Li Xiaolu is suspected of cheating: Tell your children these four points and they will benefit you for life

The entertainment industry has always been full of glamour, with constant shows on one side and revelations on the other. A few days ago, news of Li Xiaolu\’s suspected cheating detonated the entire Internet. The reason for the uproar is that they have always appeared in the public eye as a model couple, flaunting their love. But when Zhuo Wei showed pictures of her spending the night at Xiao Xianrou\’s house, public opinion immediately aroused. People who eat melons also instantly turned into Sherlock Holmes and activated the keyboard to \”catch rapes in the clouds\”. In fact, we are not just bystanders of gossip news, but more importantly, we see our own lives in it. As a mother, I have repeatedly witnessed suspected cheating incidents from friends around me or from gossips. I do not distinguish between true and false, and do not make moral judgments. I just want to talk about the warnings and thoughts about the incident from the perspective of children\’s education, hoping to bring correct views on love and marriage to children. The sense of boundaries is the first principle in heterosexual interactions. It can be seen from the exposed video that Li Xiaolu and PGONE first had a dinner together. After the meal, the two held hands and hugged their waists, and then they returned to the man\’s home together. Then I didn\’t go out all night. Yesterday afternoon, the parties involved spoke out and confirmed that it was a misunderstanding. Li Xiaolu also specifically emphasized that she will maintain a strict distance from any interactions with the opposite sex in the future. Not to mention whether the two people are real, but everything that happened has completely exceeded the boundaries between the so-called \”sister-in-law\” and \”brother.\” In any case, as a married woman, staying overnight at another man\’s house is very inappropriate and extremely embarrassing to her family. And for young girls, even if they are single, keeping a distance from other members of the opposite sex when they are not sure about accepting each other is the most basic respect for individuals and the most basic cultivation. Only if you respect yourself can you be qualified to win love. I remember that when I was in college, there was a female classmate who liked to tease boys very much. She already had a boyfriend, but when partying with other male classmates, she kept making all sorts of little moves, looking seductively in her eyes, and occasionally flirting openly. In the name of brother and sister or confidant, it is not taboo to hug and kiss each other or accept unnecessary help and care from them when having fun. We all looked embarrassed for her boyfriend. Later, her boyfriend couldn\’t bear it and asked for a breakup. He studied hard and went to the United States after graduation. He was thriving in school and had a smooth career. But because of this personality of my ex-girlfriend, she always had a mentality of eating out of the bowl and not forgetting the food in the pot. She had ambiguous relationships with many members of the opposite sex. I heard that one year she even caused a fight and almost resulted in a murder. In the end, the love situation changed, and the youth was gone and the ideal destination was not found. Therefore, dear child, when you grow up, you must remember the sense of boundaries in your interactions, so as to restrain your words and deeds, so as to reduce unnecessary troubles. Lies are the culprit of the murder of love. There is a very thought-provoking detail in this incident. Jia Nailiang was doing a live broadcast a few days ago. Some netizens asked where his wife was. He said that Li Xiaolu had gone to get her hair done. Even if it is true that both male and female best friends are present, chatting about hip-hop movie scripts all night long, it is understandable that the male best friend will escort him home the next day. But staying up all night to hang out with my best friends, and even lying to my husband about getting my hair done, this kind of deception is actually the most hurtful. Lies in relationships will cause suspicion to floatThe fallen feathers stop in my heart and feel itchy from time to time. Trust is the cornerstone of marriage. Once it is shaken, the foundation will be crumbling. There are also many people in life who have tasted the sweetness of lying when getting along with each other. Over time, they have developed a habit and lying has become a reflex skill. A friend once complained to me: She once loved her husband deeply and always felt that she was married to love. After only a few years of marriage, she discovered that he had lied many times. Once, she found his remittance records and wired some money to an old classmate. After cross-examination, she found out that it was the girl he had a crush on back then. She got divorced and was having a hard time; Then she went to Wuhan on a business trip, but later she found out that she took that girl with her. Although he repeatedly emphasized that he went out to relax and reminisce about old times and talk about life, and did nothing else; and there was no conclusive evidence that he had caught her in bed, her heart was already cold. After all, as Master Tai said: people\’s hearts gradually become colder, leaves gradually turn yellow, and stories slowly reach their ending. And love turns into no love because of too many disappointments. Thinking of Tong Liya, even if she was not divorced, she completely changed herself after the Chen Sicheng incident, cut her hair short, and lived a more beautiful version of herself. Even birthday wishes have become Chen Sicheng\’s personal show on Weibo, and she no longer has the dependence and affection she once had for him. In reality, ordinary people are different from the interests of celebrities. My friend\’s working ability is acceptable, although he does not choose to divorce without hesitation. But she completely sobered up and lived only for herself from then on, preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination, improving her career, and reshaping her cognition. She worked harder at thirty than at twenty. Under the same roof, she could never go back to the beginning. She said to improve her confidence that she can leave at any time, and leave the rest to time. I think that all children will grow up slowly, encounter love, and get married. Except for some forced white lies, other deceptions are unnecessary. Express yourself openly, communicate, and negotiate. Don\’t be self-righteous and underestimate other people\’s intelligence. Only then can life form a virtuous circle. No matter what you want to do, please face your heart rationally, be clear about your responsibilities and obligations, and don\’t lie or deceive. You should never love someone humbly. How hard was it for Jia Nailiang to pursue Li Xiaolu? Li Xiaolu was born into an acting family, with a very high starting point, and is young and beautiful. Jia Nailiang\’s initial pursuit of Li Xiaolu was always to look up to the goddess. At that time, he had a wishful and unrequited love. In order to please Li Xiaolu and follow her fashion ideas, he had more than ten ear piercings in a row, which caused inflammation; in order to defeat his competitors at the dinner table, he, who was not good at drinking, got drunk again and again; At the dinner party where he met Li Xiaolu\’s parents, he talked about his sad pursuit and cried, which moved her parents; he himself also made no secret of his deep love for Li Xiaolu on variety shows. He pursued her for more than a year with tenacious willpower and persistent actions. He even kissed the bride\’s feet and danced excitedly at the wedding. After getting married, he indulged his wife in all kinds of ways, doted on his wife with his strength, and worked hard to support his family through filming. But now it seems that it was Jia Nailiang\’s humble love that catalyzed Li Xiaolu\’s consistent princess mentality. Excessive pampering caused her to not know how to cherish. From the beginning, Li Xiaolu was a goddess in his heart. He lowered himself to the dust, holding in his heart \”She is better than me.\”The subconscious mind of \”noble, better conditions than me, I am higher than her\” made this love not equal from the beginning. I think of the writer Lao Yang who once wrote about his love story in college. At that time, she was just eating snacks in the dormitory. She is an ordinary goddess who watches American dramas, but he is the all-powerful student union president in the university and the prince who attracts attention on the stage. She has been in love with him for so long, and later she finally became his girlfriend through frequent contact. However, he despises her from the bottom of his heart. : Disliked the size of her thighs, laughed at her test scores, etc. She buried her inferiority complex deep in her heart, but she still firmly believed that there was still tenderness for her in his cruelty. She went to work hard, bought books for his postgraduate entrance exams, and served three meals a day. Taking care of all the housework. In the end, he didn\’t mention anything and only dropped a bomb: he was going abroad and had already been contacted. Without any discussion, she realized that this relationship was more of a theater for one person from beginning to end. Later She put her hatred on striving for success, exercised, learned English, went abroad, wrote, fought all the way, and became a best-selling author in the self-media. I hope every child entering adolescence will understand: If the other party gives you a The feeling of being superior, you never have to look up to or accommodate a humble love. Never compromise on principles again and again because you are afraid that the other person will leave, sacrificing yourself to fulfill the other person. Because the weaker you are, the more emboldened the other person will be. It will only care less about you. True love is mutual reciprocity, mutual attraction, and mutual fulfillment. Spend your time on more worthy people and things, learn, and develop yourself, and you will eventually meet someone who matches you. I am someone who will accompany you to watch the long flow of water. Your life needs inner spiritual nourishment. I believe that all viewers have no doubts about Jia Nailiang’s sincerity towards Li Xiaolu. The clip of his pursuit of Li Xiaolu spread all over the Internet. It is undeniable that Li Xiaolu’s fame and fortune in the first half of his life were all over the world. It came so smoothly, with beauty, family resources, love, and marriage all as perfect as a fairy tale. But even a star\’s life can never escape the worldly mediocrity. She also complained in public that Jia Nailiang was too busy at work and neglected her. Husband She is very busy, and her princess mentality also causes her to have a sense of disparity in marriage. In her career, she has not been able to produce any memorable works in these years, and she has opened a clothing Taobao store without any conspicuous designs, except for plastic surgery, street photography, and best friend shopping. Taking photos of beautiful photos, being obsessed with hip-hop style, etc., are basically lackluster. Life has been high and low, and Li Xiaolu, who has a mediocre tone with a good hand of cards, was photographed spending the night. In fact, it also shows the inner loneliness and inner loneliness of a middle-aged woman born in the 1980s. Emptiness and loneliness. After all, no matter how beautifully you dress up and have fun at parties every day, there is actually a deserted feeling after the prosperity. And in middle age, a person has to resist the inner restlessness and the panic of age. If he tries to maintain his beauty through plastic surgery, he will rely on hip-hop dancing. Stirring up the longing for youth and passion, and relying on flirting and flirting to return to the age of 18, is itself a way to quench thirst. After people are not short of money, it is difficult to fill their inner sense of lack and cope with it by relying solely on the outside. Chaotic desires actually need more spiritual nourishment. This nourishment is the mission that you truly love in your heart and are willing to be immersed in. This is what Zhang Ziyi calls \”faith\”, which is to be devoted to yourself with a mentality of faith. Interesting thingsAnd keep improving. It can be acting with heart, writing deeply, reading deeply, concentrating on music, or practicing intoxication. It can be the life energy that enables you to get rid of nothingness, accept loneliness, and live quietly with yourself. This is also the best way to release desire. It is a pity that Li Xiaolu has not achieved \”carefulness and concentration\” in any field over the years, which leads to restlessness in middle age. I once had a girlfriend who said that she fell in love with a colleague platonically because of the emptiness and frustration in her marriage. She was in a state of confusion over whether to take a practical step. During the most difficult time, it was the reading habit developed since childhood that saved her. She simply gave up on making any decision, so as not to make a wrong step. After taking leave, she buried herself in a pile of books and read crazily, absorbing the essence of ancient and modern Chinese and foreign. After reading for two months, she felt silent in her heart. I have been able to rationally know what I want, what responsibilities I can bear, and make choices that are more beneficial to me. Later, she resigned decisively, changed to a new industry, and devoted herself to work. She filled her inner lack with the pursuit of career and learning, and began to learn to objectively examine herself. Therefore, my dear child, in the process of growing up, it is very meaningful to truly devote yourself to something you love deeply and focus on it regardless of any utilitarian gains or losses. Once the love from the heart when you are young is internalized into a continuous habit, it can make you look at the gains and losses of honor and disgrace in adulthood calmly, and it will become a warm and strong foundation, helping you enrich and nourish your inner self.