The child who thinks his family is poor is so sensible that it makes people feel bad

We often hope that our children will be more sensible. But sometimes, children\’s sensibleness makes us feel distressed. I remember one of my best playmates as a child was always worried when we played together. Being sensible, he felt that he should share the worries of his family instead of adding burden to them. He has always wanted to be favored by his parents since he was a child. You must know that he is our famous well-behaved and sensible person. He can do all kinds of housework. He can catch fish in the river and chop firewood in the mountains. He is very capable. So when he was in his second year of high school, he said that he didn\’t want to study anymore because his family didn\’t have enough money for him to study anyway. Although his grades at the time were very promising for him to get into college, the teachers tried their best to persuade him to stay. But he firmly chose to drop out of school. After having this idea, he began to plan his own life. He said that he could learn some skills and become a skilled worker and live a good life. He also said that he could go to work and at least help his family save some money. So he dropped out of school without taking the college entrance examination. After so many years, when I close my eyes, I still think of the way he said goodbye to me. Looking at his back carrying the bag and walking out of the school gate, his eyes were blurry with tears. After many years, I realized that sensible children are really pitiful. When a child asks you worriedly one day: \”Is our family very poor?\”, how should we answer? Some time ago, I received a letter from a mother: I have a boy at home who is 9 years old this year. The situation at home is not bad. But my son often thinks that I am poor. They always say that I have a hard time and that I am very pitiful, but I am not pitiful at all and I don’t feel hard at all. I am very happy. My husband is often away from home, doing business with friends. I work locally and earn enough money for me and my children. My mother-in-law and I don\’t get along very well. So I take care of my son\’s daily life by myself, and I do a good job. I also occasionally take him out to eat, buy him toys, and most of all, books. He is very happy. There are not many toys and snacks, but they are all available intermittently. I also take him to watch movies. Take him to the supermarket and he always picks the cheap ones. I also corrected him and bought something suitable and cost-effective, but he always thought it was expensive and said I didn\’t have much money. When the school ordered magazines, he also picked cheap ones. I suggested that he choose the subjects he was interested in and not worry about the price. He said it would cost me so much money. These don\’t cost much, he always thinks about this issue. I said don’t think about money, children don’t have to worry about this, I can afford it. Besides, it’s absolutely right for adults to raise children. Children should just enjoy it. I think. Does he always feel that I support our lives alone, and feels sorry for me? He knows how to be grateful, hugs me often, and is very obedient. However, I think we need to improve his understanding of poverty and let him choose what he wants with confidence. If he always thinks that I am poor and cheap, his future happiness and confidence will definitely be compromised. When I received this letter, my heart was a little heavy. Because such a child really makes people feel distressed. This is a sensible child because he can understand his mother\’s difficulties. But sensible children always make people feel distressed. They think they choose cheap ones for everything, thinking that this can reduce the burden on the family.burden. There is an Iranian movie \”Little Shoes\” that every parent should watch. I read it with heart-wrenching heart and was moved by the kindness and innocence in it. I was almost suffocated by the poverty inside. The story of the film is very simple, about two children and a pair of shoes. The little brother accidentally lost his sister\’s only pair of shoes. My father worked very hard and earned very little, my mother was seriously ill, and there was a little baby waiting to be fed. The rent is also delayed again and again, and I am almost living on the street. The family really doesn\’t have any money left to buy a pair of shoes. The sensible brother and sister did not dare to tell their parents about the missing shoes, so they decided to take turns wearing their brother\’s old running shoes to school every day. In order to change their shoes in time, the brother and sister ran through the alleys of Iran. Even though the two sensible children in the film have won dignity through their own efforts. But the younger sister who takes on housework too early is like an older brother. It hurts everywhere. Letting young children worry about the family\’s financial situation will cause great stress and insecurity in the children. Some children even feel that studying will cost their families a lot of money, so they don’t want to study. They hope to earn money early so that their families can live a better life. However, if you don’t study hard, how much money can you make? But the child\’s thoughts are very simple, that is, he does not want to add a burden to the family. The problem mentioned by the mother in the previous article still lies in daily life. The father of the child does not intervene much and there is no one to help take care of the child. The mother works hard to take care of the child alone, which causes such cognitive bias in the child. It is recommended that you and the father of the child have a thorough discussion with the child at home, which is equivalent to a small family meeting. Be sure to call the father and talk to him about the child\’s situation. Because what your mother says will make your child feel that you are trying to comfort him. At family meetings, you can tell your child that you have prepared enough money for him to study and enough pocket money for family expenses. We don’t spend money indiscriminately, but we don’t save what we should spend. Such as suitable clothes, books, and tutoring in your favorite subjects. These are what parents are willing to do for you, and they are also what we can do. Give your child a clear and positive reassurance. Let him correct his perception that his family is poor. When parents give their children love, commitment and encouragement, they ensure their inner peace. In this way, they will grow better. In addition, your children think you are very pitiful, but you yourself do not feel pitiful at all, nor do you feel hard, and you are very happy. Then you have to show it in your life, because children often secretly follow your every move. Such as your positive attitude and the smile on your face. There are also some festivals that must have a sense of ritual. Buy some gifts for yourself to let your children feel your attitude. Usually avoid complaining negatively in front of your children, and never \”cry poverty\” with your children. When children talk about wealth or poverty, we have to tell them: \”No matter what happens in the world, your parents will protect you, let you go to school, and let you live a good life. Don\’t worry at all, because your parents can make money. I believe you will grow up You can also make money by yourself. As long as you study hard, you will definitely do it.\” I hope the sensible children can be happy!