To destroy a junior high school student, just keep saying these 3 sentences

Recently, when I was chatting with my colleagues, a topic came up called the power of language. Good words can inspire people, but bad words can really destroy people! Sometimes, the hurt caused by some words spoken inadvertently may be remembered for decades! Therefore, teachers are generally cautious in their words and deeds. In fact, many parents at home also have mantras that they really need to pay attention to. It’s best not to say the following sentences! NO.1 \”Why are you so stupid? You can\’t even learn this!\” No matter what you learn, there will always be difficulties. Without a good angle, you will sometimes get stuck and make mistakes repeatedly. In fact, this is a normal phenomenon, just like concepts that we couldn\’t understand when we were young, we can understand them when we get a little older. But at that critical moment, I was already very anxious and depressed. If a parent or teacher said, \”Why are you so stupid? You can\’t even learn this!\” The blow would be fatal and deny his ability. It may cause them to have strong self-doubt and really think that they are stupid, thus losing confidence in learning. Over time, you may become afraid of learning and avoid learning. Don\’t say it when the words are on your lips. No matter how impatient you are, say: \”This knowledge point is indeed a bit difficult. Let\’s take a look at it together. I believe you can understand it.\” NO.2 \”Look at others, and then Look at yourself!\” Subconsciously, we like to compare, no matter what we compare, we just compare! When educating children, we always hope that through comparison, we can make children realize their own shortcomings, thereby stimulating their ambition. However, the actual effect is often counterproductive. For junior high school students, they hope to be recognized and respected by others. Always comparing them with others, and deliberately comparing other people\’s strengths and weaknesses, may make them feel worthless and develop a serious inferiority complex. We have to admit that everyone always has some aspects that no matter how hard they try, they cannot surpass others. What we want is not to lose the motivation to work hard. Compare, you can compare, just compare with yourself! Focus on their progress and growth. For example, when a child makes a little progress in a certain aspect, we can give timely affirmation: \”You did much better this time than last time. Keep up the good work and you will get better and better.\” Excellent!\” Let the children feel that their efforts have been recognized, so that they can pursue progress with more confidence. NO.3 \”I am doing this for your own good, you must listen to me!\” In the eyes of parents and teachers, everything we do is indeed for the benefit of our children. We hope that they will avoid detours and have a bright future. . But if they often say: \”I am doing this for your own good, you must listen to me!\” It may cause them who should be independent to lose the opportunity to be independent, and eventually become dependent on adults and have no independent opinion. As a junior high school student, if you don’t participate in the decision-making of your own life and study, how can your abilities be exercised? Another point is that if we always force students of this age to do what we want, it may cause them to have a rebellious mentality and even create a barrier with us. Therefore, it is best to respect their ideas andChoose, and then give advice and guidance when appropriate, rather than force orders. Tell them with actions: \”No matter what choice you make, I will support you, but you must be responsible for your own choice.\” This not only cultivates the children\’s independent ability, but also allows them to feel our love and support.