The child has a weak foundation and a poor foundation. How can parents provide guidance and improve it?

Three months into the semester, how are the new first-year students adapting? After each unit of each subject is learned, a corresponding test will be conducted. How was your child\’s score? I often meet some children who, due to various reasons, do not adapt well after going to school, and their grades are very different from their classmates. Their parents are very anxious, and they have to make up for their children at home every day, and register for classes outside. They are all miserable, but sometimes the results are not good. How to do it? I thought hard and came up with these few methods. Parents may wish to try them. 1. Face the current situation calmly, clarify the children\’s gaps, and the requirements of the class and school. To be honest, it is not easy to face children\’s problems. There is a saying that \”children are their own good\”. Parents all think that their children are geniuses and are particularly outstanding. Even if one or two test scores are found to be unsatisfactory at the beginning of school, one would naively (self-deception) think that the child\’s poor performance is because he has not attended preschool. It is temporary and he will soon catch up. It is true that this possibility cannot be ruled out. Perhaps, when they first entered school, some children did not understand what the exam was and did not know the techniques for solving the questions, which affected their true performance. But more often than not, this is your child\’s true level. You didn\’t know this before, just because you haven\’t taken the test like this before, and no one has made a horizontal comparison like this, so many problems have been covered up. Scores cannot be adulterated and are the best way to quantify the difference between a child and others. There is also a situation where some children\’s scores seem to be okay, but when compared with others in the class, they find that there is a big gap. At this time, parents need to understand the requirements of the class and school so that their children have clear goals for their efforts. 2. Find the reason. There must be a reason for a child\’s poor performance, so parents should analyze it carefully. If they cannot analyze it themselves, they can turn to their child\’s teachers and experts for help. Based on my work experience, I found that the main reasons for students’ poor performance are: first, weak preschool foundation. Parents adhere to the principle of \”play happily before going to school\” and do not teach their children anything before school. There is nothing wrong with teaching their children to read and write early. However, the children\’s curiosity, exploration ability and learning ability towards unfamiliar things are not only not cultivated, Instead, it was wiped out. This is not the most frightening thing. The most frightening thing is that there is little communication with the children, so the children\’s most basic listening, speaking and memory skills have not been developed, resulting in the children being unable to understand and remember in school. This type of child is already lagging behind at the starting line, but as long as he listens carefully, does his homework carefully, has good study habits, is willing to work hard, knows how to make progress, and can implement the new knowledge learned that day every day, he will soon catch up. . Second, the child is not very capable. Weak ability means that even if they are all children from scratch, some children have good concentration, some have poor concentration, some have long attention span, some have short attention span, and some have short attention span. You know, some children can remember it after listening to it, but some children can\’t do it. This is both innate and cultivated in life. It will definitely be much easier for children with strong abilities to learn, but if our children are not very capable, we must work hard to find a learning method suitable for our children and be prepared to work harder and harder. As the saying goes, stupid birds divide first. If the child is not very capable, then put in more effort. Others learn once and we learn twice, previewing before class and reviewing after class. Take it step by step in a down-to-earth manner, and time will not be unfair to those who work hard. Third, you have not developed good study habits. Some children do not study well not because of the first two reasons, but because of poor study habits. For example: It’s not that I don’t understand, it’s not that my understanding ability is poor, it’s that I don’t listen at all. It\’s not that some children can\’t write well or can\’t finish their homework, but they don\’t write seriously and don\’t take the time to write. It’s not that some children don’t know how to do this question, but they don’t read the question carefully when doing it. This type of child is actually the best to help, but parents need to pay more, accompany their children to study at home, prevent their children from taking advantage of loopholes, set clear requirements for their children in school, and check whether they are implemented every day, such as: Did you speak today? Have you finished your homework? Did you write it carefully? Did you get an excellent grade? Are there any mistakes? Why are they wrong? Have you corrected them? Have you corrected them correctly… But it is often the case that children with poor studies have all three of them. At this time, it is not just the children who are tested, but the parents. How much they can pay, how much perseverance they have, and whether they have skills. The determination of parents determines the power of action, the perseverance of parents determines how long they can persist, and the skills of parents determine whether actions can be effective. 3. Grasp the basics. For children like this who have poor learning, weak foundation, and weak abilities, my advice to parents is to focus on the basics and don’t try to cover everything. Take first grade as an example. In Chinese, read the text every day, read it correctly, and read it as many times as possible to become proficient. Print out a few more copies of the pinyin writing words given by the teacher. Write down where you learn every day. You can write them several times. When you have just learned this lesson, you can read and write it once, write it once without reading it, and do it again independently the next day. Put in a unit of words every week, once on Saturday and once on Sunday. In mathematics, I practice dozens of verbal arithmetic problems every day. If your child\’s attention span is too short, you can start with 5 items and gradually increase the number. Buy a book of worksheets and do one or two every day. 4. Practice less often and more frequently at home, focusing on actual results. However, some children are really too weak and too slow. It takes them several times that time to complete a task that can normally be completed in a few minutes. Then reduce the amount of tasks. Based on the child\’s reality, the guideline is Don\’t seek quantity, seek effect. Do one question correctly and read one sentence correctly. When the amount of tasks is reduced, the pressure on children is reduced, which is conducive to the normal development of practical abilities. If you have time, you can intersperse several tasks, such as learning math for 10 minutes, learning Chinese for 10 minutes, and give your child a short break of 10 minutes in between. Then do this again. If you encounter a situation where your child is stuck and can\’t figure it out no matter how hard you talk, quickly change the battlefield, change the content, and change the project. Don\’t be obsessed with it, don\’t get entangled, and don\’t waste time, energy, and emotions. Again, please note: What you want is the effect, not the time investment, but how much you have learned. Even if you learn a word, a word, or read a sentence of text, it is still a gain, and it is better than learning two sentences.hours, but it\’s much better to remember nothing. 5. Learn to analyze children’s problems. Parents should constantly improve themselves, improve their ability to control emotions, improve their ability to analyze their children\’s problems, and improve their ability to communicate with their children. Every day\’s homework and every test must be analyzed in depth to find out the child\’s real problems, instead of just finishing it and correcting it. If you improve your ability to control your emotions, you won\’t get angry because your children can\’t learn. If you improve your ability to analyze your children\’s problems, you won\’t do useless work. If you improve your ability to communicate with your children, you will be able to chat better with your children. Talking makes the child more convinced.