The first monthly exam results are out! Regardless of whether you did well or not, be sure to read this article (a must-read for parents)

In the past two days, the results of the first monthly exam have come out. Some people are happy and some are worried. As the first large-scale examination in the new semester, the purpose of the examination is not to judge whether the children are excellent or not, but to test whether the children have continued to study during the holidays and whether they can keep up after school starts. Therefore, whether your child does well or poorly this time, the most important thing is to see attitude through the results. Discover problems, learn to reflect, find shortcomings and correct them. 01 Usually, if you do something wrong in the exam, the real reason is not carelessness, but \”lazyness leads to stupidity.\” The writer Mao Dun said: \”If a person with high talent is lazy by nature, that is, if he does not work hard to develop his talents, his achievements will be poor.\” It’s not very big, but sometimes it’s not as good as those who are less talented than him.” This is indeed the case. During this exam, I saw Xiaotian, a former student. I taught him a few classes in the first grade of junior high school, but later he was transferred to other grades and I never saw him again. Xiaotian is actually quite smart. He knows many knowledge points easily and can draw inferences from one example. If you can focus on studying, your grades will definitely be excellent. However, he is too confident and thinks he is smart, and is unwilling to do something that he considers \”stupid\”. He felt that he had mastered everything the teacher said, so he was no longer willing to listen carefully and copied his homework. When I asked him to answer a basic question, he actually answered \”no\”. Even when I asked him to repeat what he had just said, he directly said, \”I\’m stupid and can\’t remember.\” I didn’t expect that when we meet again after such a long time, he actually made a prophecy in response to my casual joke. It turns out that when the textbook content was relatively simple at the beginning, his intelligence really allowed him to get good grades even if he didn\’t listen to the class. But later, as the difficulty continued to increase, he gradually couldn\’t keep up, his grades dropped rapidly, and he didn\’t know where to start if he wanted to work hard. Xiaotian often said: \”I just didn\’t study hard. Once I learn, my grades will definitely be good.\” But the fact is that because of laziness, he has developed countless bad habits, such as being prone to wandering off, being unable to calm down, etc. These bad habits are hard to change. He finally became the \”stupid kid\” he called himself. What is heartbreaking is that in real life, there are many children like Xiaotian. Even if the talent is good, due to laziness, laziness leads to stupidity and eventually falls into the abyss. In fact, people\’s IQs are all about the same, and there are only a few people who are particularly smart and very stupid. What ultimately determines a child\’s performance and future is good habits and continuous efforts. Just like the famous story in psychology: the owner brings two horses to pull the goods. A horse is very honest. Even if the cargo is very heavy, it still follows the footsteps of its owner, moving forward hard and firmly. The other horse walked slowly, gradually widening the distance from its owner. The owner felt it was too slow, so he moved part of its cargo onto the first horse. The slow horse was very happy and felt that he was really \”smart\”, so he slowed down even more. Later, the owner simply moved all the cargo it pulled to the fast horse. The slow horse was secretly happy: \”It\’s so stupid. The harder it works, the more it works. Look how comfortable I am now!\” But the owner thought: \”One horse can pull the cart, why should I raise two?\” Sold to the slaughterhouse. \”The Law of Slow Horses\”\”Tell us: When you blindly choose comfort and give up growth, it is precisely when you are most in danger. For children, learning also follows this law. The brain is an organ that needs to be continuously developed. When you think less, it will have a negative impact on the brain. The use of it will become less, and over time, the brain will become dull and lose the ability to think. Only when you continue to learn and think deeply can you develop your brain better and become smarter. 02 Behind every academic master. , the editor-in-chief of \”China Education News·Family Education Weekly\”, who are all outstanding and fierce parents, once shared three sentences with parents: \”The mentality of parents determines the state of their children. Complaints are actually curses. When parents begin to change their minds, children begin to change. \”Do you still remember the dormitory aunt Yuan Mengyuan who took the postgraduate entrance examination with her child? Like countless parents, she once worked hard to make a baby, but no matter how hard she tried, the child still had mediocre qualifications. After going to the hospital for an examination, she found out that the child She has ADHD, short-term memory is less than 3 years old, long-term memory is less than 7 years old, and her IQ is much lower than her peers. After Yuan Mengyuan broke down and cried, she decided to change her educational philosophy: live her own life for her children. She signed up for the accounting qualification certificate training class and went to study after get off work. Two months later, she successfully passed the qualification certificate. Under her influence, the child\’s self-discipline has improved significantly, and her children\’s self-discipline has improved significantly. Gradually, she fell in love with studying. When her son was taking the college entrance examination, in order to encourage him to apply for Fudan University\’s undergraduate college entrance examination, Yuan Mengyuan also applied for Fudan University\’s adult college entrance examination. As a result, both mother and son realized their dreams. Later, when her son was preparing to take the postgraduate entrance examination, she decided to join him. . Amidst the doubts of others, Yuan Mengyuan successfully landed and became a working graduate student at Guangxi University, and his son was successfully admitted to Fudan University. As Zheng Yuanjie said: \”There is no education in the family, only influence.\” Shut your mouth, lift your legs, and walk your way through life to show your children. \”There are never any miracles in this world. Behind all miracles, there are efforts that ordinary people cannot imagine. There are not so many blockbuster geniuses in this world. Behind all geniuses, there are excellent and fierce parents. The children will eventually achieve great results. The key to the kind of life is the quality of love, companionship and example received from parents. Xie Xinying, a top student in Chongqing, was admitted to Peking University with a score of 726 in the college entrance examination. Cultivation. Her parents know how important habits are to children\’s learning and life, so they have paid attention to Xie Xinying\’s good habits since she was a child. She listens carefully in class and asks the teacher immediately after class when she encounters something she doesn\’t know. She never puts off problems until the next day. All homework is completed on time and in good quality. She loves reading, so her parents have subscribed to various illustrated magazines and picture books for her since she was young. Go to bed, ensure a good sleep, and lay a good foundation for the new day\’s study. It is these good habits of self-discipline that make Xie Xinying so good and achieve such good results. Psychology professor Dr. Seidez said: \”People are like people. Just like shaping ceramics, what kind of education you give when you are young will determine what kind of prototype it will become. \”For children, parentsHe is the person who kneads ceramics. If parents just give in and let things go, their children will grow up as they please and without any rules. Only when parents carefully carve out and lay a good foundation can children grow upward steadily and firmly. 03 The best family education is when parents and children grow up together. \”People\’s Daily\” once issued an article stating: \”It is the teacher who teaches, but it must be the parents who educate people.\” After all, the influence of teachers is limited, and parents are the ones who accompany their children. The person who lives the longest has the greatest influence on the child. Only when parents master the correct education methods and grow up with their children can their children become better. I hope everyone will read these pieces of advice for children and parents. (1) To the children: Behind all excellence, there is ascetic self-discipline 1. When studying, listen carefully in class, take notes, and ask the teacher for help if you do not understand the content; complete homework independently, ensure quality and quantity, and complete tasks on time; Learn to grade tasks, and arrange the completion time reasonably according to the priority of the tasks; manage your time well, grasp the time, act immediately, don\’t delay; practice calligraphy seriously, don\’t be anxious, practice good calligraphy, and improve the neatness of the paper. 2. Allocate time reasonably during the exam, skip decisively if you encounter something you don’t know, and do what you are sure of first; read the questions carefully, mark the key points carefully, learn to grasp the words, and improve the ability to review questions; the calculations are neat, the handwriting is clear, the logic is clear, and it is convenient Check again after finishing; check carefully, mark the questions that you are not sure about during the test, and then think carefully during the check; review after the test, summarize and sort out the wrong question sets, and figure out where your problems occurred and your performance The good and the bad. (2) To parents: Only if you have enough patience can you have good enough children. 1. Calm down the mentality of yourself and your children, understand that grades are not the only criterion for measuring whether a child is excellent, and regard grades as everything. It will only ruin the child. The most important purpose of education is not to let a child get high scores, but to make him the most positive person. If only study is left in children\’s lives, their mentality will easily collapse, and failure will have serious consequences. Don\’t take your grades as everything. You must know that a test means nothing. On the contrary, it is a good time to check for omissions and fill in the gaps. If the child\’s problems can be discovered from the exam and corrected in time, the impact on the child will be more profound. 2. Teach children the correct learning methods and use good tools. Today’s mobile phones are very powerful, and there are many photo-taking and question-searching software. When doing homework at home, children may just copy the answers out of laziness. Although the homework is completed, it is all in vain. Therefore, parents must limit the time their children use mobile phones and not allow them to develop bad habits. If a child has a question that he or she does not know and the parents are unable to provide guidance, they can use these software with their parents\’ company. But you must let your children understand the answer analysis, master the questions they don\’t know, and use these software as learning tools. 3. Take your children out for a walk more often. Take your children to sports fields, basketball halls, badminton halls, etc. for work and rest. Take them for a walk, run, and play ball. While keeping fit, you can relieve your children’s anxiety; take your children to nature, Wait in the park, breathe fresh air and see the blue skyThe sky is white with clouds, feel the beauty of life, and relax your children\’s mood; take your children to museums, nature museums, aerospace museums, etc., to see the magnificence of history, to see the strange creatures, to see the mystery of the universe… Let the children be exposed to more The big world can not only broaden their horizons, but also give them greater motivation to rush into the future. Some people say: \”The world is big, but the exam room is small; the exam is a point, and life is a line.\” No one will lose their entire life because of a failure in an exam; but some people will regret the rest of their lives because they care too much about temporary gains and losses. . Education is a long-term process, and you can\’t go very far if you care too much about the person in front of you. Only when parents and children work together can children grow up healthily and happily and become better.