Don’t be a lazy parent who seems to be diligent

I woke up early in the morning and was anxious to write a copy. The partner was urging me to do it, so I had to sit in front of the computer and work all the time. My husband went to the kitchen to get busy and started cooking. My son played with his mobile phone for a while and watched TV. After eating, I started to get busy again. Let your son clear the table and wash the dishes. When I came out to get something, I saw my husband washing dishes in the kitchen, and my son still sitting in front of the TV watching cartoons. I said to my son, \”Why don\’t you go to work? You\’re always watching TV!\” My son said with an aggrieved look, \”Dad won\’t let me do it because he thinks I\’m in the way.\” The son got up and went to the kitchen. The husband said nothing, ignored his son standing aside, and finished washing the dishes with a sullen face. The son came back angrily, nestled on the sofa again, and continued watching TV. My husband said, \”It only takes two minutes to wash the dishes. It\’s not troublesome enough for the child to do the dishes. He does the housework, and if he doesn\’t help, it will make more trouble.\” Yes, when my son washes the dishes, he will smear the dishwashing liquid everywhere. They are all, especially if they can wash and play at the same time. What others can do in one minute takes him ten minutes, and in the end, he may not be able to wash it clean. And when I am in the kitchen, I always ask my son to help. As long as he\’s willing to wash it, that\’s fine. If it doesn\’t come out clean, I\’ll just wash it again. Sometimes I am the chef and my son is the handyman, and sometimes my son is the chef and I am the handyman. The husband went to the kitchen and occupied the stage, and the son immediately became an idler. My son has learned to cook a long time ago, but my husband still thinks that his cooking is slow, or the taste is not right, and he is worried that he still has to do everything himself. However, when her husband is at home, her son will switch to the lazy young master state. I asked my son to boil water, but my husband said, what should I do if it burns him? Besides, it uses natural gas, so don’t worry. When will he learn to boil a pot of water? You did everything for your child, but the child learned nothing. You did the work, but you were lazy when it came to educating the child. If you deprive your children of the opportunity to learn and exercise, your children will not be grateful to you for your hard work. Let your children participate in housework, and they will feel the value of their existence at home, and they will also have a sense of reality in life, which is better than living in the virtual world of computers and mobile phones. I often ask my children to do housework, help me with cooking, washing clothes, tidying up the room, cleaning, and mopping the floor. Over time, he also understood that he was a member of the family, and he should do these tasks. There was no need for his parents to do it for him. The most fearful thing when dealing with children is \”fear of trouble, lack of patience, and uneasiness\”. Not giving children the opportunity to work, or depriving them of the right to work, makes it difficult for such children to be independent. Once while chatting with a friend, she asked me: Who cooks in your family now, you or your husband? I pointed to my son beside me and said: Most of them are sons during the summer vacation. My son surprised his friends by telling him two of his specialty dishes. He is only ten years old and he can cook? My friend\’s little daughter also looked at her son with admiration. \”What\’s wrong with the age of ten? He wasn\’t allowed to learn to cook at the age of ten, and when he turned eighteen, he still couldn\’t do it!\” \”That\’s true. Neither of the two children in our family has ever done any housework.\” A friend has two They have two daughters, the eldest daughter is 16 years old and the younger daughter is 10 years old. The two daughters are versatile, singing, dancing, piano, violin, calligraphy… There is no doubt that they areFrom the perspective of modern people, children are excellent and up-to-date, and parents are also proud of themselves. The principle my friend believes in is: the poor will raise boys, the rich will raise girls. I don’t want to raise my daughter to be a housewife in the future, I want to raise her to be a princess. Therefore, I rarely wash clothes, and I don’t even know how to cook. In the words of a friend: In addition to going to school, or going to training classes, when I get home, I want to let my children take a break, and I can\’t bear to let my children do housework anymore. If she has something to do, she will give her child some pocket money and let her go out to eat. Neither of her children knew how to cook, and she never thought about letting them learn to cook. She is a full-time housewife, and her job is to take care of her husband and two daughters. \”If my daughter does housework again, what will I do? Where is my value reflected?\” Is the value of a housewife only reflected in doing housework? Taking care of your children does not mean doing all the housework. When the children\’s clothes are dirty, she washes them. She cleans and organizes the children\’s rooms. She is a hard-working and diligent mother. Her diligence creates dependence and laziness in her children. Many parents believe that their children’s task is to study hard, get good grades, and everything will be good. In fact, training children\’s life skills is no less important than their academic performance. As parents, we place too much emphasis on academic performance and neglect our children\’s ability to live. Whether children are independent, responsible, and responsible also depends on whether their parents give them opportunities to exercise. Chatting with the mother of a son’s classmate, she said that starting from this spring, her mother returned to her hometown due to poor health, and the task of picking up and dropping off her second child was left to Dabao. She works in a company and comes home after work every day at around seven o\’clock. My husband also travels frequently for business. Neither of them could pick up Erbao in the afternoon. Dabao is in the third grade of elementary school and gets out of school after four o\’clock, and Erbao\’s kindergarten gets out of school after five o\’clock. Fortunately, the primary school and kindergarten are both in the community, close to home. Dabao came home from school and did his homework for a while. Then at 5 o\’clock, he went to pick up Erbao and take him home. After returning home, the two children played for a while, and then Dabao started cooking. She felt completely at ease leaving her second baby in the care of Dabao. Sometimes when she comes home, the meal is ready. Dabao learned how to cook and do housework two or three years ago. Children who can take good care of their younger siblings can of course also take good care of themselves. Living ability is also the criterion for testing a child. He can reassure his parents and let them go. Originally, a primary school student could take good care of himself and his younger brother, but many middle school students, high school students, and even college students packaged dirty clothes and couriered them to their mothers, and even some were dismissed from school due to lack of living ability. All this is because he has a seemingly diligent and lazy parent. How many parents, as well as grandparents, raise girls as princesses and sons as princes. The whole family revolves around their children, taking care of everything and doing everything for them. The saddest education is to raise children from ordinary families into the second generation of rich people! Nowadays, \”mama\’s boys\” appear in endlessly, which has a lot to do with the fact that their parents did everything for them when they were young. Even after they reach adulthood, their minds cannot be weaned and they will never grow up. Your diligence leads to your child\’s lazinessLazy. Physical laziness will inevitably lead to psychological dependence. And you have also deprived your children of the opportunity to grow up healthily. You are lazy when it comes to educating your children.