This society has such low requirements for men and so high requirements for women

How can one gain a foothold in society without the ability to support his family? If you don\’t care about your family, why get married? In fact, this is not a requirement only for men. It\’s just that among men\’s complaints that they can\’t accommodate these two requirements, women have already had these two abilities. One lunch time, I discussed with my colleagues \”What kind of man is a good man.\” I said that I don\’t need to be like Huang Lei, who has a career, a family, loves his children and dotes on his wife. At least I can make money and take care of my family without cheating or domestic violence. A colleague looked at me in surprise, are your demands too high? Can you make money and still take care of your family? It would be good if two of them can occupy one. I looked at her with the same surprise. Nowadays, many women can make money, take care of the family, have children, take care of them, and work well in the hall and in the kitchen. Is it too much to ask only that a man can make money and take care of his family? Moreover, they are not required to earn millions a year. They are only required to be able to make money and care about their families just like their wives. This is already the minimum requirement for men in marriage. How can one gain a foothold in society without the ability to support his family? If you don\’t care about your family, why get married? Not to mention caring about his wife, spending time with his children, being loyal to his partner, and working hard to make progress. As a result, colleagues said in unison, high! Then for example, my husband is only responsible for making money and does not care about anything else. It’s not that I don’t want to ask, it’s just that I don’t have time. Work takes up almost all their time except eating and sleeping. What kind of work is worth sacrificing family and family ties to work hard for? Please forgive me for my low emotional intelligence and my inability to understand. Because of my interest, I will take some psychology courses after work, about personal growth, marriage relationships, and children\’s education. I often hear voices like this, \”There is something wrong with my child. I want to understand the characteristics of this age and get along better with him.\” \”There is something wrong with our marriage. I am eager to manage myself better through personal growth.\” marriage.\” \”I hope to grow into a better version of myself through learning.\” Unfortunately, 90% of these voices come from women: wives or mothers. I can\’t help but ask, where is dad? Does it mean that if something goes wrong with a child or there is a problem with a marriage, don’t men need to take responsibility? Don’t men need personal growth? During a course on positive discipline, the only father said that our son did not study well. The teacher said that he was often naughty and did not follow discipline. I want to educate him without hurting him by learning positive discipline. I have been beaten since I was a child, and I don’t want my son to enjoy such treatment again. At that moment, everyone applauded him, and I was even moved to tears. How valuable it is to be willing to learn a skill for your children! However, every mother who came to study was taken for granted, while the father who came to study was given warm applause. Isn\’t this worth pondering? As far as I know, the mothers who come to study also have their own jobs, so they choose to attend classes on weekends or in the evening. So, here’s the question: Where does dad go on weekends or evenings? Is it possible that his wife came to attend the class while he took care of the children at home? We often hear such accusations: \”How did you become a mother? You can\’t even take care of a child.\” \”Look at you.What are the children like? \”Why don\’t you clean up your house?\” \”Why are you so busy working that you don\’t even care about your children?\” \”Such accusations come not only from society and neighbors, but also from family members, such as mother-in-law, husband, and even their own mother. However, few people would blame a man: \”How did you become a father? I can’t take care of my children well. \”Look at how messy your house is, and you don\’t even clean it up.\” \”You are busy at work every day. Have you fulfilled your duties as a husband and father?\” \”You think it\’s great if you make some money?\” Besides money, what else have you done for your family? \”If there is such an accusation, it only comes from an aggrieved wife. Long Yingtai once roared to her husband: \”Why is it that when a man is busy with his career, no one thinks of asking him, how do you take care of your family? Why do people think that when a woman is busy with her career, she has abandoned her family? What kind of idiotic double standard is this? Why is it that if you are busy with work, it is a sign of success, and if I am busy with work, it is a sign of being too ambitious and abandoning motherhood? \”Why is it that a man only needs to be able to make money, while a woman not only needs to be able to make money, but also be able to take care of the family, be gentle, elegant, and as beautiful as a flower? How can a man who can only make money be worthy of someone who can make money, take care of the family, be smart and good-looking?\” Women? In an interview, Bill Gates was once asked whether the smartest decision in his life was to create Microsoft or to engage in philanthropy? His answer was neither, but to find the right person and get married! He himself also admitted that the biggest decision in his life was He was lucky enough to marry his wife Melinda and spend the rest of his life together. The reason why he was able to marry Melinda, who was extremely talented and capable, was because he had a strong sense of social and family responsibility. He created the Microsoft empire, which no one has ever seen so far. Able to transcend. At the same time, he also has his own unique insights into children\’s education. Bill Gates believes that the key to making children become excellent people is to cultivate the child\’s character rather than cultivating her knowledge. The most important thing about cultivating character is , is to cultivate children\’s independence and survival ability. On the first day of school, Bill Gates personally took the children to school. After sending the children into the classroom, he said to the children: \”Today, you have learned the way of school. Well, starting from tomorrow, dad and mom will no longer pick you up or drop you off. Firstly, there is no time, and secondly, there is no need. \”Of course, as a role model, he is an idol for children. But in real life, how many fathers who never take care of their children and have accomplished nothing instinctively react after discovering that there is a \”problem\” with their children? Accusing his wife of “not educating the children well. \”Never reflect on his dereliction of duty. French educator Rousseau said that when a father gives birth to a child, he has only completed one-third of the task, and the other two-thirds are his contribution to human beings. He has the obligation to give birth to people, the obligation to the society to cultivate gregarious people, and the obligation to the country to cultivate citizens. If he neglects these such sacred responsibilities, I may predict to him that he will shed sad tears because of his mistake. And you can never get comfort from crying. It is said that maternal love is great, and motherhood is strong. Once a mother becomes a mother, a woman is automatically defined as a \”baby mother\”, and her name is almost removed by society.Will be forgotten. And what about the father? It\’s time to work, it\’s time to have fun, it\’s time to socialize, it\’s time to be yourself. How come society has forgotten that he has also been upgraded to \”baby daddy\”? As long as he can make money, society will define a man as a \”successful person\”, and as long as he can take care of his family, society will define a man as a \”good man\”. If a woman is career-oriented and can make money, she will be defined as a \”strong woman.\” If a woman has a strong sense of family and can take care of the family, she will be defined as a \”woman\’s duty.\” Long Yingtai said, this idiot has double standards! Mi Meng said, this fucked up society! Society may not make demands on a man, but women must make demands on men, and men must make demands on themselves. Because your home is yours, your wife is yours, and your children are yours. If you don\’t cherish it, all of this may change hands. As Rousseau said, if you neglect your sacred duties, you will shed sad tears because of your mistakes, and you will never be able to get comfort from crying.