In order for children to have high emotional intelligence and understand human nature, they need to read more classics (Three visits to the thatched cottage to see human nature)

Today\’s society is an era of pluralism. With the rise of the Internet, Western thought respects individual liberalization. The establishment of children\’s values ​​​​is no longer unidimensional. I used to like reading Western books. I thought they were simple, straightforward and easy to understand. As I read more and more, I found that many books have similar features and are more like reference books. To actually understand human nature and personal growth, including the establishment of values, we still need to read more Chinese classics. The cultivation of children\’s emotional intelligence and understanding of human nature cannot be taught by some reference books. They must be understood from historical figures. Yesterday, my child and I talked about the three visits to the thatched cottage in \”The Romance of the Three Kingdoms\”. It turned out that the child only understood that Zhuge Liang was invited three times and did not know many details. I asked the children a question: Liu Bei and Zhuge Liang had never known each other before. As a descendant of the (down-and-out) royal family and a former official in Yuzhou, why could Liu Bei \”lower his status\” and not hesitate to \”visit the thatched cottage three times\” to visit Zhuge Liang? Is Zhuge Liang really willing to be a villager in the mountains? What about Zhang Fei\’s character performance in Three Visits to the Thatched Cottage? Do you have such a classmate around you? Liu Bei lowered his profile and visited Zhuge Liang three times, not only because he was thirsty for talents, but also because of his thirst for talents. After listening to the recommendation, he decided that Zhuge Liang was a talent. When Zhuge Liang called himself a \”savage from Nanyang\” and said that he was \”short of talent at a young age,\” Liu Bei said: \”Sima Decao\’s words and Xu Yuanzhi\’s words are empty talk?\” Sima Hui confirmed to Liu Bei that Zhuge Liang\’s talents surpassed Guan Zhong\’s. , Leyi, \”can be compared to Jiang Ziya who flourished for eight hundred years in the Zhou Dynasty, and Zhang Zifang who flourished for four hundred years during the Han Dynasty.\” With the strong recommendation and praise of these people, Liu Bei went to Longzhong to ask Zhuge Liang without any advisers around him. It cannot be said that he was a corporal, but he really had no talents to make plans. At that time, Liu Bei\’s strength was not good enough, and he was not qualified to select talents. If there was a talent, he hurriedly poached it at all costs. Although Guan Yu and Zhang Fei followed their brother loyally and were good helpers in doing things, they had no spiritual resonance or spiritual communication, and they did not understand Liu Bei\’s heart. This can be seen through Zhang Fei\’s language. When we went there for the second time, it was snowing heavily, and Zhang Fei was worried about Liu Bei\’s health. Liu Bei said, if you are afraid of the cold, just go back. Zhang Fei said that he was not afraid of death, but he was also afraid of the cold. It\’s true that Zhang Fei cares about his brother, but his brother doesn\’t understand. After meeting Zhuge Liang\’s younger brother, Liu Bei asked Zhuge Jun, \”Do you know that your brother is familiar with military strategy?\” Zhang Fei said, \”Why are you asking him? It\’s snowing, let\’s go back quickly,\” but Liu Bei scolded and stopped him. Zhang Fei follows his brother every day, but he actually doesn\’t understand him. When Zhuge Liang was invited for the third time, Zhang Fei said that there was no need for his brother to go. If he didn\’t come, I would tie him up with a hemp rope. Zhang Fei\’s character is straightforward and reckless, brave and foolhardy, and he does things based on his emotions. So in life, we should not learn from Zhang Fei’s style of doing things. In fact, Zhang Fei\’s character also led to his tragic death. The great hero was eventually killed by his soldiers. Only by sincerely considering others can you impress people. There are some details when Liu Bei visited Zhuge Liang for the third time: \”Half a mile away from the thatched cottage, Xuande dismounted and walked.\” This was to avoid the sound of horse hooves from disturbing Zhuge Liang, and also did not want Zhuge Liang to feel that the three of them were \”aloof\” on the horse. A sense of arrogance. Liu Bei heard that Zhuge Liang was still sleeping, \”\”Under the arched steps\”, this reflects Liu Bei\’s humility. After waiting for a long time, the servant boy wanted to wake Zhuge Liang, but Liu Bei stopped him, \”it took another hour before Kong Ming woke up.\” In other words, Liu Bei waited for two days in front of Zhuge Liang\’s hall. For more than an hour, he didn\’t get impatient or sit somewhere else to rest. After Zhuge Liang woke up, he went to change his clothes. \”After a long while, Fang straightened up his clothes and came out to greet him.\” It can be seen that Liu Bei not only came three times to meet Zhuge Liang, but also waited for nearly three hours the third time to truly understand others and use his own words. Only sincerity can impress people. Is Zhuge Liang willing to be a hermit? His younger brother said, \”Yesterday.\” \”Let\’s go back\”. He came back yesterday evening. Liu Bei and the other three had to ride from Xinye to Longzhong, and they had to dismount on foot half a mile away from the thatched cottage. It was already noon. At this time, Zhuge Liang actually said \”in the thatched cottage\” \”Did not wake up from nap\”, it is not normal from sleeping at night to now. In fact, it may be just pretending to sleep, Zhuge Liang is in the old story I wanted to test Liu Bei\’s patience and see how much he weighed in Liu Bei\’s heart. Liu Bei naturally knew that it would be exciting if a master competed with a master. If you test me, I will let you test me to the fullest, so Liu Bei specially \”stand at the foot of the stairs\” and wait calmly. . Masters can keep their breath. When Zhuge Liang woke up, he recited a poem: \”Who will wake up first from the big dream?\” I know myself all my life. I had enough sleep in the spring in the thatched cottage, and the sun was getting late outside the window. \”Chichi\” means \”the way the sun sets slowly.\” This shows that Zhuge Liang actually slept until almost dusk. He got up and recited poems, showing his talent and freedom, and his fairy spirit. He hadn\’t met yet. Here, here Liu Bei had a good impression in his mind that Zhuge Liang was a master of giving himself extra points. Is Zhuge Liang willing to be a hermit? When he agreed to Liu Bei\’s departure, he immediately came up with a carefully prepared resume: Analyzing the situation, he had such a thorough understanding of the general trend of the world. He has a thorough analysis of Liu Bei\’s situation and future. This also shows that Zhuge Liang wants to make a contribution and find his own future. Why doesn\’t he go to work for Cao Cao and Sun Quan? His brother works for Sun Quan, so he definitely can\’t recommend it. The problem. The core is that it is difficult for both sides to reuse him. Cao Cao has so many advisers who are top students, and it is difficult for them to use their own skills. They will not reuse him if they go to Sun Quan. The relationship is complicated, so he can do it. Not going well Liu Bei just lacked strategy, and he could use his talents. When leaving with Liu Bei, Zhuge Liang told his brother to farm the land well and don\’t waste it. When the time comes, I will succeed. He came back. Zhuge Liang knew that accompanying a king is like accompanying a tiger. In fact, he said to Liu Bei that I was just helping you achieve your goals and not taking away your power. Liu Bei and Zhuge Liang were in a process of mutual choice and mutual success. Liu The two younger brothers, Guan Yu, are aloof and Zhang Fei is reckless. It\’s not easy for them to cooperate. They have to show military orders to obey. They are convinced on the surface, but they are dissatisfied in their hearts. They are waiting to see Zhuge Liang\’s jokes, so they have a reason to deal with him. Let them obey. Burning Bowangpo was Zhuge Liang\’s first battle. Zhuge Liang used a small plan to defeat Cao Cao\’s general Xiahou Dun. Guan Yu and Zhang Fei were convinced. No matter at any time, rely on energyStrength, relying on wisdom, if you have hard ability yourself, you can gain a foothold in society. The so-called high emotional intelligence means that to understand human nature, you need to read more classics. In order to enable my children to understand the four major classics, I bought this set of classics for my children, as well as the supporting high school and college entrance examination questions. It has story background explanations and character analysis, making it suitable for children to read.