The simplest family tradition is the company of parents

After watching Hunan Satellite TV\’s family-oriented program \”Children Travel Thousands of Miles\”, I became a fan of the parents of He Jiang, a postdoctoral fellow at MIT. He Jiang\’s home is in a remote village in Hunan. Villagers usually choose to go out to work, so that after working for a few years they can return home and build a new house. He Jiang\’s parents did not do this. They had two sons. In order for their children to have a good learning environment, the He family\’s parents chose to stay at home and work on the farm to accompany their children to learn and grow together. He\’s father has not graduated from high school, and He\’s mother has not graduated from elementary school. Such a pair of parents have a surprisingly tacit understanding in raising children. No matter how tiring the farm work was, Father He always insisted on telling stories to his two sons before going to bed, and warned his sons from time to time that only by reading can they go out. Although the mother is not very literate, she can cultivate good study habits in her children. Sometimes a family of four would sit around the table, each holding a book and reading. This not only cultivates the children\’s habit of reading, but also supervises each other to see who can persist in sitting until the end. Parents are role models for their children to learn from. The parents of the He family teach their children with words and deeds. They do not play cards or go out to work to make money, but read with them at home. They are willing to stay in poverty just for companionship. In the years when children are growing up, parents will promptly praise them for their achievements and correct them if they find mistakes. The children studied hard in the company of their parents, and at the same time witnessed the difficulty of their parents\’ field work. The hard-working and simple life style of parents has accompanied their children as they grow up. Parents hold up a world for their children, and children grow up freely in the world. Their two sons are both outstanding, especially the eldest son He Jiang. After graduating from the University of Science and Technology of China, he went abroad for further study. His speech at the graduation ceremony of Harvard University attracted world attention. The company of his parents is exchanged for the filial piety of his sons. Although He Jiang is abroad, he insists on talking to his parents on the phone, WeChat, video, etc. every day. The best family tradition parents give their children is daily companionship, and what children give back to their parents is daily contact. Good family tradition cultivates excellent children, and excellent children also know how to repay their parents and society. Tolstoy once said that all education, or nine hundred and ninety-nine percent of education, comes down to role models and the correctness and perfection of parents themselves. The parents of the He family have done this, corrected and improved themselves, and accompanied their children to grow up healthily. The simplest family tradition is that parents accompany their children to grow up. As parents, you can have no money, no social status, no high education, etc., but you can\’t live without love, and the best way to give love to your children is to accompany them. Because parents accompany their children attentively, they can discover and correct their children\’s mistakes anytime and anywhere, and give them the clearest direction for growth; because of their parents\’ company, children\’s hearts are filled with love and they become strong and wealthy. Companionship does not cost a penny, it only requires patience and care, but it can affect a child\’s life. For children, the company of their parents is priceless. Some time ago, a friend\’s father was ill and hospitalized, and several of our friends also went to visit. In front of his father\’s hospital bed, my friend seemed very dull, not very sad or anxious about his father\’s illness, and even a little careless. My friend said that my parents had left me with my grandparents since I was a child. I only came back for a few days during the Spring Festival every year.His parents worked hard outside for the sake of this family, but the lack of family affection prevented him from having any feelings for his parents. When his parents came home, they were busy entertaining relatives and friends and ignored his existence. During the years when he grew up independently, he developed a withdrawn and low self-esteem character, which was relieved after working. However, there is still an unspeakable barrier to the absence of his parents when he was growing up. Coincidentally, a reader left a message in the background. She said that the thing she regrets most in her life is not being able to stay with her children. She has a daughter who lived in school when she was in elementary school. She and her husband are also very good to their children. In order to support their daughter, the couple went out to work hard to earn money. They use their hard-earned money to support their daughters, thinking that this is the best way to raise their daughters. Little did they know that when they were not around, their daughter became vain and compared, competing for food and clothing but never studying. When they discovered something was wrong and wanted to correct their daughter\’s thoughts, her daughter had already blended into society and would no longer listen to them. She said that now she stays at home every day waiting for her daughter to return, but she doesn\’t know where her daughter has gone and she often loses contact with her family. The parents went home, but the daughter left home. Parents miss every bit of their children\’s growth. They cannot share their children\’s joys and sorrows, and they cannot let their children see their own joys and sorrows. As time goes by, some shortcomings can be made up, but the shortcomings of missing children\’s growth cannot be made up for, because time never goes back. The inability to accompany children also highlights some more practical problems. For some families, companionship may not be a big deal. For those with stable income or wealthy families, companionship is normal. But for families who need to work outside to make ends meet, companionship becomes an extremely luxury. However, there are many ways to accompany the child, and they can also be modified. It is also feasible if the parents leave one person to accompany the child. It is better than having both parents not around, causing irreparable psychological defects to the child. The British writer Dickens said that children who grow up under careful and kind upbringing can be poor but not depressed, and can be detached from pain. Therefore, material things are one aspect that parents can give to their children, but they cannot represent family love. Companionship is the most abundant gift, because love is priceless. Good parental companionship will make children feel the love and care from their parents. Even if the parents are not excellent, companionship is the most important spiritual support for their children. The company of parents will also subtly create a good living and learning atmosphere, which is conducive to the growth of children. In the process of accompanying their children to grow up, parents can also reflect on their own behavior from time to time and constantly adjust and adapt to their children, thus forming a unique tutoring atmosphere. According to relevant survey results, there is a clear difference between children who grow up with and without companionship. Children who grow up without their parents have introverted personalities, low self-esteem disorders, blind resistance and rebellious psychology, and even resentment of their parents, low grades, etc. What is more serious is that they cannot adapt to society well. Children who are accompanied by their parents have a rich and strong heart, are keen to participate in various activities, and have a lively and healthy mentality. Even if they are not successful, they still have good psychological quality to adapt to society. Maybe parents are very busy, busyWork, life, entertainment, even travel, etc., but please don’t forget that you must take enough time to accompany your children. If you miss the companionship, you may miss your children’s life. The simplest family tradition is the company of parents. With the company of their parents, children can move forward without hesitation on the road of growth.