The most common topics that poison children

Chinese people spend a lot of money educating their children. This may be an important reason why China can maintain sufficient competitiveness. Each generation gathers the wealth and spirit of the previous generation. And an outstanding child can benefit not only his parents and family, but even a whole generation. Crazy competition for resources from excellent schools has led to soaring housing prices in school districts. This is a Chinese characteristic. This is the modern version of Meng\’s mother\’s three moves, except that it is difficult for modern Meng\’s mother to move, and the relocation is not that easy. Nearly ten years ago, I was asked in an interview: Will the world get better? By then I was already a rational optimist. As you slowly see through the nature of the world, you will become a firm rational optimist. My answer is: the world will get better. This is the brief reason I gave: the traitors, the petty thieves and the like will not teach their children to set fire and kill people at home. Just like good people, they will teach them the principles of nature and good customs. All human children have good basic education. Of course, children are most influenced by their parents after all, and the strengths and weaknesses, temperament and character of their parents must be reflected in their children to some extent. Children\’s most important teachers are their parents. Schools and teachers can only play a supporting role. Educating children is equivalent to self-education by parents. Parents are degenerating and expecting their children to fly is equivalent to tying stones to the wings of a bird. How can it fly? Robbery and theft, this level of depravity, everyone knows is not good, but it is easier to avoid. Some small depravity, with small advantages, small luck, small joy, which occur frequently in family life, are the real poison. Over time, children may not take the correct truths told by their parents seriously. There is such a message: Several adults discussed this matter, and the children watched the whole process. They damaged other people\’s belongings and took the initiative to compensate. They were teased and regarded as having low emotional intelligence. It was purely negative. The people who did the right thing were disgraced. I really think I have low emotional intelligence. When this child grows up and faces the same situation, of course he has to show the so-called \”high emotional intelligence\”. The routine of dealing with it is as follows: 1. Although we damage other people\’s belongings, we will never admit our mistakes first if they don\’t claim compensation; 2. Even if we damage other people\’s belongings, we will never admit our mistakes first. Don\’t admit that you are wrong. You can change the focus and turn the problem into criticizing the other party for being intolerant. With such a thick skin and such sophistry, in this kind of incident, he will definitely be able to take advantage of it and save a few dollars in compensation. How much is a cup in an average hotel worth? You have revealed that you don\’t want to pay compensation, so I guess the hotel owner will just forget it and won\’t argue with you. I have no doubt that you can use the same strategy to take advantage of this kind of advantage again and again. Three yuan here, five yuan there. In total, you can get three to five thousand yuan in your lifetime. This kind of pleasure of taking advantage of small things is universal. Rockefeller also advised his son not to do this kind of thing in his family letters. Big entrepreneurs should never have the joy of taking advantage of small things. Looking back on his difficult early life, I don\’t have any mentality of taking advantage, let alone being complacent in front of my children. This girl who took the initiative to compensate for the losses is a noble person, a good educator, and a Rockefeller-level person. She is the one with truly high emotional intelligence. Damage other people\’s property, owe others because of small value, cheat and quibble, most of them can evade responsibility and take advantage of this. This is low emotional intelligence. You have ruined the child\’s pattern and made him become like you. Many parents and elders beam with joy when talking about taking advantage in front of their children. This is simply the norm in the family. What is the future for children who grow up in such an atmosphere? If this happens to you, and the hotel owner is tolerant and does not allow you to compensate, I also suggest that you sincerely apologize and insist on compensation. Because this is teaching children to be reasonable and responsible. Only parents can truly destroy their children. All parents should be like Rockefeller and be ashamed of taking advantage at home.