The teacher punished the child to write \”don\’t talk in class\” 300 times. I admire this mother\’s approach

If we count from kindergarten to college graduation, even if we don\’t repeat a grade, our entire educational career will last 19 years. During this long period of time, the most authoritative person we have contact with is the teacher. In front of teachers, all students are absolutely vulnerable groups. The vast majority of teachers are loving and responsible, but there are a very small number of teachers whose psychology and character are not that healthy. They are occasionally unfair in their dealings and may use inappropriate methods to educate children, such as arranging various \”punishing\” things. Violent work.\” Writer Yin Jianli said in the book \”A Good Mother is Better than a Good Teacher\”: The teacher asked the whole class to write down mathematical theorems silently. If there was a typo, they would be sent home to copy ten times. As a result, the whole class was fined; the next day Students who have not copied it ten times have to copy the theorems of the entire mathematics book… I believe many people have encountered similar things. Netizen A said: \”When I encountered such a thing when I was a child, I would grab two pens and write two lines at the same time to deal with it…\” \”What would you do if your child encountered violent homework?\” Everyone has different opinions on this issue. opinion. A mother said: I will ask the child if he remembers the wrong word now? Ask him to write one for me to read. Once he can write, I will sign in his homework book and say that he has learned how to write and does not need to write. Some mothers believe that parents\’ signature represents a confrontation with the teacher. It is better to communicate with the teacher to see if there are other reasons and whether the violent homework can be canceled. If it cannot be canceled, the parents can only write it for them. Some mothers suggested calling the newspaper/TV station/education committee/principal’s office and other departments to cancel and prevent violent work from happening in the future. Of course, the prerequisite for this is that the violent operation is not targeted at a few people, and the phone calls must be anonymous. Although everyone has different methods, their views are the same: violent homework is harmful to children! When parents deal with the problem, they should consider the different situations of the teachers, as well as various factors such as the age, personality and psychology of their children. Huihui is a fourth-grade girl with excellent academic performance. She ranks among the top three in the class in every subject. She has a wide range of interests, has a strong sense of responsibility as a class leader, and has good organizational skills. But something happened not long ago, which shocked the child quite a bit. The teacher asked the class cadres to \”lead the good to the bad\”, so Huihui\’s deskmate was a boy who was at the bottom of the class. He often didn\’t do his homework, talked a lot in class, and made a lot of little moves. In the self-study class that day, the teacher was not in the classroom, and my classmates did not do homework or read books. They kept talking to the classmates around them and disturbing others. As a class cadre and the \”manager\” designated by the teacher, Huihui reminded her classmates: \”Just do your homework and stop talking.\” As luck would have it, the math teacher came in at this moment. She saw Huihui talking to her deskmate and was very angry. The teacher, who had always had a bad temper, immediately became angry and criticized Huihui in public, saying that as a class leader, she did not abide by classroom discipline and took the lead in speaking. Although Huihui stood up and explained what happened to the teacher, and several classmates whispered to help her prove it, the teacher still announced the punishment decision: Huihui and her classmates would each copy 300 times \”Don\’t speak in self-study class\”. My male deskmate was used to being punished by the teacher, so he was carefree and didn\’t care. However, Huihui, who was excellent in both morals and academics, felt aggrieved and went home from school to cry to her mother. After listening to the child\’s description, the mother felt sorry for her child: in order to complete the \”management\” tasks assigned by the teacher, the child not only offended his classmates, but was also criticized in public by the teacher, and had to be punished with \”violent homework\”. Huihui\’s mother calmed down and thought that what made her most sad was not that she had to write more than 2,000 words of homework, nor that she lost face in front of her classmates (who basically knew she was wronged), but that she thought the teacher was unfair. Teachers have a supreme status in every child\’s heart. They are the embodiment of knowledge and symbolize authority and justice. When a child faces unfair treatment by a teacher, it is like when we face an unfair court ruling. The grievance and helplessness are similar. Huihui’s mother feels that although this incident is infuriating, it is also an opportunity to educate her children and let them understand several truths: there will always be unfair things in this society; not everyone will treat you well; teachers are also human beings. They have different tempers and personalities, sometimes they have bad moods, and sometimes they may behave unfairly. So Huihui\’s mother said to her child: \”The teacher is facing the whole class. She knows that you are not wrong, but in order to educate other students, she can only punish you as well.\” Huihui still felt aggrieved, but she agreed to copy 300 \”Don\’t talk during self-study classes\” all the time. Her mother then added: \”I also think this punishment is not very reasonable, so I will help you copy it together.\” The final result was that after Huihui copied it more than a dozen times, she went to do her homework, and her mother helped her to copy the rest. Copied everything below. Using the child\’s composition book, one word in each grid, I copied five or six sheets of paper, and according to the teacher\’s request, marked each pass with numbers so that the teacher could check. I asked Huihui’s mother why she hadn’t thought of contacting the teacher to understand the situation and negotiate a solution. Huihui\’s mother said that this math teacher always punished children simply and roughly, had an impatient personality, was not very patient with students, had a bad attitude, and occasionally punished students corporally. The teacher is in her 40s, so the possibility of changing her is relatively small. \”I don\’t have enough strength to fight against that teacher. If I argue with the teacher, my child will be hurt in the end. My daughter will definitely be wearing shoes in her class. If the teacher doesn\’t leave, the child will change schools and classes. The possibility is extremely small. I have to stay in this teacher\’s class until I graduate from elementary school, so I have to suffer some minor grievances.\” Shortly after the penalty incident, another thing happened, and it was also this mathematician. The teacher punished Huihui unfairly, and Huihui was aggrieved and angry as usual. At this point, Huihui\’s mother felt that it was impossible to make her children like the math teacher. Children of this age often resented a teacher and became angry about the subject he taught. This was what her mother was most worried about. So she told Huihui: \”You can hate the math teacher, it doesn\’t matter, I don\’t like her either. But the worst way to hate her is not that you don\’t learn math well from now on, on the contrary, it is that you do well every time in the exam, so that There is no way the teacher can hate you!\” From then on, Huihui worked harder to study mathematics, and almost always ranked first in the class. She usedThis is a way to \”retaliate\” against the teacher you don\’t like! After these two incidents, Huihui\’s mental endurance has obviously become stronger. In life, everyone may encounter unfair treatment. If you can fight, fight, and if you can hide, avoid it. If you can\’t fight for it, you can\’t hide from it. To avoid greater harm, just endure it if you can. No matter how strong and brave we are originally, when we have children, we immediately have weaknesses and cannot deal with anything based on our whim. Once there is a conflict or dispute with a teacher or school, even a small disturbance, the impact and harm caused will be felt by the children first. As parents, our first priority is to protect our children. In my opinion, unless matters related to children involve national justice, the laws of the country and other major issues of right and wrong, in all other matters, when we have to give in, we should give in. Who gives us a weakness! Faced with the teacher’s unfair incident, Huihui’s mother expressed her disapproval in a very tactful way (even if she tried hard to imitate, the teacher should still be able to see the difference in handwriting), and maintained the teacher’s face. At the same time, she told her children that there must be injustice in society, and that they should learn to treat teachers correctly and rationally. These are rare \”frustration educations\” that allow children to understand many truths. At the same time, she transformed the children\’s negative emotions such as grievance and disgust towards the teacher, \”turned anger into strength\”, studied hard, and achieved remarkable results. \”Later, the math teacher did something very egregious. My daughter took the initiative to tell me that these were just small things. I think I should thank this teacher. She helped me complete all the frustration education.\” Knowledge is needed to understand everything in the world. The mastery of human feelings is the article! Educational materials are everywhere in life, and everything can be used as an educational case. Only truly attentive parents, with a heart of parental love, starting from the overall situation and taking a long-term view, can take advantage of the situation, take advantage of it, and turn decay into magic!