How to accompany first grade students: Parents must have a growth mindset

After school today, the mother of her son’s kindergarten classmate Xiao Zhang was asking me anxiously: “Who did the teacher in class say got 100 in the mid-term math test? Is it your family?” I asked her son’s score. He scored 98 points in the exam and made a mistake in calculation. Zhang’s mother said: “She got 96 in the exam and said she missed the last question. She was so angry.” She kept talking to me. When I got emotional, I started to scold classmate Xiao Zhang: \”I told you many times to answer all the questions, but I just can\’t remember.\” \”Oh, my child has just started taking exams. It\’s normal to miss questions! My daughter was the first child when she was a child. I don’t know how to take the exam? There’s nothing written on the back of the paper! “Xiao Zhang is already great,” I comforted Zhang’s mother. There are many parents with a fixed mindset like Mrs. Zhang in life. He is strict with his children, always pays attention to his children\’s results, and likes to compare his children with other people\’s children. – This reminds me of my sister’s first-grade Chinese exam, which she scored in the 70s, and my grandpa took her. After school, I was invited to the classroom by the teacher and was told a lot. Grandpa was very unhappy when he came back and said, \”Next time you go to pick up the children, I won\’t go.\” I knew that my father-in-law couldn\’t keep it off because he was being talked to by the teacher. I flipped through my daughter\’s test papers. I didn’t do the back side, so I asked my daughter: “Why didn’t you do it?” “Mom, I only did the front side, and I didn’t know there were questions on the back of the test paper.” “Hahahaha.” Looking at the appearance of the old and the young, I Unable to hold it back, I laughed out loud. \”My father-in-law was so angry that he glared at me. \”Then what should I do if I have to take the exam again next time? \”I asked my daughter. \”I\’ll look at both sides and finish them both. \”The daughter replied. \”Okay, not bad. \”This is a kind of learning. Learn from mistakes, learn from experience, and learn from the process. It is not just a fixed mindset that looks at the ranking of the child and the results achieved by the child. –01 When a child makes a mistake, the fixed mindset Specific manifestations of thinking parents: When their children make mistakes, parents with a fixed mindset like to judge their children, habitually label their children, and make demands on their children for results, but cannot see the process of their children\’s efforts. This will make their children negative. Emotions such as: “Why can’t I always remember what my mom says. \”Let the children become less and less confident. The children will also live a very tired and tormented life, and have to prove themselves to others all day long. This is what we don\’t want to see, and we all hope that our children can have good studies. mentality, and experience his life easily and happily. Then, this requires parents to change their thinking and change their fixed mindset into a growth mindset. In the incident just now, the growth mindset means changing to blame. , label it as \”Let\’s learn something from it together\” and learn some experiences and lessons from something that doesn\’t look good -03 How to become a growth-minded parent first and establish unconditional love and value for your children. 1. Respect children\’s choices. Respect children\’s interests and choices within reason, and encourage them to pursue what they like instead of forcing them to act according to their parents\’ wishes. 2. Accept children\’s emotions. or hairWhen tempers arise, do not blame or criticize, but provide understanding and acceptance, and help them learn to express their emotions reasonably. 3. Encourage children to express themselves. Provide a safe environment where children dare to express their opinions and ideas. Even if these opinions are different from those of parents, respect and try to understand them. ·Second, positive language interaction allows children to have a growth mindset. ◾When children encounter setbacks or failures, accept their emotions and use empathy to understand their feelings. For example, \”I know you are sad now, but failure is not terrible. We can find out the reasons together and do better next time.\” Let children have a growth mindset. This kind of parent-child interaction will make children feel the care and support of their parents. ◾In addition, guide children to reflect on their actions and results, and help them learn from failures. For example, \”Why do you think it failed this time? What can we do to prevent the same problem from happening again?\” Such reflection can help children learn to grow from failure. ·Third, focus on the process of your child’s efforts. The way some parents praise their children is to praise their children\’s talents. For example, \”Baby, you are awesome\”, \”My son is so smart, he is a natural learner.\” This will give the child the illusion that he \”can be great without working hard.\” I feel like I’m very talented and don’t have to work hard. Parents must learn to praise their children correctly. Praise the process and motivation of the child\’s efforts, but not the results. For example, if a child plays the piano well, he will not directly praise his piano playing well, but will praise: \”Wow, you practiced really well today. You practiced seriously and devotedly. You have worked hard and you have made rapid progress recently.\” In this way, Turn the result of praise into the process of praise. ·Fourth, learn a growth mindset and allow children to make mistakes and setbacks. Children in first grade will inevitably make mistakes. When they see their children doing something wrong or encountering setbacks, some parents\’ first reaction will be to say: \”What happened? How did it go wrong? Why can\’t I tell you how to do it even though I told you many times?\” Here we need to change judging the child to helping the child. , providing help when your child needs it. ◾When children encounter difficulties or challenges, take the initiative to provide help and support, such as solving problems together, providing resources or suggestions, etc. ◾Give your children emotional support and comfort when they feel lonely, scared, or anxious, and let them know that someone is there for them no matter what. ◾When children face difficulties, encourage them to face them bravely, provide necessary guidance and support, and help them build self-confidence and problem-solving abilities. ·Fifth, adhere to long-termism and understand lifelong growth. Some parents do not grow up themselves, which will have a negative impact on their children\’s education. When parents can adhere to long-termism and have a lifelong growth mentality, they will feel that every time is an opportunity to learn. Why not give it a try? Even if you make a mistake, what can you learn from it? Because there is still a long way to go in life. When everything in life is faced with a lifelong growth mentality, parents and children will be much more relaxed, and the parent-child relationship will be much more harmonious. -Written at the end: On the road of growth, every failure of a child is an opportunity for learning, and every challenge is an opportunity for growth. When we use a growth mindset to face childrenWhen we improve our children\’s growth and education, we will find that children will become more confident, brave and optimistic, and their lives will become more exciting and fulfilling. Let us work together and use growth thinking to light the way forward for children!