The educational animation on sexual assault prevention in American schools turns out to be so practical, it must be shown to children

There is a shocking saying in the past two years that has always been in my mind – if you think it is too early to teach your children sex education, bad people will not think your children are too young. I know the principle, but how to do it specifically? As a mother of three daughters, I have been groping while flipping through books. Because we are all a generation that lacks sex education, and we are constantly making up for this lesson ourselves, let alone teaching our children. Until recently, I accidentally saw a cartoon that was produced by an American educational institution called How To Tell Your Child three years ago to accompany a set of children\’s sexual assault prevention teaching materials. The entire cartoon only lasts for more than 7 minutes, but the content is very practical and down-to-earth. It is a teaching material used by many kindergartens, communities and families in the United States to educate children to protect themselves and prevent sexual assault. Thanks to the Internet, Chinese parents and children can also catch up on this lesson. I hope that every parent who is lucky enough to encounter this video will take a careful look. But before watching, Xiaoli would like to kindly remind you that because sex education needs to constantly change and deepen the content according to the child\’s psychological development and cognitive level, this anti-sexual assault cartoon seems more suitable for educating 4-year-olds. -Child of 8 years old. Of course, this range is just a reference standard, and we still have to judge based on the actual situation of the child. (Please watch under wifi) At the beginning of the video, the teacher broke the children\’s innocent illusions about bad guys. Children all think that bad people have big teeth, blood-red eyes, huge hands and evil smiles… The teacher told the children that bad people may not look bad, or they may be good-looking, with a kind smile and a cool personality. People, they might even be hiding delicious candy. There is no way to identify bad guys at a glance, so children must learn to protect their bodies. The first step to protect the body is privacy education, so that children know how to identify private parts. The teacher in the video said frankly that a boy’s genitals and butt are private parts, and a girl’s breasts, genitals and butt are private parts. This is based on the fact that children already have a certain understanding of their own bodies and those of the opposite sex, and can even name the body parts so that they can identify them one by one. This is also the premise of privacy education. If a child doesn\’t know his own body parts yet, it goes against the child\’s cognitive level to just tell the child in general terms that the area covered by the swimsuit cannot be touched. Such children may not be able to accurately identify what their private parts are, nor are they capable of protecting their bodies. Therefore, children under the age of 4 need to fully understand their own body and satisfy their curiosity about the bodies of people around them. After he understands the similarities and differences between his own and other people\’s bodies, it won\’t be too late to watch this cartoon and receive privacy education. I believe those who have watched the video will find that the key part of the video lies in the \”5 alarms\”. These 5 alarms highly cover all the dangerous scenarios we mentioned before, which not only make them memorable for children, but also easy to grasp. Anyone who wants to look at your private parts, or lets you look at their private parts, is called a \”visual alarm\”; if someone talks about your private parts, it is called a \”verbal alarm\”; if someone touches your private partsPrivate parts, or asking you to touch his private parts, is called \”touch alarm\”; don\’t accept delicious food from strangers, especially when your parents are not around, being alone with strangers is called \”solitude\” \”Alert\”; if someone hugs, carries, or kisses you, it\’s called \”Hug Alert.\” But there are also 3 special situations among the 5 alarms, and this is where the video is unique. ①The teacher told the child that no one is allowed to see, talk about or touch private parts, only parents can. However, parents can, but only when they have to help you bathe, or when your private parts are injured. This setting avoids the parenting behavior of parents that destroys their children\’s sense of physical boundaries, and also prevents hidden sexual assaults in the family as much as possible. I couldn\’t help but think of what happened at Nanjing South Railway Station in August, which shocked the whole country. An adopted girl had her breast touched by her brother in public. Neither her adoptive parents nor the girl herself responded. It\’s heartbreaking to think about it. ②The teacher recommends that parents write a list of caregivers for their children who can see, talk about or touch their children\’s private parts. For example, nannies or the elderly, but this is only limited to two scenarios where help with bathing or private parts are injured. When I saw the \”writing list\” method, I couldn\’t help but applaud it. Because once this list is written, it also means that the parents attach great importance to and have a clear attitude towards this matter. Most of our children usually have more than just parents as caregivers. Children also know when to say \”no\” when other relatives violate their sense of physical boundaries. ③Children can also make a \”love circle\” list with their parents. The \”love circle\” includes people who can hug and love them, all of whom the child absolutely trusts and likes. When we educate our children not to allow others to kiss or hug them, we actually indifferently exclude the relatives and friends that our children like. In this era, we as parents have become frightened, and it is even harder to protect our children\’s sense of security. Making a list of \”circles of love\” with your children also allows your children to be surrounded by love safely and securely. The last part of the cartoon is to test the children\’s ability to identify the occurrence of an alarm. In fact, it is also to observe the children\’s understanding and acceptance of the lesson. Even I couldn\’t help but answer the question again. 1. Is it okay for the doctor to examine your private parts with your mother accompanying you? 2. Is it okay if a man touches a girl’s breasts? 3. Is it okay if a caregiver helps a boy get dressed? 4. Is it okay if a guy takes off his clothes in front of a girl? 5. Is it okay if a woman tells a girl about beautiful breasts? 6. Is it okay if a woman takes a girl who is playing with her friends to a lonely street? 7. If a teacher calls a group of children into the classroom, is it okay? 8. Is it okay if a woman shows a picture of a naked woman to a little boy? 9. Is it okay for a strange man to hug and kiss a child? 10.Can the uncle hug his niece? Only after we have set all the danger and safety conditions can we clearly judge the yes or no of the scene. This happens to be what we usually lack in safety education for our children.\”Clarity\”. I have to say that this cartoon produced by an American educational institution is professional, scientific and cleverly designed. When children ask, why do people do these bad things? The teacher\’s answer is full of humanistic care and wisdom – because some people are sick and fragile, they like to hurt others, and they are really afraid. If you don\’t like the way someone touches you, you have to say \”no\” and don\’t be afraid. If you encounter something bad like this, it\’s never too late to say \”no\”. Telling your parents or someone you know well can also keep other children away from the bad person. What the teacher said did not maliciously exaggerate or belittle the bad guys. It carefully protected the innocence and kindness of the children, gave them strong courage, and even cleverly inspired the children\’s natural sense of justice. This sexual assault safety education video was published in the United States in 2014. In 2014, acquaintance crimes accounted for 87.87% of publicly reported child sexual abuse cases in China. Behind the cold data are families struggling with hardships and children struggling with hardships in their future lives. If they had carefully studied this safety education video that year and practiced it diligently, maybe some tragedies would not have happened.