The gift that children want most is actually this…

The child had piles of gold and beads, but he came into the world like a beggar. It\’s not for nothing that he pretended to be like this. This cute little naked beggar pretends to be completely helpless in order to beg for his mother\’s wealth of love. ——Tagore Yesterday, I saw a very common but distressing story. A girl hasn\’t seen her mother in 3 years. She said: \”I don\’t want any gifts on Children\’s Day, I just want to see my mother!\” \”Everyone who heard this was heartbroken, and the farewell made people cry even more. After a brief reunion, when my mother left, she chased the motorcycle for a kilometer at the top of her lungs, until she collapsed on the ground from exhaustion. I saw the little girl chasing The photo of my mother also brought tears to my eyes. Because I remembered how I felt when I was sending my mother to the car at the station when I was a child. I didn’t chase the car at that time, but I couldn’t help but cry. I was walking home alone in the car. When I went to school, I could barely hold back and cover my face and cry silently. But after I got home, I could cry all day long. The tears I shed at that time were always disappointing. After many years, I have never shed so many tears like this. But I have always cried. The memory is still fresh, hidden in a corner of my heart. At that time, if someone asked me: \”What do you want most?\” \”I will definitely say that I want my mother and want her by my side. Maybe my own experience has made me lack this sense of security. So after having a child, I am afraid that the child will also lack it. When my son is sleeping, Even if he agreed to sleep alone, he would sometimes get up secretly and go to the door of my room. His little face said expectantly: \”Dad, come!\” \”What are you here for?\” \”Stay with me!\” \”Children always long for more company from their parents. \”Stay with me, stay with me! \”This is a child\’s call for parents\’ love. But we understand that children must learn to be independent. Parents have to let go after all. So I will encourage this little man to go to bed by himself. Sometimes, he really falls asleep alone. Go. At this time, I will put down what I am doing, and with a little heartache, I will come to lie next to him for a while. Let him stay with me, and I will stay with him. Maybe this is how you love your children. I long to love you, Come closer to you. But I must also learn to watch you and protect you silently. In those moments when you are growing up, I am also growing up. Because every adult is actually a child. I have always felt that what is best for children There is nothing more loving than understanding a child\’s feelings. In that story, the little girl\’s mother bought her a beautiful princess dress. You look at my beautiful dress or clothes, hoping that I will be happy. But my eyes are looking at you, I hope to remember your appearance. Remember my mother’s appearance. We often think that we understand our children very well. But sometimes the child’s heart is like a small maze, and we often get lost. Over the years, I have read Tagore’s poem repeatedly The poem \”The Way of Children\” can help us understand more about children. I would like to share it with you: \”The Way of Children\” As long as the child is willing, he can fly to the sky at this moment. The reason why he does not leave us is not without reason. He Love leans his head on his mother\’s breast, even if he does not see her for a moment. The child knows all kinds of wise words, although few people in the world understand the meaning of these words. That is why he will neverI want to say, it\’s not without reason. One thing he has to do is learn the words that come from his mother\’s lips. That\’s why he seems so naive. The child had piles of gold and beads, but he came into the world like a beggar. It\’s not for nothing that he pretended to be like this. This cute little naked beggar pretends to be completely helpless in order to beg for his mother\’s wealth of love. In the world of the tiny Crescent Moon, children are free from all constraints. It was not for nothing that he gave up his freedom. He knew that there was infinite happiness hidden in the little corner of his mother\’s heart, and that being embraced by his mother\’s dear arms was far sweeter than freedom. The child never knows how to cry. He lives in a perfect paradise. It wasn\’t for nothing that he shed tears. Although he used the smile on his lovely face to draw his mother\’s eager heart towards him, his little cries because of trivial matters became a double bind of pity and love. (Selected from \”New Moon Collection\”, translated by Zheng Zhenduo) In Tagore\’s writings, children are omnipotent, omniscient, omnipotent, unrestrained and carefree, but children willingly abandon these for the sake of their own destiny. The most important thing is to get the love of mother – this is the so-called \”child\’s way\”. In a child\’s mind, parents are their own world and the beginning of the world. Many of the first times in life are completed under the watchful eyes of parents. Holding the hands of mom and dad, we move forward step by step. Children need their father to love their mother, and their mother to love their father. How happy such a child is! I think every child is willing to give the most precious gift in exchange for such love. There is a saying: The best love a father has for his child is to love his child’s mother; the best love a mother has for her child is to appreciate and respect her child’s father! You can be together or you can be apart, but you can\’t live without love! How well said. In the end, what can maintain our good feelings is warm love, not just blood ties. And it is love, not psychotherapy, that can truly heal our inner wounds. Baby, I think I know what you want. In fact, you just long for more companionship and more love. Rich or poor, we must be together. No matter what the situation is, we must work harder…