Tell your children that a life of taking advantage will only get narrower and narrower

It was originally a very happy thing to attend a friend\’s housewarming banquet, but during the meal, a mother and son at the same table disturbed the atmosphere of the whole table. The child especially likes to eat crabs. At first he took two crabs from the plate, and then he became more and more enthusiastic. When he saw there were three crabs left on the plate, he simply took them all into the bowl by himself, and also took the other plate of shrimps. past. Not only did his mother not stop her, but she also said happily: \”If you like to eat, eat more if you like.\” As long as there is something on the table that the child likes to eat, his mother will basically take away a lot of it. We looked at each other at the dinner table, although we didn\’t feel like it. I was very happy, but no one said anything. After all, it would be too fussy to say anything. Some people may think that children love to eat, so it’s okay to eat more, but after all, attending a banquet is not a meal at home. You can pamper your children, but there is no reason for others to pamper your children and take away all the food you like from the table. This is not Just taking advantage of others? Later, when we were having fun together at a friend\’s new home, I saw the little boy again. Those big round eyes looked everywhere, and when he saw a small object he liked, he hid it in his pocket, and his pocket was already bulging. I couldn\’t help but be surprised when I saw this scene. The child behaved so calmly, as if he was used to doing this. A few days after the banquet, I mentioned this incident while chatting with a friend. The friend complained that the boy’s mother was her colleague, and that the boy was nothing compared to his mother. His mother always likes to take advantage of the company. She takes home whatever she needs from the company, and rarely pays for dinners with colleagues. Probably because her mother’s bad habits have been too influential, and her children have imitated them. The boy is now In fact, all the uneducated behavior of taking advantage was \”inherited\” from his mother. Maybe those who love taking advantage will benefit themselves in the short term, but in the long run, if they are alienated or even disliked by others, their social circle will become narrower, and once they get used to taking advantage, they will have inertial thoughts and want to leave. Shortcuts are dangerous for both children and adults. When I went to a scenic spot before, children under 1.2 meters tall were free of charge. I heard the father in front of me discussing with his daughter: \”Squat down later and you won\’t need the ticket. This will save dad money.\” The daughter. But he said: \”But I am already more than 1.2 meters tall. The teacher said I can\’t lie to others, so I don\’t want to squat down.\” The child answered seriously. The father was obviously anxious: \”Are you stupid? You can save nothing by just squatting down.\” \”Then I would rather not go in. You can go on your own.\” The daughter was obviously annoyed by what her father said and said He ran away from the team, and his father had no choice but to chase him. The conversation between father and daughter in that scene left a very deep impression on me. I can understand the desire of the father, who has a heavy burden on the family, to save some money, but I admire the daughter who is unwilling to break the rules even more. She would rather give up the fun than agree. In her heart , already have a very clear understanding of what should be done and what should not be done. Sometimes, even if children are young, really, their hearts are really like a bright mirror. They use their little eyes to observe the surroundings and gradually gain their own understanding. I went to the supermarket to buy things before and sawThere were fresh longans in the fruit area, which looked very delicious, so I took one to my niece. She hesitated for a while and looked at my cousin. After a while, she shook her head and said no: \”Mom said you can only eat it after you pay.\” Auntie, let\’s buy some now and go out to the supermarket to eat.\” I had already stuffed a longan in my mouth at that time. Children are so self-disciplined to abide by the rules set by adults, but sometimes we ourselves can\’t do it. It\’s really a bit embarrassing when we think about it. ashamed. The cultivation of children\’s education is precisely hidden in these small details of life. Parents who are not careful may mistakenly affect their children\’s cognition. Some people think that taking advantage is just a matter of small things in life, but our lives are made up of these small things, which will affect everyone\’s life pattern. If you want your children to have a wider path in the future, \”not taking advantage\” is definitely a required course in life. . Children who love to take advantage are easily alienated. Any interpersonal interaction must be balanced. People who love to take advantage are more self-interested in interpersonal relationships. Of course, they will give less and have no sense of helping and caring for each other. In this case, children It is easy to arouse the resentment of others, lead to alienation, and even end up being isolated. Such a state is likely to have a great impact on the child\’s psychology. Children who love to take advantage have limited vision. Because they love to take advantage, they will pay more attention to immediate interests and focus their energy on what they can see. They think more about themselves and lose sight of others and the whole. This will lead to Children\’s pattern cognition is getting smaller and smaller, and they are unable to make correct choices and judgments about the future. They gain immediate benefits, which leads to bumpy roads in the future, or even going astray. In fact, it is not difficult to prevent children from developing the habit of taking advantage. When problems are discovered, guide them well and accompany them to practice this required course of \”not taking advantage.\” The first step: rectify the source and clear the source. What is meant by rectifying the source is to fundamentally rectify and clean up from the source. Children\’s understanding of the world comes from their parents, who are the objects of imitation by children. If parents always have this habit of taking advantage in life, children will naturally imitate and gradually form a fixed understanding. Know. Therefore, parents must self-examine and analyze themselves to see if their usual behavior may mislead their children, such as the father who wants his children to evade fares in scenic spots, or those parents who always feed their children food from supermarkets. As well as sharing some disgraceful deeds of plundering at home… These behaviors will subtly affect the child\’s psychology. If you want your children not to take advantage, you must be self-disciplined and set an example for your children, and don’t do things you can’t do. Step 2: Appropriately meet the child\’s needs and don\’t let the child become a trapped beast. Sometimes the child will want to take advantage and have an extraordinary desire for something. It may be because he is not satisfied in daily life, which leads him to use other things. way to satisfy yourself. My niece is in the first grade and the erasers she brings to school are always missing. After a lot of times, she attracts the attention of her cousin. After getting to know her, she discovered that the person who stole the erasers was a girl in the class. She always used the excuse of borrowing the erasers. Leave but never return. This girl was tortured because she repeatedly hoped that her parents would buy her nice-looking erasers.When she refused, she chose this method. In fact, when children have needs, parents can satisfy or comfort them a little, and children will not take things from others without returning them. Step 3: Establish awareness of rules. Let your children understand what they can and cannot do. Even if you like other people\’s things, you must get their permission before you can touch them and you cannot possess them at will. And let the child understand that if he takes other people\’s things at will, let him realize that this is a wrong behavior, and let the child understand that if he does not follow the rules, there will be corresponding punishment. For example, if parents find that their children have something that is not theirs, they should not just let it go, but let the children clearly explain the source of the things. If it was a gift from others, they should not misunderstand the child. Return it to its original owner and apologize. Of course, during the communication process, parents must communicate and discuss with their children carefully, and do not use a commanding tone or arouse the child\’s rebellious psychology.