Sister, give in to your younger brother

There is a detail in the movie \”Tangshan Earthquake\”. On the day of the earthquake, two siblings, Fang Deng and Fang Da, taught the naughty kid who grabbed Fang Da\’s ice cream a lesson and ran home. After returning home, my mother was cooking. There were two tomatoes and a few cucumbers in the basin. Fangda picked up a tomato and ate it. In the evening, the weather was hot and the two children were clamoring for tomatoes. There was only one tomato left. My mother took it over and told my sister to give it to my brother. My sister said that my brother had already eaten. My mother still didn\’t change her mind and insisted on giving the remaining tomatoes to her brother and then buy them for her sister tomorrow. Although my sister was not happy, she said nothing more when she heard that she could eat it tomorrow. This small detail of life paved the way for the mother\’s choices later. The disaster struck, the father was killed, and the siblings were crushed under the same stone slab. The stone slab is huge, and it is almost impossible to rescue the two siblings at the same time. To save one, the stone slab must press against the other. If you choose to let one live, you can only let the other die. How to make a choice is an extremely cruel thing for a mother. She really wants to save both children. If she is allowed to die and have two children, she is willing. Destiny would not fulfill her like this. She could only choose one of the two children. In the end, she squeezed out three words, \”Save my brother.\” These three words could be heard clearly by my sister lying under the stone slab. Fortunately, my sister did not die and was adopted by the People\’s Liberation Army. Years later, her adoptive father persuaded her to go back and find her relatives, but she always resisted and refused. She could not overcome the hurdle in her heart and could not forgive her mother for giving up her life. In the mother\’s heart, her brother is more important than her. The choice between life and death is a small probability event. Sister, give in to your younger brother, this is a high probability life. A reader told her story. She and her brother were two years apart and often fought when they were young. At first, her brother couldn\’t beat her. After being beaten a few times by her, she went to her mother crying. Her mother never asked her why and pulled her over to make her brother fight back. She wanted to defend herself, but her mother said, \”He is your brother, he is young, you have to let him go, and you still beat him, what\’s your point?\” When she couldn\’t beat her younger brother, she cried and went to her mother. Her mother never scolded her younger brother. Instead, she took her younger brother\’s hand and said, \”Oh, that\’s great. You can beat your older sister.\” At that time, her family was poor and she rarely bought meat. Every time she bought meat, she would consciously pick out the meat in front of her and give it to her brother. Her mother smiled and praised her for finally becoming sensible and knowing how to let her brother go. Because she was praised by her mother, she gave in to her younger brother. She let her younger brother eat the delicious food first and let her younger brother play with the fun food first. She said that she had been trying to please others, her parents, and her younger brother since she was a child. When she grew up, she did not dare to express her true thoughts. Only later did she realize that this had a lot to do with her childhood. Deep in her heart, letting her younger brother please her parents, so it has almost become her instinct to let her younger brother. But no one knows that she also likes eating meat. Before giving birth to my second child, I had concerns. If my second child was a boy, would my daughter be wronged? If that\’s the case, it\’s better to just have one. Fortunately, my father and I have a tacit understanding. No matter whether the second child is a boy or a girl, we must treat the eldest child well. When the son was born, the grandparents were overjoyed. One night, after eatingChat over meals. Grandma said to her daughter: \”If you have a younger brother, you have to let him eat less. Eat less of the delicious food and give him more.\” The daughter asked, \”Why?\” Grandma said, \”Because he is better than you.\” Little.\” The father and I heard their conversation and stopped it quickly. The child\’s father said, \”You don\’t have to let him go. You can eat as much as you want, and you will have whatever your brother has.\” The daughter looked at her grandma and then her father, as if she didn\’t understand. I know that such conversations may happen again in the future, but no matter how difficult it is, we should try our best to let our daughter feel that our love for her will not change because of the birth of our brother. I am a daughter myself and have a younger brother. My parents prefer my younger brother more. I know that favoring your younger brother is not a good thing for either your sister or your younger brother. What I can do is love my sister more, because my brother has more people to love him. What would you do if you also had a daughter?