What is the difference between children who were banned from playing with mobile phones when they were young and children who were allowed to play with mobile phones when they grow up?

When I was visiting relatives, something happened that made me feel quite uncomfortable. Relatives have two children. The boy is 1 year older than Bunniu and the girl is 3 years older. When I went to her house, I saw these two children, one sitting on the sofa and the other hiding under the quilt, both browsing their mobile phones. Relatives told them: \”Stop looking at your phone. My sister is here. Let\’s play with her.\” They didn\’t even raise their heads, completely immersed in their own world. The relative called a few more times, but her voice seemed to have been automatically silenced in the children\’s ears, making no sound at all. Later, the relative couldn\’t stand it any longer and snatched away the boy\’s mobile phone from the sofa. The little boy\’s face darkened instantly, with anger flashing in his eyes, and he protested loudly: \”Why did you take away my phone? My sister was watching too, why did she only take mine?\” Before the relative could reply, the little boy\’s voice But he got higher and higher, became more and more excited, and even pushed his relatives directly. So, we saw two people pushing, pulling, punching and kicking. After the hilarious scene ended, the relative smiled bitterly and said, \”There is nothing we can do. The child is too obsessed with looking at his mobile phone and cannot control it at all.\” Around us, most children play with mobile phones. Some parents are very strict and their children play relatively little. Some parents don\’t pay much attention to it, and even regard mobile phones as \”magic tools for coaxing children\”, and their children become seriously addicted to mobile phones. Do you know what the difference is between children who are prohibited from playing with mobile phones since childhood and children who are allowed to play with mobile phones when they grow up? The algorithm doesn’t know if you have ever had such an experience. Originally, when you opened the short video platform, you just wanted to watch it for a few minutes and relax. Unexpectedly, I lost track of time as soon as I looked at it. When I came back to my senses, an hour had passed. This is because the platform has an algorithm that calculates your preferences based on your browsing history, and then accurately pushes the content you like so that you can\’t stop. Why is its algorithm so effective and makes us \”take the bait\” obediently? This is related to a substance in our brain, and it is also a word that Cuckoo Mom will mention every time we talk about mobile phones and games-dopamine. Dopamine is an anticipation system that gives you a feeling of excitement, happiness, and joy. This feeling relaxes you, escapes from anxiety about relationships, work, studies, etc., and allows you to temporarily forget the troubles in life. From your brain to your body and mind, you feel extremely comfortable and smooth. This is the joint effect of algorithms and dopamine, which makes you obsessed with mobile phones and addicted to short video platforms. Relatively speaking, we adults still have a certain degree of self-control, and our reason will tell us that it’s time to go to work, it’s time to work, and it’s time to turn off our mobile phones. However, the self-control part of a child\’s brain does not fully develop until the age of 25. What will happen to them once they are left with their cell phones unattended? Concentration Cuckoo Mom has observed the children around her and found that they all have the same characteristics when watching videos. If a video doesn’t pique their interest within 5 seconds, they will leave it immediately. If a video doesn’t end after one minute, they will immediately change it. Or, when playing on their mobile phones, if the Internet speed is slow, they will yell impatiently or even throw their mobile phones. For such children, you will find that they are generally impatient when doing homework. They sinkI don’t have the energy to read the questions carefully, I can’t think attentively, and I don’t have the patience to read a book seriously. Because their concentration has been greatly damaged. The length of popular short videos is generally within 30 seconds and no longer than 1 minute. And these few dozen seconds of concentration are almost a disaster for the child\’s brain. You only want to enjoy a few dozen seconds of happiness, but you still expect your children to focus in class for 45 minutes? If the Internet speed is slow, you will be irritable and restless. Do you still expect your children to calm down and memorize words, memorize formulas, and list calculations? Don’t talk about children, maybe we can’t do it ourselves! Self-control The algorithm and dopamine mentioned earlier have the greatest impact on children, but self-control. When the dopamine in a child\’s brain is not attracted by knowledge, interest and curiosity, but is bound by short videos and games one after another, the neurons in his brain will unconsciously form a \”choice\” Preference\”. It’s like you’re determined to lose weight. On the first day, you kept your mouth shut and stopped eating snacks; you also stretched your legs and exercised for half an hour. On the second day, you think about eating a little snack, just a little; on the third day, you feel too tired and don\’t want to move after only exercising for 10 minutes. On the fourth day, you stopped exercising at all. On the fifth day, life returned to normal. The slogan has been shouted for several years, but the fat has not lost any weight. In fact, from the time you choose to eat snacks and exercise for only 10 minutes, your brain begins to form a choice preference, that is–want immediate happiness, not long-term happiness. If the dopamine in a child\’s brain chooses short-term, stimulating, and intense happiness, then he will gradually prefer this choice. As a result, he spent more and more time looking at his phone, watched more and more videos, and his self-control became worse and worse. And once you take away his phone, you also take away his happiness. He will become irritable, crazy, irritable, excited, and even lose his temper and fight with his parents. If you ask him to read a book, he will become restless and cannot read a word for a long time; if you ask him to do homework, he will just write a few random words to cope with the problem, just to get back his precious mobile phone as soon as possible. But our children will eventually have to face life, study, work and pressure in the future. And they who are only willing to enjoy the immediate and exciting happiness, how can they use the self-control to deal with it? If you carefully compare children who play with mobile phones and children who do not play with mobile phones, you will find that: children who play heavily with mobile phones respond quickly and have enthusiastic eyes when they browse their mobile phones; but as soon as they leave their mobile phones, they His eyes were distracted and his reactions were extremely slow. They seem to know a lot and have all kinds of strange knowledge and problems, but these things are unrealistic and illusory. Most of them do not like sports, do not like to socialize, and are bloated. And when we look at those children who rarely or never play with mobile phones, their eyes are clean and clear, and they have the agility and cunning that children should have. They are full of interest in life, nature, and the world around them. They will explore the flowers, birds, insects, fish, and trees around them. Their curiosity and imagination are mostly based on nature and life, and their ideas are wild and unconstrained. They are better able to sit still and understand and think about in-depth issues. They are more innocent childrenThe way it should be. Scanning mobile phones not only damages children’s eyesight, but also their brains. Do you let your children play with mobile phones? Or, how long do you let your children play every day?