unfair! It is the mother who takes care of the baby all day long, but it is the father who cares about the child…

These days, I \”leave home\” and live alone in a hotel at the foot of Fragrant Mountain in Beijing. In the early morning, I walked on the path of Xiangshan in the morning mist; at noon, I read under the shadow of the trees; in the afternoon, I watched dramas with a cup of coffee. It\’s a pity that the above are all illusions, illusions, illusions! I stayed in the hotel to avoid Xiaochuan and recuperate. I used to think that I was an iron man and wanted to do more of everything, spend more time with my children, do more work, and write more articles. Therefore, I could only spend less time resting and sleeping, and even less time. Over time, just like the advertising slogan, \”I feel like my body has been hollowed out\”, the immune system goes off, and the virus takes the opportunity to enter. I was worried about infecting Xiaochuan, so I moved to a hotel not far from home for a few days. Chuan\’s father would come over to stay with me after get off work in the evening. But that\’s not the point! Not the point! Not the point! There are grandparents taking care of her at home, and Xiaochuan is quite sensible, but she is still worried about being a mother and calls home every day to ask about the situation at home. When Xiaochuan answered the phone, he was quite conscientious at first. Every time he would ask: \”Mom, are you feeling better today?\” But every day the phone call ended like this: \”Mom, are you okay? I\’m okay.\” When I gave him permission to hang up, he hung up without hesitation. My heart felt a little painful, \”The naughty boy has forgotten his own mother in just a few days\”! Who knows that a bigger critical attack is coming later. On the third night, my husband was worried about Xiaochuan and called him (in front of me). The boy burst into tears! ! ! While crying, she complained: \”Dad, didn\’t you say you would come back to stay with me? You have been with mom for two days. You must come back tonight! You must come back!\” Watching her husband mouthing each baby with a smile on his face (in fact, he didn\’t even Invisible), patiently explained to his son. I felt (e) moved (xin) in my heart: \”I didn\’t know, I thought you were calling your lover!\” In the end, it was me who presented the facts to my son, and he took a step back, but asked his father tomorrow afternoon Must be home before 6 o\’clock! (The next day, my father got off work at 4 o\’clock for the first time and went to pick up Xiaochuan from school.) I was really unwilling to accept it. I glared at my husband: \”It\’s not fair! I accompany him every morning and evening to see him off.\” Go to school, pick him up, read with him, practice piano, play chess, go out to play… How long have you spent with him! All he thinks about now is you!\” Listen to me, Ba La Ba La complained, and my husband was silent He replied to me: Rare things are more valuable! I was speechless for a moment. If you think about it carefully, it seems that this is true. Mom, of course it is very important, otherwise who will do the dirty work for him, such as washing, cooking, playing with him, doing handicrafts, etc. However, I can see my mother every day. Even if she gets sick occasionally and runs away to hide for a few days, she will still come back obediently. Dad is different. Our father leaves early and comes home late every day, rarely showing up before Xiaochuan goes to bed. The father and son usually only see each other briefly in the morning before going to school. Recently, my father suggested that we get up early and exercise with him. Poor Xiaochuan, he gets up before 6 o\’clock every day. Sometimes he wakes up suddenly at 3 or 4 o\’clock, worrying that he has overslept. After a week, I have dark circles under my eyes at such a young ageYes. Tell me, how rare is daddy’s item for a child to treasure it like this? But having said that, Dad’s item is indeed very good and has its own unique uses. The child really likes it. Take our family as an example. Dad can accompany Xiaochuan to run wildly, \”fight monsters\”, go to the park\’s sprinkler system and get wet all over, secretly buy him ice cream, etc. There are a series of things that my mother can\’t do and won\’t do. Things to do. Taking a walk in the park, the two of them were able to arrange it into an unprecedented cosmic adventure, giving all the places they passed strange names, and designing me as a monster and an old witch. …Dad and mother raising children are really different, just like these little cartoons below: So, although I say it\’s unfair, I\’m actually very happy to see the two of them have the opportunity to fight and play together, We are happy together, I just wish it would have been better if we had more time. But, I really can’t blame Dad, he really tried his best. He works hard just to make our lives better, and he has tried his best to find time to spend with us. Last time, in order to participate in the June 1st activities organized by the school, he worked overtime until 4 o\’clock in the morning, and got up at 7 o\’clock to go to school with Xiaochuan. We have been discussing and even criticizing the issue of \”father\’s absence in children\’s education\”. I think sometimes we should distinguish between objective absence and subjective absence. Families generally have a division of labor. Some people are responsible for making money and others are responsible for taking care of the family. Even if both parents work, there will definitely be someone who focuses more on family and children. Of course, most of the time it is the mother. At this time, my father was focused on his work, and a certain degree of \”objective absence\” was sometimes unavoidable. But if the father is \”subjectively absent\”, it is really a problem. I have heard many mothers complain that after their fathers get off work, they like to run out and \”hang out\” with friends. Even at home, they stare at their mobile phones, computers, and TVs, and do not take the initiative to play with their children. The most exaggerated case I have ever seen. This father was \”asked\” to feed Dabao. Seeing that the food was still hot, he asked Dabao to wait and turned around to play games. 2-year-old Dabao was hungry. He stood on tiptoes and reached for his rice bowl. A large bowl of hot noodles was poured directly on the child\’s face and neck, causing third-degree burns. However, even if there are such unreliable fathers, I found that the key to solving their \”subjective absence\” is still – children. There is a father of two children like this. As for him, he spent almost no time or energy on the eldest son. In his own words: \”It doesn\’t feel too big, the eldest brother has grown up.\” But when it came to the second eldest son, the old man was old and his wife was in poor health. , he could only go up. In the process of raising the second child, although it was hard, he deeply realized the joy and satisfaction of raising a child, and the more he took care of the child, the more he wanted to take care of him. If I can\’t see my second child for a day, I feel bad. He said: \”When the child leaves his mother and rushes to me, saying in a babyish voice, \’Daddy hugs, daddy hugs\’ and \’I miss daddy so much,\’ I feel that everything is worth it.\” My father is even more exaggerated. He would be really smug because Ogawa ranked him as \”the most handsome man in the world\”; he would be extremely happy because Ogawa gave him a portrait; he would be extremely happy because Ogawa told him, \”Dad, I don\’t want you to stay up late. Too tired for youGo to bed early\”, with tears in his eyes. He often felt ashamed of his son and blamed himself for spending too little time with him, so he desperately found time to spend more time with him. So, how can there be a father who doesn\’t love his children? There are many fathers who don\’t love their children. At that time, his \”indifference\” to the child was just because he got along with the child too little and interacted too little. He has not yet experienced the happiness and joy of parenting. When we devote time and effort to our children, he will return it to us. The trust, dependence and heartfelt care and love are a kind of incurable poison that will make us sink deeper and deeper involuntarily. The old saying is true, the only thing that can truly tie a man\’s heart is his children. So, let go and let your children deal with the erratic dad, and you will be sure to succeed immediately. Let dad be a good and not scarce item. Happy holidays, dads!