children to watch some videos about primary school life in advance, visit the primary school environment in advance, and let the children come into contact with their older brothers and sisters in primary school, etc., so that the children can understand primary school life bit by bit. Conclusion The first grade of primary school is a critical stage. It is not only the stage for children to learn cultural basics, but also the stage for children to develop study habits and establish learning awareness. Therefore, parents must make preparations in advance so that their children can quickly integrate into primary school life, so that their children can smoothly accept the primary school environment and not cause parents to \”collapse\” when studying and doing homework.