After discovering her son masturbating, this mother’s behavior went viral on social media

There was a mother who found her son in middle school hiding in the toilet and masturbating. She was very torn. She was worried that her son would go too far and hurt his body, but she also didn\’t know how to tell her son. So she went to buy two CDs of sexual knowledge over the weekend, deliberately opened them and placed them in a conspicuous place in the living room. She told her son, \”Mom has gone out for something and won\’t come back until tonight.\” When I came back in the evening, I found that my son had actually read the CD. A few days later, she found her son\’s diary in the living room where the CDs were placed. She opened it and discovered some of his sexual confusion. In response to these problems, she went to find relevant books or CD-ROM materials and kept them where they were. The mother and son had a tacit understanding, thus forming a tacit understanding of benign interaction. Unfortunately, most Chinese children are not so lucky to have such an open-minded, attentive and considerate mother. Our parents choose to ignore the development and maturity of their children and do not know how to provide appropriate sex education to their children. Treat sex as a scourge and insist on killing \”dirty things\” in the cradle of children\’s minds. When I find my child masturbating, I feel more panicked than seeing a ghost, and thoughts such as \”shameless and immoral\” pop up immediately. It ranges from deceiving and intimidating: \”A good child would not do such a thing\” \”This is a very shameful thing\”… to severe beating and scolding: \”Where did you learn such shameless things!\” \”Don\’t let me interrupt you.\” \”Hand\”… This is the misfortune of Chinese children. During the Warring States Period, a sage named Gaozi said: \”Food, sex, and sex.\” The \”Book of Rites\” also said: \”Eating and drinking, men and women, are where the great desires of people exist.\” The general meaning is that appetite and sex are Sexual desire, these are the two most basic human needs. Food is about survival; sex is about reproduction. Indispensable. I was so hungry in the middle of the night, the restaurant and supermarket downstairs were closed, and I didn’t want to order takeout and wait too long. Then, you can definitely take matters into your own hands and cook a bowl of noodles for yourself. You can eat this bowl of noodles to your heart\’s content, and you can eat it to the point of being filled with excitement. A single man, sitting alone at night, suddenly turned red, felt passionate, and almost wanted to spontaneously combust. Then, he (or she) can also follow the teachings of the great leader Chairman Mao: \”Do it yourself and have enough food and clothing.\” This behavior is known as masturbation in science and commonly known as masturbation. There was a study in the \”Chinese Journal of Andrology\” in 2010. The study surveyed 7,077 people (5,360 men, 1,717 women). It was found that 96.38% of people had masturbated, of which 12.37% had masturbated once a day, and 4.87% had masturbated more than once a day. It can be seen that many people are doing this, and they do it more often than imagined. However, just because many people are doing it, doesn’t mean everyone tolerates it. In particular, some old-fashioned people regard sex as a scourge, and even regard masturbation as a depraved and obscene thing. A female netizen recounted her own experience. When she was a freshman in college, she had a winter vacation and stayed at home with nothing to do, so she turned on her phone and played pornographic movies. As I watched and felt it, I couldn\’t help but masturbate. As a result, at the critical moment, her mother suddenly burst into the door, and her face turned pale with fear. Her mother is a single mother who is usually serious and unsmiling. Her mother lost her temper when she saw her daughter masturbating and scolded her as \”stinky\”\”Shameless\”, \”being a bitch at such a young age\” and \”lewd and obscene\”. She didn\’t care about the situation and forcibly confiscated her mobile phone. After her mother had calmed down a bit, she even educated her carefully and said: \”You are addicted to addiction at such a young age.\” These yellow things are as serious as taking drugs! If you indulge in this, your life will be ruined! \”It made her dumbfounded. She really didn\’t know how to break up with this feudal old-fashioned mother. Another netizen, A Kai, was even worse. Once, A Kai thought his parents were out, so he took off his pants and masturbated. The result was the same. The old man came back after being killed and was caught. His father was furious and yelled at him for more than half an hour. He was so frightened that he felt that he had sinned deeply. He has been left with a psychological shadow since then and also suffered from the root cause of impotence. Later, he had several girlfriends, but they all left him because of this disease. He sought medical advice everywhere, and after a period of treatment, he barely recovered. One was scolded by his mother, and the other was frightened by his father. Impotence. This is evident from the aversion attitude of many old-fashioned people towards masturbation. They regard normal masturbation activities as an unforgivable sin, which is obviously due to conservative and traditional sexual taboo concepts in their minds. If we talk about the older generation It is understandable that people have a lot of misunderstandings about masturbation because they have lacked correct sex education since childhood. But now some young people are afraid of masturbation because they have received wrong sex knowledge, which has caused many psychological problems. A huge burden. There is a famous post bar on the Internet called \”Quiting Bar\”. This post bar is a gathering place for many people who call for rebooting. They often use some superstitious concepts to scare young people and talk about masturbation harming blessings and so on. That\’s it. Many people believed the one-sided information spread in the forum and had a psychological panic about masturbation. A young netizen posted in the forum, regretting that he masturbated too much and lacked self-control. Anyway, his academic performance was poor and he failed to pass the key exam. In college, this is the fault of masturbation; he is introverted and timid, and does not have the confidence to express his love to the girl he likes, which is the fault of masturbation; he was very cute when he was young, but the older he gets, the uglier he becomes, which is also the fault of masturbation; poor physical fitness, often If you have a fever or cold, it is definitely wrong to masturbate;… In short, in his opinion, masturbation is the root of all evil. It seems that all the troubles in his life are caused by masturbation. This is simply Absolutely ridiculous. I know a friend, Xiao Feng, who started masturbating in the third grade of junior high school without a teacher, and has been out of control since then. He has a history of masturbating for nearly 20 years, masturbating once every three days, and masturbating once every five days. Despite such frequent masturbation activities, she is still strong and strong. She is 1.8 meters tall and covered in tendons. She was admitted to a prestigious school and found a job with a lot of money after graduation. The most important thing is that she is charming and surrounded by women. There are a lot of female admirers. If you are ugly, it is the fault of your parents\’ genes; if you have poor academic performance, it is the fault of your own IQ; if you have poor physical fitness, it is the result of being too lazy and not exercising. I really can\’t blame any of them. Masturbation. In fact, things like \”one drop of semen and ten drops of blood\”, \”masturbation can cause premature ejaculation and affect sexual function\” and \”masturbation can cause gray hair and hair loss in teenagers\” are all very well said, but unfortunately they are not scientific. According to. On the contrary, according to a study in the British \”Lancet\” medical journal, correct masturbation canTo help reduce sensitivity, it helps improve sexual performance. Even one treatment for premature ejaculation is masturbation. \”Use it or lose it\” is an ironclad truth. A doctor who responded on Zhihu even found the literature and came up with an even more surprising conclusion: \”The frequency of male masturbation in youth is negatively correlated with the frequency of prostate cancer in old age\” and \”The frequency of male masturbation in young age is negatively correlated with the frequency of prostate cancer in old age. \”There is a negative correlation with the frequency of prostatic hypertrophy\”… As for women, most of them will not be able to experience vaginal orgasm in their lives. Masturbation is more convenient for them to obtain sexual pleasure. As long as they pay attention to hygiene, it will not cause any gynecological inflammation. On the contrary, it may be better than not having sex. It is much safer and more hygienic for a clean man to have sex. If there are any dangers to masturbation, it is usually just a psychological problem caused by guilt and shame. The avoidable feelings of guilt and shame often cause masturbators to carry heavy psychological baggage. I once saw such a story. It is said that a female factory worker in the 1980s masturbated with a cucumber in the bed of her work dormitory in the middle of the night. When I was about to climax, I was so excited that I couldn\’t control myself. As a result, a small section of the cucumber broke off inside. She couldn\’t dig it out with her hands and felt very uncomfortable. After struggling for a long time, she had to go to the hospital for treatment. When my colleagues in the same dormitory found out about this, it spread widely and everyone in the factory knew about it. People in the factory will inevitably gossip behind their backs and add fuel to the fire, and the stories will become more outrageous and obscene. In the end, everyone thought she was \”slutty\” and she would be stabbed in the spine and cursed secretly when she walked on the street. Later, the strong sense of shame caused her to have a complete psychological breakdown. She had no choice but to hang herself in the dormitory to escape the ridicule and malice of the world. This is a great tragedy. In Maslow\’s Hierarchy of Needs, sexual needs are at the lowest level of the hierarchy of needs and are the most normal and basic needs of a person. However, since ancient times, sexual desire has been stigmatized and given a moral taboo. Sexual activities that have nothing to do with reproduction and are purely for the purpose of sensual satisfaction are even more unacceptable to moralists. In the West, especially the most conservative Victorian era, masturbation was even considered the most obscene of all behaviors. In order to prevent masturbation from causing many imaginary \”diseases\”, doctors at the time even invented anti-masturbation chastity devices that had to be worn even when sleeping. In China, influenced by traditional concepts, masturbation is considered to be \”a great loss of vitality\” and is also a bad behavior that needs to be prevented. Fortunately, in today\’s world, with the development of science and technology and the advancement of concepts, people have a more comprehensive and tolerant understanding of masturbation. The American Psychiatric Manual has long made it clear that masturbation is a standard sexual behavior. There is nothing shameful about masturbating. It\’s normal. On the contrary, Dearbor points out: \”If I asked a boy 14 times and he insisted that he never masturbated, I would tell him to see a doctor and there must be something wrong with him.\” Although masturbation is so common and common, as long as it is treated correctly, It is good for physical and mental health. But there are still several issues worth noting: ·Be aware of a case seen on the health website. A man masturbated with unclean hands and masturbated so roughly that he injured his foreskin, which resulted inCauses severe balanitis. In fact, no matter whether you use hard-working hands or use various sex toys, you must wash them before use. Otherwise it will cause inflammation and the like, which is not fun. ·Protect your privacy. I once read a foreign news story about a girl who forgot to turn off the camera and started masturbating, but was recorded and posted to a porn website. Later, her boyfriend discovered it online and thought she was doing something. The strange side job caused such a big fuss that we almost broke up. This is of course the result of not paying attention to protecting privacy. If you don’t want to be caught by someone, or be photographed by a camera you forgot to turn off, and then posted online, it’s best to protect your privacy and try not to be discovered. ·Be moderate. Although this thing is just like eating, you won’t want to eat when you are full. Generally, there is no such thing as excessive masturbation. Moreover, people have different physical constitutions, and everyone\’s standard of moderation is also different; but generally speaking, it should not interfere with your normal life, study and work. However, there are always some people with obsessive tendencies who have nothing to do and masturbate too often, which seriously reduces their sensitivity, which may make it difficult to experience orgasm during normal sexual activities. ·Don’t try dangerous masturbation methods. I once had a friend who studied medicine and went to the emergency room for internship at night, and encountered many strange cases. Most of them masturbated at night to get high, stuffing wires and pencils into the urethra, stuffing eels into the anus, etc. But they couldn\’t take them out, so they had to go to the emergency room at night. What’s even more frightening is that some people think that ordinary masturbation is not exciting enough, and they also play sexual suffocation. They hang their necks on the rope while masturbating. It is said that they can experience greater pleasure in this way, but often they will be killed if they are not careful. He was strangled to death at home and his life was lost in vain. In fact, sex has always been a very meaningful and beautiful thing. Sex is never dirty and evil. What is dirty and evil is the inner soul of some people. The same goes for masturbation. Masturbation is the stand-alone version of sex. Although it lacks interactivity, it is my most honest love and deepest exploration of myself. Cherish and cherish it.