These five sentences are actually your children asking you for help. Parents, please don’t take them seriously.

My daughter just entered junior high school this year. As a child, she had a cheerful personality and was always full of energy. But since she entered junior high school, her emotions have become complicated. She often says \”it\’s so annoying,\” \”it\’s so annoying,\” \”it\’s so boring,\” \”I don\’t want to go to school,\” etc. Sometimes, I really don\’t know how to respond to her and how to guide her. Many parents may have such troubles. As their children grow older, they encounter more and more problems. Children\’s emotions are sometimes really hard to understand. But you know what? Children sometimes express their inner confusion and uneasiness through words. If your children often say these words, it may be that they are asking us for help. As parents, we must not ignore them. It’s not unusual for children today who don’t want to go to school to feel bored with learning. On the contrary, it would be surprising if they don’t have any resistance to learning. According to statistics, about 70% of primary and secondary school students are tired of going to school. This number is really shocking. Parents should be alert if their children frequently express feelings of not wanting to go to school. Study weariness is not caused by a single factor, there are many reasons behind it: it may be due to poor study habits and lack of effective learning methods, which makes it difficult to attend class and do homework; it may also be due to interpersonal problems, such as with The relationship between teachers, classmates or other people in the school is not good; it is also possible that parents interfere too much in their children\’s learning, causing the children to lose their autonomy and sense of achievement in learning. For example, there is a child who always makes excuses not to go to school. At first, the parents don’t pay much attention until the teacher calls and says that the child is often dazed in class and always sits alone in the corner during recess. Later, after the parents patiently communicated with their children, they realized that their children felt lonely and scared because they were rejected by their classmates. When children say \”I don\’t want to go to school,\” we should not rush to blame them. Instead, we should first try to understand their thoughts and find out the real reasons why they are tired of studying. You don’t understand that my children occasionally complain, maybe just casually, but if they always say that, then parents need to take it seriously. This may be because children feel that their feelings and thoughts are not always understood and supported enough. For example, there is a little girl who has a lot of ideas, but every time she wants to express herself, her parents always interrupt her before she finishes speaking and find various reasons. As time passed, she was no longer willing to communicate with her parents, and her relationship with them became increasingly alienated. When your children talk to you, learn to listen to them patiently. Don’t rush to conclusions. Listen carefully to your children’s inner voices and their expectations. No one plays with me. Children\’s lives often consist of going back and forth between school and home. This actually exposes a phenomenon: How do children practice their social skills? Think about when we were children, we didn’t go home directly after school, but played with friends on the road, playing with rocks, mud, and games. Unlike today’s children, who have to go home and do homework as soon as school is over. As a result, in middle school and high school, many children find that they have no friends and cannot make friends. Because they have no friends in school, they don’t want to go to school. I have a friend’s daughter who has been very good at studying since she was a child and passed the exam.She went to a key junior high school, but she dropped out of school after the first semester of junior high school because her classmates rejected her. Therefore, when children say they don’t want to go to school, we should not rush to educate them, but should think about whether there is something wrong with our education methods. We should start by improving the relationship between children and us, because the relationship between children and us will affect their relationship with the entire world. I\’m so tired. Today\’s children not only have to deal with school learning tasks, but also have to participate in various extracurricular classes. Physical exercise is often ignored. If kids say \”I\’m so tired\” a lot, they may be feeling really exhausted. I have a friend’s child who has always done well in studies, but her parents signed her up for a lot of cram schools, leaving her with almost no time to rest. As time goes by, the child becomes less and less talkative and often complains to his parents, \”I\’m so tired.\” We should not overwork children and give them some time to relax appropriately. You\’re So Annoyed A mother came to me to talk: her son was very well-behaved when he was a child, and he didn\’t have to worry about his studies. But since I entered junior high school, I feel like a different person. I have to rush for everything, and I always like to play with my mobile phone. The mention of mobile phones and studying made him annoyed, so he just didn\’t mention it, and he felt that it couldn\’t go on like this. Before children grow up, if they often say \”You are so annoying\”, \”I hate you\”, \”It\’s all your fault\”, we should not be too quick to get angry. It is better to reflect on whether we put too much pressure on them and control them too strictly, making them feel uncomfortable. The purpose of educating children is to make them independent, but the methods can be various and do not necessarily have to be harsh. Every child has his own characteristics and his own little world in his heart. What children say is sometimes the cry of their hearts, asking us for help. As parents, we must learn to listen to them patiently, truly understand them, and support them. Don’t wait until the problem gets bigger and regret not paying attention to it sooner.