It turns out that all I need to do is be an \”ignorant\” mother and wife…

A good mother and a good wife are always described as: gentle, virtuous, considerate, always silently dedicated to their children and husband without any complaints; strong, kind, and independent, just like a woman after becoming a mother It’s omnipotent…Does this kind of woman have to be a good mother and a good wife? No, quite the opposite! A good mother restrains her edge in front of her children. In the same way, a happy family will not have a strong wife. So, how do you be a good mother and wife? Don’t take the emotions at work home. For a period of time, before entering the house after work, I would take out the mirror and smile, reminding myself: Forget all the unpleasant things in the work, now I start to assume the role of mother and wife. . Try not to transfer bad emotions that have nothing to do with your family onto your children or husband. Don’t be stingy with your praise and affirmation. When a child happily tells me that he or she got a five-pointed star or a little red flower at school today, don’t show boredom or disdain. Be sure to praise as happily as the child. He, and I will ask the child, \”Can you show mom your medal?\” Share this happiness with your child, because this honor is very important to the child. In the same way, if your husband happily tells you that he accomplished something big at the company today, don\’t be stingy with your praise. Sometimes you will find that they, like children, become more motivated because of your praise. Don’t show off your intelligence in front of your children and family. When a child comes to ask me, “How do you pronounce this word?” You know, let’s look it up in the dictionary together, okay?” After a few times, children will know to find solutions on their own instead of habitually relying on their parents. Don’t get angry casually, learn to take a deep breath, and learn to be calm. When my child tells me that I haven’t finished my homework today, I must control my emotions. I must not get angry or look gloomy. My child is nervously observing my face at this time. So it’s best for me to show no emotional changes, let the child take out the unfinished kindergarten homework, analyze the reasons why it was not completed, and guide the child to complete it. After completion, I should also encourage the child and tell the child to work slower. relation. If your husband raised his voice at you because of a bad day at work, try turning your complaints into encouragement. If you feel that you can\’t control your emotions, take a few deep breaths and don\’t say hurtful words when each other is out of control. Occasionally make a fool of yourself and admit that you are timid. Don\’t be full of thorns. When a child shows timidity before important activities or doing something more important, try not to reprimand the child for being timid or acting more nervous than the child. This will aggravate the situation. The child\’s psychological pressure causes the child to be unable to perform normally. It is best to say to your children easily, no matter how well you do, your parents were not as good as you when they were your age, so don’t worry. At the same time, you need to tell the child\’s father to cooperate with you in encouraging the child. At this time, the child will feel confident and confident, and he will perform better than usual. Don\’t justSay \”Be strong\”. Don\’t just say \”It\’s nothing.\” You have to do something. When your child suffers failure or setbacks, be strong and never give up. Calmly tell your child that failure only means a temporary failure and does not mean that the child will be a lifelong failure. Don\’t act like you have no hope before your child even thinks he\’s giving up. The worst thing is to use harsh words and sarcasm, criticize the child as useless, and even settle old and new accounts together. Children educated in this way will have extremely low self-esteem, lack of judgment, and even give up on themselves. Collapse \”You should\” Collapse \”You must\” and change it to \”I am willing\”. Don\’t self-righteously express your opinions before the child has clearly expressed what he wants to say. Regardless of whether the child is willing or not, just \”You must\” …\” and \”You should…\” command the child to represent the child\’s point of view with his own point of view, and require the child to implement it. Never become synonymous with \”authoritarianism\”. Children who grow up in this situation lack independent opinions and the ability to judge right from wrong. At the same time, parents should establish an equal relationship (equality is not unprincipled), know how to respect each other, and set a good example for their children. Don\’t give your worst temper to the person you love the most. Control the way you speak in front of your husband and children. If you often point to your child\’s weaknesses when speaking, sarcastically, criticize, or threaten, or deliberately ask your child to do something you know you can\’t do, you are undoubtedly using the sharpest weapon to stab your child\’s pain. The child will be very hurt because the hurt comes from the person closest to him. If you often speak the same way to your husband, your children will notice it and he will become weak and lack judgment when he grows up. Instead of nagging endlessly, it is better to be silent and listen and control the amount of language in front of the child. Never nag. Rather than nagging your child endlessly, it is better to tell your child in brief language what mistakes he made or what he should pay attention to. And sometimes, silence is more useful than continuing to talk. When you and your husband have a conflict before, remember: the first person to shut up wins. After reading so much, have you discovered that being a good mother is not difficult, but it is also very difficult; being a good wife is not difficult, but it is also not difficult. Because whether you are a child or an adult, the most difficult thing is to let go of yourself and understand others.