Class teacher: I am disgusted with these four types of parents, and of course I don’t like their children. Do you have one?

“My child is number one in the world”: The blind self-confidence of conceited parents. There is a kind of parent who always feels that his or her child is “someone else’s child.” I remember that at a parent-teacher meeting, Xiao Zhang’s mother plausibly said: “My little Zhang’s IQ is as high as 130, how could he only get 80 points on the test? There must be something wrong with the teacher’s scoring!” This kind of blind confidence not only makes the teacher feel helpless, but also makes it easier for him to give Children create unrealistic expectations. Psychologist Carol Dweck proposed the concept of \”growth mindset\” in her book \”Lifelong Growth\”. She believes that overemphasis on talent and neglect of hard work will limit the development of children\’s potential. The emphasis is on \”cultivating\” rather than \”showing off\”. We should encourage children to discover their own interests and talents rather than treating them as bragging rights. Remember, every child is a unique individual and comparisons only cause unnecessary stress. “I’m busy making money, and I’ll leave the children to you”: Hands-off parents. Nowadays, many parents are busy with work and almost entrust their children to the school. Once, I met a father and he said: \”Teacher, I don\’t see my children more than a few times throughout the year, so the education depends entirely on you.\” This attitude seems to trust the teacher, but in fact it is an evasion of responsibility. Performance. American educationist John Dewey once said: \”Education should not be regarded as preparation for future life, education itself is life.\” The lack of family education will cause children to lose the most important emotional support and value guidance. Education is a marathon, not a sprint. No matter how busy you are at work, you still have to find time to spend with your children. Even 15 minutes of listening and communicating every day can make children feel valued and cared for. \”Whatever you say is what you say\”: \”Good-behaved\” parents who obey everything. Some parents are submissive to the teacher and do whatever the teacher says. On the surface, this kind of parent seems to be very communicative, but in fact, this kind of over-reliance can actually put a lot of pressure on the teacher. Parents ask every time we meet: \”Teacher, what should I do? I will do whatever you say.\” This attitude seems to respect teachers, but in fact it puts all the responsibility for education on the school. Psychologist Alfred Adler emphasized in \”Children\’s Education\” that parents should be role models and guides for their children. Excessive reliance on the opinions of others will cause children to lose their ability to think independently. Rather than passively waiting for instructions, it is better to actively participate in your child\’s education. Observe more, think more, and work with the teacher to develop a learning plan suitable for your child. Remember, you are the one who knows your child best. “My kids are just like this”: Lazy parents who leave things alone. The last type of parent that gives teachers a headache is those who leave their children alone. themIt is often said: \”If children love to learn, then learn. If they don\’t, forget it. Anyway, aren\’t we now advocating happy education?\” This view completely misunderstands the essence of education. The famous educator Mr. Tao Xingzhi once said: \”Education is a kind of awakening.\” Our goal is not to let children do nothing, but to stimulate their learning interest and potential. When I was a teacher, there was a student named Xiao Wang who always made trouble in class and never handed in his homework. Every time parents are called to school, they say, \”He\’s just such a virtuous person, and there\’s nothing I can do about it.\” This attitude not only makes teachers feel powerless, but is also irresponsible to their children. Education requires both love and discipline. Laissez-faire does not mean respect. Only moderate discipline and guidance can help children form good habits and character. Try to set some simple rules with your children, such as fixed study time or daily reading amount, and slowly develop their self-discipline ability. Looking back at these types of parents who give teachers headaches, it is not difficult to find one thing in common: they all ignore the importance of family education. Whether it is overconfidence, carte blanche, blind obedience or complete laissez-faire, it all reflects the deviation of parents\’ educational concepts. So, as parents, how can we avoid becoming the one who gives teachers a headache? The answer is actually very simple: Instead of focusing on the scores on the report card, it is better to focus on the overall development of the child. Try to spend some time learning about your children’s interests and exploring new things with them. Integrate educational concepts into daily life, such as cultivating a sense of responsibility through housework and broadening horizons through reading. Remember, every child is unique and our goal is not to raise “other people’s kids,” but to help them become the best version of themselves. Education is a long journey that requires the joint efforts of families, schools and society. When we no longer shirk responsibility to others, but actively participate in the growth of our children, I believe that we are not far from the goal of \”parents who don\’t give teachers headaches.\”