Children are always criticized, can’t sit still in class, and are distracted. What should parents do?

\”Hi, hello, Teacher Zhang.\” \”Okay, I\’ll take him to you when I pick him up later.\” After hanging up the phone, my friend Xiao Z said helplessly that he was going to report to his son\’s class teacher again today. Little Z\’s son has just entered the first grade this year, and the situation keeps happening every day. Little Z himself is called to school by his head teacher every now and then to learn about the situation. When he first started school, Xiao Z took his son home and asked him what his homework was. His son replied that the teacher didn\’t leave any homework. Xiao Z felt strange, but didn\’t think much about it. As a result, the next day he was called to the class teacher because his son didn\’t hand in his homework. That went. This time, the head teacher said that the classroom teacher reported that his son couldn\’t sit still in class and kept moving around. The teacher criticized him and asked him to be quiet for a few minutes. After a while, he started to make small movements again. The most important thing is that if my son can\’t sit still, other children will follow suit. At the end of the class, the teacher only cares about maintaining order and can\’t talk about anything. The teacher always criticizes him but it has no practical effect, so he wants Xiao Z to go to school to understand the child\’s usual performance and see how to solve this problem. Otherwise, the teacher will not be able to continue the class. Xiao Z felt a headache. Just to deal with his son\’s problem, he had to take leave and leave work early every day. How could he do this work if he kept going like this? When their children have just entered elementary school, many parents have reported: Does my child have ADHD? The stool looks like there are nails growing out of it, and he cannot sit still for a moment. He keeps making small movements in class, standing up to tie his shoelaces, and then having to sit down again. He always misses the bathroom in class, or talks to his classmates, and cannot remember anything after the class. He runs around in the classroom and cannot stop in class. He will not sit down by himself unless the teacher orders him to sit back. position; the child is always criticized by the teacher, and the parents are also very distressed. What is going on with this child? Why can\’t he calm down and listen to the class carefully? 1. Role reversal. Children who have just entered first grade, transitioning from toddlers to students, cannot adapt to their role change for a while. It is normal for them to be active and unable to sit still. Before going to school, children\’s activities are mainly free play without restraint. After going to school, it is not easy for most children to suddenly ask them to sit in one place without moving. 2. Differences in adaptability. Each child\’s ability to adapt to the environment will be different, so some children can quickly adapt to the role of primary school students and become obedient and good students. But for other children with poor adaptability, it may take a little longer, and they may need help and guidance from teachers and parents when necessary. 3. The nervous system is not fully developed. The human brain does not fully develop until about the age of 20. The nervous system continues to improve with the development of the brain. The child\’s nervous system has not yet been fully developed, so the younger the child, the shorter the time for controlling his attention. The attention span of children aged 6 and 7 is generally 15-20 minutes, so it is normal for children to be distracted in class. 4. Gender differences. Children in lower grades are at a lively and active age. It is normal for many peers to gather together, chase each other, play and jump. Especially some little boys, who are naturally active, will definitely spend less time quieting down than girls of the same age.Less. If children of this age always sit still, parents should pay attention to their children\’s status. Because children in younger age groups have poor self-control, they need the guidance of teachers and parents to help children improve their self-control. This is normal. If there is a problem, parents should understand where the child\’s problem lies and prescribe the right remedy. For example, regarding the issue of children being active, is the child unable to calm down all the time, or is he particularly active in certain classes, is he unable to sit still because he does not understand, or is he unable to sit still because he knows how to do it? If you do, you will label your child as not paying attention in class. Children are criticized by teachers at school and criticized by their parents at home. This can easily undermine children\’s interest and confidence in going to school. So what should parents do to help their children improve their attention? 1. Have equal dialogue and understand the problem. Children were criticized again for being inattentive in class. When they got home, many parents would give their children a direct lesson: \”Why don\’t you remember? You were criticized last time, and you are disobedient this time.\” The result is only There can be two types: one is to aggravate the child\’s frustration, the child feels that he can\’t control himself, and over time will develop resistance to school and learning; the other is an indifferent attitude, just criticize. , I should still listen or not listen in class. When parents discover a child\’s problem, the first step should be to ask the child why such a problem occurs, whether it is because he cannot understand, or because the teacher talks for too long. If you don’t understand, you can check what part it is. Parents can help your children learn it again. If the teacher talks for too long, you can communicate with the teacher and make an agreement with your children to ensure that they at least learn the knowledge in one class. If the child cannot tell the reason, then parents should help the child establish a sense of rules. When the bell rings when the child comes to school, he must return to his seat and quiet down after the teacher comes in. You must also stay focused in class and tell your children that you are already a student and no longer an ignorant baby. These are what students must do. 2. Provide timely encouragement and allow repetition. Pay attention to observe and understand the child\’s usual performance. If the child did not do any small movements in one class today and finished the class quietly, parents should praise and encourage the child in time, \”You did a great job today. You listened carefully throughout the whole math class.\” The teacher lectures.\” You can also give the child some rewards appropriately, so that the child will work hard to improve self-control and slowly increase the child\’s concentration time. If a child cannot correct his problem at once and fails after persisting for half of it, for example, half of his homework is done at night and he starts playing with rubber again. Parents should patiently remind their children that they should be focused on doing things, study seriously when it is time to study, and play happily when it is time to play, but they should not be too anxious and give their children another chance if they cannot correct it once. But this is under the premise that the child\’s homework time is not particularly long. If the homework time is too long, it is normal for the child to be unable to concentrate. The human brain is active for about 45 minutes, and it must take a break to resume activity. The active time of children in lower grades is shorter, so parentsChildren\’s study time should be arranged reasonably and they can relax appropriately in between. 3. Ensure that children get enough sleep and have reasonable meals. Insufficient sleep is the most likely to cause problems with inattention. Lower grade students should ensure a sleep time of 10-11 hours, and 12-17 year olds should also ensure a sleep time of 9-10 hours. A reasonable sleep time is also important for the healthy growth of children. ensure. Many drinks and candies contain a large number of additives, especially those with bright colors, attractive fragrances and addictive tastes. Parents should try to avoid their children eating too much. Research has found that these additives will affect children\’s attention and self-control. Pure natural food is the most nutritious and healthiest food. Parents should try their best to cook their own meals to supplement their children\’s nutrition. Eating more fish, beans, and spinach will greatly help their children\’s brain development. 4. Play attention-building games or exercise with your children. At home in the evening or on weekends, parents can choose some games that can exercise their children\’s attention and interact with their children. For example, parents can choose to read a story to their children and ask some detailed questions for their children to answer after reading; when the weather is nice, parents can You can take your children to the park or play badminton downstairs, or jump rope, jog, etc., which can exercise your children\’s brain command and control abilities. These activities can not only train children\’s attention, but also enhance parent-child relationships, which are of great benefit to the health of both parents and children.