Parents must be wary of these behaviors of children [Don’t regret it]

If you don\’t practice hard, but you study literature and have a long life, who will you become? This story is for all parents who hope their sons will succeed and their daughters will succeed. I hope my experience can give you some inspiration and help you avoid detours on the way to raising your children. 01 My daughter Youyou lives up to her name and is an outstanding child in everyone’s eyes. She is beautiful, has a lively personality, is versatile and is a top student. I wanted to raise my daughter well and cultivate her temperament from an early age, so in addition to various cram schools for academic studies, I also spent money to enroll my child in piano classes. In addition, I often take my children to high-end restaurants and shopping malls, trying to broaden their knowledge and tastes as much as possible with my limited conditions. After a lot of troubles, I was delighted to see that Youyou was developing a wider and wider range of knowledge and speaking more and more appropriately as I had imagined. This made her different from other children in every move she made. At first glance, he looks like a well-educated child who has seen the world. But after something happened recently, I no longer had this joyful feeling of satisfaction. 02 Last week, my husband and I were on a business trip and couldn\’t accompany Youyou to practice piano, so we asked my grandma to take her there. That night I talked to Youyou on the phone and asked about my piano practice. Youyou’s reaction was beyond my expectation. She complained in a very disgusting tone: \”Mom, never let grandma send me there in the future. You don\’t even know what she was wearing today. I was embarrassed to tell the teacher there that this was my grandma. She also She was very stingy. After practicing the piano, I asked her to take me to eat spaghetti when I asked her to go home for dinner, but she took me to a small shop on the street to eat spicy hotpot! I was so angry!\” I was very puzzled. Usually Youyou is very popular. Grandma loves you, and Youyou is polite to her. How could you say such a thing? After I got home, I asked my grandma how she was doing. She was a little hesitant and didn\’t look very good. \”My clothes were a little dirty after cooking that day, so I thought it didn\’t matter so I didn\’t change them. Who knew Youyou cared so much and kept muttering for me to change them, but it was too late, I was almost late… After I finished, I didn\’t eat the lunch because I thought about it. After that, she said she would come back to eat, but Youyou insisted that I go out to eat. The restaurant she wanted to go to was too expensive, a dish cost 50 yuan! The Malatang I took her to eat was delicious and cheap. But she looked unhappy…\” I decided to observe Youyou\’s daily life more carefully than usual. You don’t know if you don’t use your heart, but you will be shocked if you use your heart! Youyou, who you are so proud of, actually looks like this! Youyou wants to use everything well, and will be dissatisfied with anything less than it. I took her to buy clothes, and she had to buy expensive ones. I tried some clothes that looked good and were of good quality. When I saw that the prices were very affordable, I said I didn’t like them. When going to the supermarket, she will definitely take the same thing with gorgeous packaging, but she will rarely put it in the basket if it is in simple packaging. When deciding where to eat, Japanese food and French food were her favorite places. She didn\’t want to go to ordinary restaurants. When she went there, she would be picky and unhappy. Youyou treats service staff who are at the lower levels of society with no empathy and an arrogant attitude. Once when eating out, the waiter accidentally spilled the soup while serving the food. When the waiter apologized and left, Youyou rolled her eyes at the man and muttered \”Stupid\”\”Dead.\” After eating, we stood on the street and took a taxi. While waiting, a sanitation worker came over to sweep the floor. Youyou pinched her nose and avoided it. After getting in the car, she said angrily: \”It\’s so dirty.\” \”\”. Although Youyou is polite to her elders, she is not respectful in her heart and often dislikes and criticizes her. I usually guide Youyou in her homework, but I can\’t help at all in English. Youyou will say who is so and so in their class. Mom\’s English is so good that she has no problem talking to foreigners. Whenever this happens, I can feel the \”disgust\” in Youyou\’s eyes, but I almost can\’t say it out loud. Grandma often cooks at home, and sometimes she does the laundry. Bowls. When grandma gets older, sometimes she can\’t wash the bowls cleanly. When Youyou gets a greasy bowl, she will look unhappy and say, \”How can I eat with such a greasy bowl?\” and then angrily runs to change the bowl. She doesn\’t know what grandma said. , but everyone feels her dissatisfaction. I have seen some children who have \”dislike the poor and love the rich\” written on their faces. They are vain, exaggerated, face-saving, ungrateful, self-righteous, and look down on others. I don\’t want Youyou to become Such a child never expected that Youyou, whom he had carefully cultivated, would also develop in this direction! Although on the surface, Youyou is still polite and polite. Even, in the eyes of outsiders, Youyou studies well and has many talents. She\’s already good enough. But I know in my heart that if you don\’t have self-cultivation, you don\’t have self-cultivation. No matter how beautiful you wear the sugar-coated clothes, there will be a day when your true colors will melt and your true colors will be revealed. Youyou already has a flashy air at such a young age. If you don\’t guide him, I\’m afraid that she will become a hypocritical \”gentle lady\” in the future. The higher she is praised, the harder she will fall. Maybe it was because we spoiled her too much before, maybe we put too much emphasis on achievements and talents, and paid too much attention to the external glamor and ignored it. In order to cultivate the child\’s character and morality. When the child receives external feedback, the better my grades, the better my appearance, the more talents I have, and the more people will like me and recognize me. Unknowingly, her words and deeds will be different from hers. The thinking habits will go in that direction. If you pay too much attention to your own appearance, you will fall into a self-centered and selfish mentality. Over time, the child will become vain and arrogant. The \”Disciples\’ Rules\” say that if you don\’t practice it, you can learn literature and grow up. Glitz, no matter who you are. I didn’t feel anything when I read this sentence before, but now that this problem has appeared in my children, I suddenly realized that I had gone astray in educating my children. It turns out that whether a child has a future or not, It’s not about how good his grades or talents are, but whether he is kind and tolerant to strangers, respectful and courteous to service staff, and respectful and humble to his relatives and elders. Because virtue is the root. Without the practice of virtue, even if there is no No matter how much talent and ability you have, they are like trees without roots, and they may overturn in an instant when encountering a storm. Parents who have high hopes for their children like me, please remember – don\’t let our vanity create the vanity of our children. Don\’t Let our contempt encourage our children\’s arrogance. Don\’t let our ignorance ruin our children\’s future.