Children with these two characteristics are destined to suffer a lifetime of disadvantages!

For parents, everyone hopes that their children can grow up healthy and happy, and not suffer disadvantages or be bullied outside. In fact, sometimes we as parents may not know what our children have experienced outside. Although it is said that \”every time you suffer, you will gain wisdom\”, but I still don\’t want my children to grow up only after suffering a loss or suffering. A friend who is a head teacher with many years of teaching experience told me that the children who suffer the most in school often have the following two characteristics. Beibei, the daughter of a cowardly child, is very well-behaved and cute. She does everything she can do by herself, especially to make her friend worry-free. In school, Beibei was often praised by teachers. But I heard from a friend that Beibei was very quiet recently and looked depressed. Her friend asked her if she had encountered any difficulties, but the child also hesitated and said nothing. In the evening, when a friend wanted to give Beibei a bath, the child refused to take off his clothes. Only then did the friend realize that something was wrong. After taking off the child\’s clothes, my friend burst into tears instantly. Looking at the purple scars on the child\’s arm, he quickly asked the child what happened. Beibei then told the truth: \”There are two classmates in the class who always bully me, poke me in the arm with the tip of a pen, and don\’t let me tell others, otherwise they will beat me.\” The friend immediately said to the child: \”They will do it again in the future. In this way, you tell your mother, and she will take care of them. Also, stay away from them and ignore them.\” The next day, the friend went to school and told the teacher about the matter, and the teacher also talked to the two classmates. Tell them clearly not to bully Beibei again. However, the two classmates only stopped for a while before they became restless again. Beibei came home crying one day and said to her mother: \”Mom, I don\’t want to go to school anymore, and they bully me again.\” My friend felt very distressed when he saw the child\’s pitiful appearance, and finally made the decision to transfer the child to another school. Actually, I really don’t agree with what my friend did. When a child is bullied, escaping will not solve the problem. It will only make the child more cowardly and easily lack the ability to solve problems independently. Sometimes, when a child is bullied without doing anything wrong, you might as well refer to what this father did. When Kayla was practicing dance, she was deliberately pushed down by her classmates but did not dare to say a word. This scene was witnessed by her father in the audience. On the way back, the father asked his daughter: \”Why didn\’t you resist when she pushed you?\” The daughter said, \”Because you didn\’t let me resist.\” At this time, the father\’s attitude changed completely and he supported his daughter to resist. She also taught her daughter: \”If someone offends me, I will offend him.\” As a result, during the performance that day, someone tried to push Keira down again. But this time, Keila was not cowardly, but followed her father\’s instructions and successfully counterattacked. The opponent completed the performance perfectly. Although Rui\’s mother does not approve of using force to solve problems, this way of thinking of \”don\’t cause trouble when nothing happens, and don\’t be afraid of trouble when things happen\” is still worth learning. At least, your child will not lack the ability to solve problems independently. Children who act smart won’t suffer a loss if they are smart? uncertain! There is a saying: \”Cleverness leads to mistakes.\” I once heard Ruirui tell the story of their squad leader. Ruirui’s classmate Hanghang is hereHe stood out in the semester\’s class president election and became the new class president. I heard that before Hanghang ran for class president, he was very friendly to his classmates. He took the initiative to help his classmates solve their problems every day. If any of his classmates had problems that they couldn\’t solve, he would patiently answer them. He was a good friend and a good role model in everyone\’s eyes. Therefore, during the squad leader election, everyone unanimously agreed to choose Hanghang as the squad leader. But later, after Hanghang became the class monitor, his attitude changed a lot. When his classmates asked him questions that he didn\’t know how to do, he always used the excuse that he was busy; when his classmates played with him, he always said in a commanding tone: \”How could you do this? You should…\” This made everyone afraid to approach him casually. After a while, the school had to evaluate the outstanding cadres of the class, and Hanghang became \”enthusiastic\” again. Because the exam was approaching, Hanghang took the initiative to help everyone sort out the key points, saying that he usually had more contact with the teacher and knew what the teacher mainly tested. Everyone trusts Hanghang and is very grateful. As a result, Hanghang successfully became an outstanding class leader in the selection event. But after the exam, everyone discovered that Hanghang didn\’t get much in the key points of the exam, but his own score was very high. Only then did everyone realize that everything Hanghang had done was just for selection. From then on, the classmates in the class became more and more alienated from Hanghang, and almost no one wanted to play with him. Hanghang is indeed a smart child who knows how to rely on some \”little means\” to achieve his personal goals. However, when we educate our children to learn knowledge, are we just trying to let them use others to benefit themselves? Insufficient abilities can be supplemented through study and experience, but if the quality is not good, it will be really difficult to take on big responsibilities. Children may get some temporary benefits by being clever, but in the long run, children\’s kindness, sense of responsibility and understanding of gratitude can help children build a career. Don\’t be afraid of your child suffering a loss. It\’s not terrible to suffer a loss. What\’s terrible is to suffer the same loss twice. But don\’t let your child suffer a loss easily. Why should the baby I love so much be allowed to be harmed by others at will.